Finally.........

Hello to all...I just wanted to share this with you all b/c I'm so excited. I am "finally" meeting my Cappy today and I'm so incredibly nervous. Things seem to have progressed tremendously b/t the two of us as of the past two weeks b/c I've been helping him with some personal things as some of you will recall. He has even asked me to attend a meeting w/him today b/c he feels very scared and nervous. Have any of you ever had that feeling where your finally going to meet someone, your so happy about, just can't wait for the hours to fly by, and your just so happy but yet so da## nervous that you want to back out......I wouldn't of course but my nerves are so crazy right now. If any of you read my other post wherein I talk about I feel that my Cappy and I have already seen each other (at a club but he won't admit it) I feel really nervous about this as well. Its been exactly 10 months since we've talked on the phone and e-mailed one another. On one hand, I'm glad for those ten months b/c I feel we know each other better but on the other hand if, in fact, when I meet him and should he turn out to be the guy in the club I just don't know what to feel.

I don't remember if gemgem or greeneyedgemini joked around about needing crazy pills (not even sure if that was how you referred to them) but I need them right now................gosh...I just hope he doesn't pull the normal Cappy stunt since we've gotten pretty close and run away once we meet.................help......

besos~ thats great Im so happy for you! Yes they are crazy pills! lol
well you will have to let us know! If he runs this time I say forget him.lol but thats only cause I hate men right now!! lol sorry let us know !

besos~ did you meet Him?

GEG, I did meet him and I'm more confused than ever. I was attracted to him but I'm so confused as to whether or not he was attracted to me - physically that is. I mean, I know Cappy's are confusing anyways but while we were together he "really" checked me out and did not even try to hide it. I've never in my life been so scrutinized. He kept looking at me and when I would ask what, what is it he would say "can't I just look at you?" He commented numerous times on my red hair, my freckles, my skin that is too white, my red toes, why don't I have a french manicure on my nails instead a american manicure, etc. When I say commented, he never said anything bad it was just "da## girl, why are you so white, what's up with the freckles, etc.?" It never offended me in any way and I certainly do not think he was being ugly but merely checking me out. What do you think? This is my first dealing with a cappy and I'm confused. He has called numerous times since then but of course, keep in mind I am helping him with some legal things and we have to discuss them. Having said that he does'nt just talk to me about the legal things but also we laugh and talk personal but I'm just confused. The last conversation we had on the phone last night included a comment "that he likes his meat darker!" I replied "well, I"m sure there are alot of darker girls out there for you but tanning got me in this situation with the da## freckles so I'm not tanning!" He then said "you were nice, I'm just used to darker meat and don't be so sensitive..!" I replied by saying I'm not being sensitive just letting you know that I'm certainly not your only option out there! None of that was said ugly or anything between us and then we just went on to talk. He did ask about my ex-husband whether or not he was still stalking me which he has not asked about ever since we talked about it the first time six months ago.

So greeneyedgemine, what do you think? Interesed or just not physically attracted to me?

Besos

First question...was he the man in the club? Second question, what does he look like?

Now I dont know to much about weather or not he is attracted to you, but what I can say is that "whenever" my cappie and I were togther we would always stare and make it very noticable look me up and down like he was taking everything in. from the top of my head to my toes. And he would continue checking me out all night. As far as the coments he made I think they all say weird sh!t! Im 5'7 and 104lbs and one time he told me that a girl was hitting on him but, that he does not like skinny girls? lol......I was like "o" really and laughed!

If the two of you are enjoying yourself and you are talking about other things then just Buisness I'd say it sounds good! Try to stay off the subject of dark meat light meat Sh!t! Who cares! Im sure your a beautiful girl! Has he mentioned anything about getting together again? I would ask him if he wants to do something and if he declines then you should be able to read him! But let me tell you this his "ACTIONS" will show you everything you need to know....

Im glad that you got to meet him.... Sh!t after 10 months....

GEG~~~

He was not the man in the club although I have stay that ocassionally I would look at him and think yes, it was him. He was very attractive to me but as I've said b/f at this point I was so attracted what what was inside that I did not care what he looked like but yes, I was definently attracted to him. I wasn't so much nervous meeting him but shy which I've told him many times I am in person until I'm comfortable. Especially after he starting really checking me out and making it obvious. I know that he enjoys (in a good fun way) making me a little uncomfortable b/c he would even do that on the phone so of course, I would turn beet red - which of course he let me know and wanted to know why I turned so red but he knew. The thing is that I know its hard for Cappys to trust and let me just go ahead and put it out there that I work for an atty and I am helping the man w/bankruptcy. I actually just e-mailed one day and told him let me help him b/c I knew he was in a bad way financially. Of course, I did not know how bad but since he trust me he sent me all of his info which really surprised b/c it was all of his financial info but yet that let me know that I was trusted by him. Since I offered to help him w/his financials he has e-mailed me very single day about this plus also friendly stuff. Its never just business w/him but I still feel cautious like maybe he is just getting close since I'm helping him b/c he benefits financially since I know the atty he is going through. He actually asked me the day b/f to go w/him to the meeting b/c "he felt scared and would feel better if I was there" and we had never even meet and those were his exact words. So bottom line is there is no doubt the trust is there b/t us. I'm just so curious as to whether or not he was physically attracted to me. I'm a white girl and he is hispanic and I'm the only white girl he has ever talked to so I don't know if this is something he is trying to get use to or if I'm just truly not his type. I hate the unknown. I still have patience but by curiousity is taking over b/c I do have a small fear that maybe he is calling/e-mailing so much b/c I'm helping him. I would rather just keep things as they were b/c I made it clear when I offered to help it there was no hidden motivation its just my nature to help my friends if I can. So what do you think? I just can't ask if he is interested or thought I was attractive. I just won't do that. Help me out here greeneyedgemine and thanks.....Besos

Besos~

"I would rather just keep things as they were b/c I made it clear when I offered to help it there was no hidden motivation its just my nature to help my friends if I can."


I would just do that and see where it takes you! Be cautious I only tell you this because I have just had my heart ripped out and stomped on! (as you know)

I would be subtle about your feelings right now, take it slow be his friend! I know 10 months is slow... but it just now begun because now there is a face to a voice! Men are visual we are emotional. I would let him call and make the advances you will know by his actions!! LOL actions... im big on that now...! Go with the flow but trust your in intuition!

p.s. can I did around a little....how much debt are we talking and why? Im sorry im nosy you can PM me if you dont want to post to the board!

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GEG~~~

I sent you a pm so hopefully you got it - let me know. I hope he starts using actions b/c he's not speaking many words and boy could I use some action - lol!

Atlantic Myst~~~

****I think it was pretty rude what he did. be careful cappies have a bad habit of tlaking down to people sometimes. Don't let yourself be one of the people that take it.****

I think this is what is part of my confusion...was he being rude - this is the first cappy man I've dealt with so I'm lost. He did call last night and during our conversation made the comment that I was "fine" w/regard to my looks. I just let it go w/o saying thank you or even acknowledging he said that b/c well, honestly I guess I'm feeling insecure now (not about my looks but about what he thought about my looks). On the other hand he had called me around 1:30 yesterday and I did not answer. When I finally returned his call last night at 9:30 within the first 5 minutes of the conversation he asked where I was when he called. That was a first b/c when it comes to making myself unavailable I have to say I can be pretty good at that and do so quite a bit so he doesn't get the impression that I'm just "there" waiting for him.

Besos...I'm going to be frank. This man is an ass! Where does he get off dissecting you and degrading you?! I would've taken one look at him and said, adios. Tell him to hit the road. It'll only get worse because if he's doing that now he will always do that. Most respectable women I know want someone who is going to make them feel like they are the only thing in the room that he wants to lay eyes on and it's clear to me that he wants you to be his little trophy that he can manipulate and control. I don't know a Capricorn that would ever act like that. He must have a rising in something like sh $ ! head. haha. Sorry...I don't like men like that. You can find another Capricorn who will romance you and make you melt.

****I don't know a Capricorn that would ever act like that. He must have a rising in something like sh $ ! head. haha.****

I'm laughing so hard right now......you are absolutely right.......thanks for the advise.

gemgem you are great just lay it out there girl!!

I think Brian had that same rising sign!!! lol

Well it's true. 😉 haha. I'm glad I could make you laugh. It's no fun when we run into a couple losers who think they are God's gift. He probably looked really appetizing until he opened his mouth. haha.