CONTRADICTION

Bacii ( kisses ) for all my Cappie-friends🙂
Maybe you can clear a topic for me.this is what the contradiction is about: I keep reading that Cappies are not fond of socializing,of crowded places and like to keep their privacy and enjoy very much solitude.but how does these tendencies rime with the need for social succes and for acceptance and very good public image?!?How can you wish for other people to think high of you and in the same time keep the distance and retire from the public stage?
Grazie molto for making things clear for me & others who might be curious about this .
Bella

It may appear like a contradiction but they work it out quite easily -

When they do go out, they will tend to go to the trendiest but not too crowded place - like best restaurant, best pub, best club etc.
They will have impeccable manners and be a gracious host or hostess.
They will tip (not too much mind you! they aren't stingy but they do keep a tight hold on money and savings) and that is how they climb the ladder to success.
They will never make a fool of themselves in public or raise their voice or cause any undue attention to themselves.
They are not social butterflys - but instead they let the butterflys come to them.
They are always dignified and have an air of authority about them -
They're the best:-) I love them to bits:-)
Ciao pal.
Alana x

Alana, I couldn't have possibly said it any better. What sign are you by the way?
😉
kiwigrl

I am a social Capricorn, the closer you get to the 20th of january the more social you are born on the 15th I like people , Of course I am the king of my court and I suround myself with admirers. You are right on about being up scale. O.K. she is right on. very good alana.

Yes, I like my alone time, but I am also a social Capricorn, and sometimes you can get too much of either. Seem to have become more social and go out more often as I've gotten older.

I enjoyed socializing quite a bit when I was in my 20's, not too much in my 30's-in fact hardly at all (got married, had my daughter, got divorced before I even reached 30), but now that I've begun my 40's (I'm 42) and my daughter is grown up, I love going out and having fun with my friends.

My friend Sandy (she turned 40 in Apr) and I, and some of our other friends from time to time, have one place we go to on a regular basis and have been for a couple of years now. I guess you would kind of call us regulars there, since we know all the bartenders, and all of the other regulars that go in there too. In fact a couple of the friends we go there with, we met there. This place has a couple of pool tables, TV's with sports on, and on Fri. and Sat. nights, they have a live band and dancing. A band usually plays a couple of weekends in a row, then another band does the same. Most of the time we go in on Sat. nights, because it's ladies night and we get in free! We have a great time, and meet and talk to alot of people, especially guys 😉, being as Sandy and I are both divorced.

However, just like going anywhere or doing anything, it can get a bit boring and old if you go there or do that tooo very often. So we try not to go in there every Sat. night, and go in even less during the summer, as do most of the others that frequent there.

Oh, I also like to visit with my neighbors every so often, and people I know in stores, etc. that I go into.

Just for your info. Kiwo girl - I am aquarius:-)!!! So Aquarius:-) - but I was with Cappy guy for three years so I guess that's how I know the cappy zone so well:-)!!
Ax

I am close to aquarius born on the 15th of jan,this worries me. I feel like the dark side is pulling on me, I might fall into the abyss. I am almost postive that if there is a beast of the 666 it will be an aquariun, Well must go on holaday now have a great forthnight.

Luv Tate

Enjoy your holiday Mister....gonna miss you big time -
You and Den keep james-ing and den-ning together:-)
Alana x

I love them too :-)
But I don't aprove of their icy-coooool attitude when in fact they would love to hug you or kiss you.And I also don't aprove of their superiority-I guess that's because I'm a Lion ( queen...):-) Someone said once " We don't like their vanity because it offends ours"🙂
So how come somebody so rejecting can be so attractive?!? It's like they are deliberately pushing people away ,who - au contraire - are even more attracted to them!This is quite upsetting!I don't understand!So why bother being nice,when you can get more of positive feed-back with indiference and self-contentment?
I guess that the saying - You can get more flyes with honey - it's not so true afterall.
Alana,james,Cap Lady - grazie per il Cappy-insight! Keep 'em coming!

My dearest Bella!!

"What is more frustrating or alluring than someone whom you know who just doesn't give a dam as to what your good opinion of them is—?"......and that's basically a cappy's attitude.....they know they are a cut above the rest in every department (it just goes without saying!).....and I hate saying it but they bloody well are!!!......I remember the night I first met my cappy in a pub.......for about 2 hours he appeared to be in no way interested in me at all...kept turning his head and staring at a stupid band as I tried to chit-chat and capture his attention.....I went home that night and thought to myself - who the f..k does he think he is....condescening git!!! but dam attractive git!!!! I didn't think he had listened to a word I had said the whole night or would ever hear from him again but oooh la la, (we had exchanged e-mail nos. on a cigarette carton, well I had forced him to exhcange his no. with me!!) - next day I got quite a email from Mr. Cappy!! - telling me verbatim, the things I had told him about myself and how (if I woudld like it!! of course up to me) we could meet up!!! I was blown away...and so began the beautiful affair:-)
Gone now...but never forgotten!!!

OMG...I loved your story!Alana
Still,this attitude is alluring at the begining-well,at least in my case.But I cannot stand on the long run-even if in the same time I love them with all my soul- someone who thinks that is always better , smarter or righter than I am!
Absolutely not!This is a dictatorial way of behaving and I reject that!
They do have a way of gliding ...of moving very gently and of smiling( rarely ) that makes them appear so vulnerable...that's what I like: someone who is tough on the outside and soft on the inside and viceversa and also someone who gives me the surprise of discovering a much more nicer person beyond the harsh exterior.Still,I'm always thinking that maybe I have created an ilusionary perfect friend and I 'm afraid of being dissapointed.What if he is exactely the way he act?Cruel,inconsiderate,indifferent,egotistic
Just in the intimacy someone delicate emerges from the icy monster-but only for short time and that confuses me.
Alana,what do you think?
Bacii,
Bella

A cut above the motto of lize borden school for bad rich girls. What can I say we capricorns are what we are. I realy am not sure about all this sign crap anyway. some of it hits right on and at outher times it misses by a mile. As for women , A woman drove me to drink and I havent even the courtesy to thank her.

James darling,
Men drive me to drink. I thank them by leaving them flat. Fall, crash burn and run. Cappy motto.
Deb

Just to get back to you Bella on what you say - I hear what you say about the ice-maiden cometh!! and Capricorn - basically what you said is true...they can be all those things, cruel, inconsiderate, indifferent etc.....but if the right person comes along into their life....(mind you it has to be the right person) - the capricorn suddenly blooms and blossoms......and the "brick wall" suddenly comes down.....I remember after being with mr. Cappy for about six months....I actually said to him I am sick of you never revealing yourself or letting me know what you are thinking (not that I wanted to know his every thought or anybody's for that matter!!) but a few inputs on what and where he thought the relationship was going would have been nice!!. I actually said to him take down that brick wall around you and open up. He gave me a one hell of a disapproving look - and I went off home thinking all was lost. However, the following week we met and I have to say hand on heart, that from that day on, something had changed in Mr. Cappy - he began to open up to me and say and do things like never before - Caps are dam hard work and need to be pushed to "extremes" sometimes to make them express their emotions but if you are prepared to persist, you will get your just reward.

Yes, and they do glide with dignity like swans.....and don't smile too often but my when they do....it's a site to behold....so childlike, yet so grown-up and vulnerable.

So I wish you the best of luck with your Cappy - keep up posted.

Alana x