Caps unhanded nature

My roommate has been dating this Cap guy for the past few months now. They met in a bar, went home together, and have been dating ever since. He's 14 years older than her, going through a divorce, and has 2 young children. From day one this guy has givin me the absolute creeps. He is very pushy, and embodies an Eddie Haskel vibe about him. My roommate is very sweet (Taurus) and a bit oblivious to most obvious things. He has givin me suggestive looks in the past, and has asked me for my number through a couple of emails. I have not responded to any of them. I have not talked to my roommate about any of this because I don't know what's going on. I am very protective of my friend. 2 weeks for they started dating, she was in a mental hospital. I don't want to open up a can of worms when I'm not sure if there are worms inside. I have started looking for a new place to live. Any Caps out there with any advice?

this is just me, but i think you should talk to her and see where she stands with this guy. if she takes him at all seriously i would enlighten her a bit to what he's like. i only say this because i always expect my friends to do the same for me. i have had the tendency in the past, to get a bit carried away with a guy i like, and tend to ignore blaring red flags. so i've depended on close friends to give me their honest opinion. i do it for them if i think he's sketchy.

Hmmmm this is a tough one. I know she just got out the mental hospital but the truth is the truth. part of recovery from psychological issues is dealing with the reality of life in a positive way.

It can get really ugly especially with you living there. And the guy might deny deny deny (which they often do). You owe your friend the truth and like Cancergem I have been deep in with a guy where I don't see the red flags, EVEN with friends advice.

Plus Tauruses tend to be very stubborn...so proceed with caution. IMO, I would want to get the heck out of dodge before really starting that war, but if you feel you can't hold in any more and handle the backlash, then go for it.

But prepare for some resentment from your friend. Unfortunately some women are blind to douchebagness and she is probably kind of lonely and want some loving. But I hope it works out well. :-)

Scorp is right about the chance that she could turn on you. i was in this position this past year with my bestfriend/roommate. this guy was blatantly cheating on her. there was so much evidence because he was so sloppy about it and knew all he had to do was act like he was just joking and that he was sorry and she'd take him back. i had finally had enough and confronted her in what i thought was a very safe way. i made sure to not accidentally offend her and at the end of our convo she even thanked me. then i find out through our other friend that she was furious with me because i didn't "understand" their "relationship" and apparently i was super rude and didn't know him like she did. i almost left the friendship behind. she eventually dumped him when she found even more disgusting messages that he had been sending exes and girls he used to hook up with.

either way, i still think you should tell her but like the girls mentioned, tread lightly.

Posted by scorpiogemini
My roommate has been dating this Cap guy for the past few months now. They met in a bar, went home together, and have been dating ever since. He's 14 years older than her, going through a divorce, and has 2 young children. From day one this guy has givin me the absolute creeps. He is very pushy, and embodies an Eddie Haskel vibe about him. My roommate is very sweet (Taurus) and a bit oblivious to most obvious things. He has givin me suggestive looks in the past, and has asked me for my number through a couple of emails. I have not responded to any of them. I have not talked to my roommate about any of this because I don't know what's going on. I am very protective of my friend. 2 weeks for they started dating, she was in a mental hospital. I don't want to open up a can of worms when I'm not sure if there are worms inside. I have started looking for a new place to live. Any Caps out there with any advice?

So after getting out of a mental hospital, she met a married guy at a bar, they went home together that night, they are currently dating and now he wants to get with you. If you choose to tell her, then at that point you will unintentionally put her in a position to choose between you or him. Guess what it wont be you, because she is desperate for a man (look at the one she chose). I would just move. Telling her will not be worth the trouble it will bring.

Yeah, I'm lookin for a place to move asap. My gut feeling is that she won't listen to me, and I would never want to hurt her. There's a 10 year age difference between us, and she looks up to me. She has lived a bit of a sheltered life so far, and I recognized that as soon as I met her. For a while I ran underneath her with a net so that she wouldn't get hurt. BIG MISTAKE. That's how she got there in the first place. I do think she's gonna have to go through this herself..all the way.
As for him wanting to "get with me", I don't feel like that's the case, but there's definitely something so inappropriate about his behavior towards me. When he first started coming around I had a bad feeling about him, but I didn't know if I was just being overly protective of my friend. So I decided to give him a chance and have some conversation with him. Caps and Scorps have very good convos, I have to say. I decided to shake off what negative feelings I was having and see how it went. That bad feeling quickly returned.
Everything you guys are saying is exactly what I have been going over in my head. My prediction is that when I move out, he will move in. Did I mention that right after they started dating he moved 4 houses down from us? Yeah.