Posted by ninjamu
^^ Bullbutter. All Cancers are emotional unless they are wrought with a ton of earthy placements.
Anyway, not liking the bashing? OK. I'm a Leo and let's see how treetrunked they are:
-attention just like mes
There's more I'm sure. I hope this makes you feel better!
Posted by krysrenee7Posted by sweethearts
@ Kry, I've seen you say a few times that you had blocked P??? Did you unblock her?
No. Back then, she got on my last nerves & I don't have any reason to believe that he/she has changed one bit, so yes P Angel is still blocked on my end.
I think what it all boils down to is this: We can all sit here all day & over-analyze this whole situation. Truth is, it is what it is. Everyone in this situation is going about things in the best way they know how. Everyone's different methods/ways for which they go about handling things may clash but at the end of the day, what you see is what you get.
There could be 1 million things Cand is doing wrong & there could be another 1 million things her roomate & girlfriend are doing wrong and/or things they could all be doing better. BUT, as long as the friendship is still there & as long as you still have access to her, that's all that matters.
A person cannot change what they refuse to acknowledge. And no matter how much someone else's decision(s) annoy us, we will only drive ourselves crazy trying to change something or "wish" before the people with the real power are even ready to.
Cand...you have very valid concerns. You're like the average friend or family member or parent, etc. who can't really get a full night's worth of sleep b/c your loved one isn't in the healthiest relationship/situation. Of course, sometimes you might take things a little too personal & you might be harping on things you can't & won't ever be able to control, BUT you do have valid concerns, so don't start 2nd guessing yourself. How you feel is how you feel. How you perceive things is how you perceive things. It's not about changing how you feel; it's about ACCEPTING what is!
After awhile, you just have to accept what is. There are 1 million "What ifs" & "I wish's" here but you'll all drive yourself nuts trying to harp on something neither of you can control...well atleast not for right now. Just keep doing you. Just HOPE & assume that your friend will come back to planet earth one day soon & hopefully before it's too late. In the meantime, just keep being her support system & accept things as they are
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Posted by AmandusPosted by P-Angel
Take on a little acting part in a play .. be the villian .... face being an marker publicly just to try it on and see how it feels, and this way, it's you doing it, it's the character, so there can't be any anxieties about how you present yourself.
Being a villian in a play sounds like a very good idea.
Haha. But much like your husband I lack in the confidence department. Theres always the video games that I have where I get to kill people and feel good about it.
I did find though that when I'm using my heart for anything that isn't dark I forget that I have any anxiety. Like when I'm writing romances I feel wonderful.
Thats what I should be doing right now actually. I still didn't finish that story I came here to do research for. Made the good mistake of signing myself up.
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Posted by shellshocker
I just returned from a 3 week *silent period*. This one was relatively short and I received minimal slack for the disappearance. Well... almost.
There are always consequences for these MIA sessions. Hurt feelings, misunderstandings and the like so it's not like we can just get away with it. The Piper must be paid.