Confused

I met a Cap guy about 4 months ago - much younger than me - through a mutual interest. We have had quite a few intelligent (and amusing) conversations during this time and I quite soon became very attracted to him.
He seems to have a lot of problems in his life and with a lot of prompting from myself, he told me quite a lot about himself. I am a typical Cancer woman and I promised him help, support and affection - which I truly mean.
He told me he had feelings for me but he wasn't sure what they were....our last conversation (not face to face) was very loving and open. He now seems to have disappeared off the face of the earth. No contact at all for days - I don't know where he is or what he is doing. Anybody shed any light on this? I am suffering.

Hi,

Unfortunately, I think he might be scared. The cap that I know does not give out information and feelings very easily to others. With me he does because he trusts me. I think your cap is confused himself. He might have given you too much information about his feelings and has to deal with his own conflict of what he truly is feeling. Caps, from what I have experienced, are very scared of giving trust to anyone. So if you truly have feelings for him, my advice is be patient and him figure out that you can be trusted. He will take a bit though.
This is only from what I have experienced, so I hopes it has helped.

Try to take care,
Mt_Moonshine

Thanks so much for replying.
I guess I'm lucky that he trusted me enough at the time to tell me the things he did. I have actually heard from him again since I wrote this post.
He seemed very depressed. I hope I responded in the right way to make him feel better about himself - he seems to me to be very insecure. The last mail I received sounded more positive and held some lovely words. I guess I will be patient, give him space and hope for the best. 🙂
Thanks again for response.
Much love.

I cannot tell you what happened in your situation and I am sorry you are suffering. I can say I am dating a Capricorn who has similar behavior. Things have gone well though I am nervous about his latest round of distant behavior. I want to be patent and have him in my life but need my needs met too.

I would say you should not obsess too much about this guy. If he is not acknowledging you enough to contact you, forget him. Do not make excuses for him! It is too bad but YOU are not his therapist. He is an adult and if he wants to experience all that you have to offer, he needs to pick up the phone and contact you. Move on. Hard as that is, it will get much easier with time.

I'm involved with a Capricorn and I can tell you through experience that they need their space sometimes. For some reason it doesn't occur to them that their lack of communication for days tends to worry us. I have learned that they don't like to feel that they have to "check in" on a a regular basis. I find if I wait, he'll eventually call and fill me in on what they've been doing. I guess they expect us to understand that they don't feel the need to have constant contact. I know he loves me and so I give him his space and we get along find.

They tend to try to fix things themselves and sort of speak "suck it up" and deal with it alone. I know it will be hard but if there is truly something there be patient and wait. It will be worth the wait. Then things will be much better for you.

Have a great day,
Mt_Moonshine

I had absolutely the same experience with a Capricorn man...we started slow and steady and after 1 year of graduated trust, he told me all of sudden "I love you so much"...and shortly after that he vanished into the air...I didn`t hear from him for about a month, i sent him some very nice e-mails...just to show him I was thinking of him...and he popped up again all smiled and happy....the "dissappearence factor" with Capricorns are very common..I know at least 4 women with similar problems with their capricorn mates...don`t worry, if he loves you- he wil be soon back

funny, i'm a capricorn.. and i related to the disappearance thing.... never thought about it before... i can't speak for anyone else but i think i myself do this same thing and it has something to do with longevity.... do you still want me after the rush has gone—
i didn't realise that i did this before ... but now see i do it all the time...... capricorns use time to gather trust i think...