Capricorn traits...or just guys being guys

I'm seeing this Cap guy, and I like him a lot. I'm a virgo. Known to be analytical. So I've been reading up on Caps to see if it would help me understand him. He's single, in his late 30s, smart, ambitious and kind of reserved. Well there are some common traits that keep popping up:

Reserved
Cautious
Needs space
Loners
Lazy in romance
Tests people
Slow to trust
Disappearing acts
Reappearing acts

So based partially on What I read I've been forward, complementing, reassuring, and a bit affectionate. A "miss u" here, a "thinking of u" there. I don't usually do too much affection, and I don't think he likes it too much. Maybe it puts too much pressure. I think regardless of sign, a woman who chases or tries to keep things moving is off-putting. A lot of astrology sites say that with Cap men, a woman might have to pursue a bit, but I am starting not to believe that. Whenever I back off, give him space and don't reveal too much in the way of emotion, I get a better response from this Cap man. And this seems to be universal among guys. How much insight can his sun sign give?

actually his moon sign would be more helpful for you to gauge the nature of his emotional responses.

Giiiirl, these Cap men are a piece of work........

If they're lazy in love, its because they don't like you as much!

Polite? Gentleman? How about they leave u hanging n that's rude as fuck!! Jerks.

True, they could be taking their time but I suggest you learn to differentiate between that and having the wool pulled over your eyes.

If a Libra does something its because he's cheating n is a player.. If its Pisces, its cus they're too in their world.. Ha. Its not fair that Cap gets.a get outta jail free card just because their sign is assumed to be the most hard working. Bs.

How many times is one supposed to take getting burned by a Cap so that the Cap knows they're trustworthy? Not cool. They test and test you without remorse to see if youre stupid or needy enough to stick around and take their beating. Ugh.

I don't mean for that to sound harsh (yes, I do) but I'm dealing with my 2nd lame ass Cap. I'm sick of this shit because I wouldn't play them like that... Karmas a bitch.

Posted by Peanutbutter
True, they could be taking their time but I suggest you learn to differentiate between that and having the wool pulled over your eyes.

If a Libra does something its because he's cheating n is a player.. If its Pisces, its cus they're too in their world.. Ha. Its not fair that Cap gets.a get outta jail free card just because their sign is assumed to be the most hard working. Bs.

Virgo men have their fair share of complaints due to the same behavior(disappearing etc).

I don't think it's fair for any of them to do it, but I don't think it's a crime to ask the reason for it. If you communicate to him that you don't like it, or at least see where he's coming from then maybe things will get better. If not then you know that he's not the one for you.

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Posted by Peanutbutter
True, they could be taking their time but I suggest you learn to differentiate between that and having the wool pulled over your eyes.

If a Libra does something its because he's cheating n is a player.. If its Pisces, its cus they're too in their world.. Ha. Its not fair that Cap gets.a get outta jail free card just because their sign is assumed to be the most hard working. Bs.

Virgo men have their fair share of complaints due to the same behavior(disappearing etc).

I don't think it's fair for any of them to do it, but I don't think it's a crime to ask the reason for it. If you communicate to him that you don't like it, or at least see where he's coming from then maybe things will get better. If not then you know that he's not the one for you.

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ITA. Tell him how u feel. Seriously. Caps like upstraight honesty about anything, just like virgo's. Don't be a push over with a Cap. Cap's like strong people.

Well, I sent him a text telling him just how I felt. I good him he was a jerk for leaving me.hanging..

Is it so hard to have some common courtesy? Like I seriously dont care if he considers.me to be dating material or not, because I certainly don't see him that way, its just fucking rude to say you're gunna be there and then flake out... I deleted his number already, I really don't give half a shit about him.

Is it so damn hard to be like "hey, f u. I'm not gunna see u" or "hey, I dint wanna hangout tonight/ with u" SOMETHING.

I'm seriously pissed off about it, were not goddamn school children to be playing these games. He's nearing 30... I seem to ask myself more frequently than not at what age they (Caps/ guys in general) mature? Geezus.

Omg.....

I'm sorry for all the anger/rants I've been posting around here lately..
I seriously need to get laid lol!

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Posted by Peanutbutter
How many times is one supposed to take getting burned by a Cap so that the Cap knows they're trustworthy? Not cool. They test and test you without remorse to see if youre stupid or needy enough to stick around and take their beating. Ugh.

I don't mean for that to sound harsh (yes, I do) but I'm dealing with my 2nd lame ass Cap. I'm sick of this shit because I wouldn't play them like that... Karmas a bitch.

So why should his attitude in the relationship be any more optimistic than yours?

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We do pick up on the vibes people give out.
Seriously, if you have this attitude about Capricorn men, don't go out with any more of them.

You would feel like shit for being bitchy about it if in-fact the reason was something happened to him, one of his family members, or best friend. And, yeah, you would def take a back seat to that and not necessarily be contacted if he were under duress or in the hospital.

Did you ever think that maybe he's lost/broke his phone. It does happen!

On the other hand, maybe something better came up. Maybe he simply forgot. Or, maybe he realized that you're just not good enough and he wasn't going to waste his time...

But, you were quick to jump to your own conclusions regardless and decide he was simply being rude rather than taking into account that there could be a legitimate reason. An insecure and selfish way to address the fact that he didn't show. My point, you do not know the what or the why so you shouldn't have gotten your panties all in a wad. Until you knew anything your first thoughts should have been of concern not contempt.

You come across as very self-centered. One thing you have eluded to that are right about, a Cap is not the type of guy for you...

*you are right about

Nah, if someone flakes on me I'd be pissed too. I'm guessing PB the two of you were suppose to go somewhere and he didn't show? That doesn't sound very Cap like, I don't think, nor does it sound like a game-winning strategy. There had to be solid reason behind it, but if it ain't worth hearing then yeah, it's probably best to blow off the steam and keep it moving.

He didn't give me a reason the first time. Rude.
He didn't give me a reason the 2nd. Dickish.

I am def. not insecure or self centered, I would have showed him the same courtesy I'm expecting, he's not an idiot, he has a BS... But that prolly stands for BULLSHITTER anyway!!

Yeah its a diff one.. Idk this Caps bday. I already told him off though so I'm jot even worried about his tired ass anymore... Just letting out some steam (thanks dxp! Lol) Mufukin next!

Oh wait were u talking to the OP? Idk..

Why would he need to give you a reason for not calling? What makes you so 'special'? Why does it matter to you what he does? Reeks of insecurity, puts any cap off. Too clingy.

Posted by seraph

Posted by Peanutbutter
True, they could be taking their time but I suggest you learn to differentiate between that and having the wool pulled over your eyes.

If a Libra does something its because he's cheating n is a player.. If its Pisces, its cus they're too in their world.. Ha. Its not fair that Cap gets.a get outta jail free card just because their sign is assumed to be the most hard working. Bs.

We can spin traits in many ways, especially when we're defending our sign that we love oh so very much. 😉

rampant egotism = confidence you can believe in

laziness/slow to commit = building a solid foundation of trust over time

moody, emotional outbursts that hurt others = artistic expression that needs space and freedom

But this is also part of the fun. dxp is an interesting study in psych.

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That it is my friend, that it def is.

And M, you're right Caps aren't for me. I'm drawn more to Water & Fire.. Earth is just not my cup of tea, tho my current bestie happens to be a young Virgo stud... Lol. I guess were better off as friends.. Bedroom mates? Water n fire, always lol

I understand Peanutbutters frustration. She's getting "mixed signals" that tell her this guy is not serious about her.

I also was thinking I was getting mixed signals, and I was attributing it to his sun sign, or his chart or whatever. But looking at it objectively I can't sit here and say, "he's slow to trust", or "building" or "scared" because hes a Cap. But I really think he just doesn't want to be serious with me in particular. All the signs are there.

I once dated two Sags, one after the other. The first one was not into me in a serious way. The second one was talking marriage after a month of dating me. Sags are the freedom lovers who fear settling down, supposedly...

What I'm saying is that if a man likes you, you shouldn't have to guess, even if he's a Cap

I understand Peanutbutters frustration. She's getting "mixed signals" that tell her this guy is not serious about her.

I also was thinking I was getting mixed signals, and I was attributing it to his sun sign, or his chart or whatever. But looking at it objectively I can't sit here and say, "he's slow to trust", or "building" or "scared" because hes a Cap. But I really think he just doesn't want to be serious with me in particular. All the signs are there.

I once dated two Sags, one after the other. The first one was not into me in a serious way. The second one was talking marriage after a month of dating me. Sags are the freedom lovers who fear settling down, supposedly...

What I'm saying is that if a man likes you, you shouldn't have to guess, even if he's a Cap

" What I'm saying is that if a man likes you, you shouldn't have to guess, even if he's a Cap"

Yep.

Posted by Peanutbutter
He didn't give me a reason the first time. Rude.
He didn't give me a reason the 2nd. Dickish.

I am def. not insecure or self centered, I would have showed him the same courtesy I'm expecting, he's not an idiot, he has a BS... But that prolly stands for BULLSHITTER anyway!!

PB, I'm also dealing with a cappy guy rite now. However whenever I feel hurt *when he's too busy with his work* I really want to ask him why he ignore me. But I couldnt and tht caused me thinking a lot of negative things abt him. Until one day I ask him and to my surprise, he explain everything to me and apologize for his action.

Have u asked him directly why he acted like tht?

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Posted by Peanutbutter
He didn't give me a reason the first time. Rude.
He didn't give me a reason the 2nd. Dickish.

I am def. not insecure or self centered, I would have showed him the same courtesy I'm expecting, he's not an idiot, he has a BS... But that prolly stands for BULLSHITTER anyway!!

PB, I'm also dealing with a cappy guy rite now. However whenever I feel hurt *when he's too busy with his work* I really want to ask him why he ignore me. But I couldnt and tht caused me thinking a lot of negative things abt him. Until one day I ask him and to my surprise, he explain everything to me and apologize for his action.

Have u asked him directly why he acted like tht?

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Nope.. see, I have a very fiery chart and completely jumped down his throat about it. I was pissed and failed to ask him for an explanation because he had done it to me previously already so I didn't care for one this time around. A flake is a flake is a flake is a flake.... It's a no go in my book. Perhaps we would still be talking if he had explained.and came up w/ a viable reason but I still woulda been pissed and that wouldn't have been pretty so I decided to make his ass kick rocks. He's back on the dating site we met on, and I've.moved on to an awesome Virgo so its w/e. His loss not mine.

Good luck with the Virgo. Hope it works out better for you.

Hi.......I am requesting all 2 gv me some suggestions 2 deal wd my cappy man.We first found each other from a matrimonial site.Then we started chatting,talking on phone ......and gradually we fell in love wd each other.He confessed his love to me many times(ofcourse not everyday as dats not cap trait!!).We met personally 4 months ago and we saw each other for the first time.....I quite liked him and when I asked him later he also confessed his likings(He's bit shy 2 express his feelings....but smtimes out from the blue he expresses his affection 2wards me).Our parents agreed on our marriage in 2012 and along wd my parents I moved back 2 my country as we belong 2 different nations.Now ....from the beginning of 2012 he has been facing some probs such as argument wd family,labour prob in his company and our marriage is being delayed.For last 1 week I am asking him to know the exact docs needed 4 registration in case of marrying a foreigner but everyday whenever I asked him abt it.......he said..he had sm prob in company but he wud surely get the info.Day before yesterday he was supposed 2 gather the info n inform me....but he msged dat he had 2 leave 4 friend's marriage party,he'll b back next day @ late night and then he will hv talk wd me.The next night means tonight I waited 4 his msg....but dd'nt get any msg 4m him.I ddn't msg him as I knw he hates clingy ppl.Now I am confused....

1)Is he really interested 2 marry me?.....Often we talk abt our life after marriage or plans 2 b executed after marriage.2 days b4 he said He really loves me...n loves only me.My heart says he is being honest 2 me n he is really interested in our marriage.His family like me very much n I know cappy man prefers 2 marry d gal approved by his family.
2)What sud I do at this point?....sud I push him again 2 get the info needed 4 marriage or wait?
3)I hv heard once a cappy man confesses love ,he keeps loyal 2 d gal.....but donno y smtimes I get worried dat he might b ditching me as he is delaying our marriage...how 2 know dat he is ditching me at all?

Please help......m a virgo sun,capricorn moon.

sorry....smhow I posted same message 3ce ....so hidden d last 2....but plzzzz help!

My man is a Capricon and his moon is in Virgo 🙂 ..Hes very clean,and analyzes alot!