Handle Your Business

MyCap,

I really like what you are doing. You are "handling your business" as we say on the street. While you still are cordial with your previous cappy, you are letting him know you are NOT his lady, yet you ARE a LADY. He may not like this TRUTH and would prefer to label you a whore or worse (b/c either his true feelings are hurt or his pride is hurt), but you continue to "handle your business", ignoring his mean remarks while at the same not playing into his hand. You are picking up the pieces, moving on and taking steps to make the best of a poor situation. He may HATE it, but he will HAVE to respect you. IMO, this is what attracts any man, even cappy males.

Thinking of this, I'm remembering how CapGirl carried herself when she ran into her cappy unexpectedly at a client meeting. She acted like the polished professional that she is -- didn't react negatively or lose her cool. A class act. She also completely ignored him b/c she was "handling her business" and that just wasn't the time for personal issues. Trust me, her cappy found this very attractive and this *kismet incident played a part in helping her and him to mend their differences.

I know I am addressing MyCap, Ladies, but I offer my congratulations to all who "handle their business" (get on with it, do what you gotta do) and do not let hurt paralyze their lives.

Pf~ That's good advice, and encouragement. Thanks for complimenting my previous behavior. But I know you may be reminding me bc. of what I've stooped to this week.

Girls, I don't know what's gotten into me. He's brought up sex and clearly wants that again w/ me, said he's very attracted to me, but I've always held out. Well, now since telling him I'm on match.com and him calling me a hot piece of ass and talking about a roll in the hay, I've decided to test or tease him, I guess? I'm basically offering his roll in the hay, whether he's believing it or not, I don't know, but he's not biting. It's insane. Any normal guy would try to go for it but not a guy with the control and power issues he has. I think that's what it's proving to be. I know I've sunk to an all-time low, even acting like I'm willing to just go another round with him bc. he wants to, but I was trying to just call him out on wanting sex. I truly think he's just out to frustrate me in whatever way he can, which speaks of being a misogynist- (woman-hater). And who knows- he probably thinks I'm a tease and trying to reel him in. Whatever it is-- it's messed up beyond fixing!!! Help. : I

CapGirl,

Ignore him, dammit.

Will do, girl. Thank you.

Yes CapGirl, my advice would be to completely ignore him also. But I know how difficult that is, been there many times. But put the ball in ur court and make him want you even more. These guys may appear to be strong, but if u hit them just right they will get really soft on ya. That's how u need to get ur cap to do. When I started ignoring my cap, he came back like and acted like he never had before. Shocked the hell out of me. It does work tho.

PF -- yes thanks for the great encouragement to all of us, and especially to me. I have to be strong, and as much as I just want to give into the boy so bad, I just can't. I have too much pride now! I have to have pride. But d@mn, why does it have to be this hard? I just have to tell myself it's for the best and keep on truckin forward.

Moving on and seein this other guy has helped me a lot. But it's still sad when I think about the cap when Im w/this guy tho. It's like this guy could do anything in the world for me and I'd still want the cap. I hope this is a stage I grow out of...lol...I just don't understand how I could want him so much when he treats me the way he does.

BAD NITE THIS IS!

get some haagen das..and indulge 😉
Ignorance is bliss...and they hate it..just give yourself a pat on the back for every day that goes by..don't call him, don't give in..remember nobody controls your emotions..YOU DO!

Thanks missmorals, I'll try. He's going out of town today and will be gone for at least 4 days. So I know I won't have any contact w/him, which is good. So we'll see how it all goes!