This day couldn't be worse

Ok ladies, I have some news. Not good, I might say.

I had a little scenario happen last nite, and I swear I feel like I'm in a soap opera! Anyways, my cap calls me last nite, since he's off work and has to work today and asks me to come over. So I say ok what the he!!. Well he never mentioned v-day, which by all means is cool w/me, afterall I did hand him a card. It wasn't much. Well most of nite went well until we started talking about us. I felt it was a good time to bring it up, and it was but we talked about EVERYTHING AND I MEAN EVERYTHING, including the chick he was seeing when we broke up a while back.

The thing that hurt me the most, and maybe I shouldnt have asked was if he had sex w/her when they were seeing each other. It was one of those things that has been on my mind, i want to know but at the same time don't want to know. He says yes, and I just lost it. Didn't go psycho, but was just emotionally torn apart. I cried, and cried. I'm not a big crier but the tears just kept coming. It was like I was torn apart into a million peices. He just stared at me. Well we talked about other things, and then I asked him "what do you REALLY want". He said he doesn't know and he kept saying that. How doesn't he know? So anyhow, this was late when we were having the discussion and I was going to leave. He asked me to stay because he didn't want me driving as upset as I was. I ended up staying after arguing w/him about it, and told him I was sleeping on the couch. Well after a while I ended up going to his bed. Woke up this morning and started crying again, it was like neverending. I couldn't even look at him or talk to him. Well he was getting ready and I was just laying there so upset. He didn't say anything. Well we were gettting ready to leave and he just gave me one long stare into my eyes. Then he said have fun at work, and leaned in to give me a kiss on the cheek and a hug. I shrugged past him, walked right out the door, got in my car and left. That was that. Now the ball is in his court.

What a day. I guess we truly are just not going to be together.

What kind of work does your Cap do? That would say a lot about his behavior and his coldness to you. Girl, you can expect them to have a plan A, B, and C. They always have something else. Now most times, it just someone to kill time with, so don't take it personal. It was just sex. That's there makeup. You have the power to make this work in your favor. 1) by not reacting to it 2) dating other people and 3) giving him space. Let him miss U. My caps have slept with other women, but what I do is that when they are with me, I put it on them! So when they leave they have something to think about. They are already insecure about there sex, so you have the power, but YOU MUST NEVER let them see you sweat NEVER!

What type of work does he do?

T36, I think he's a police officer! I know MyCap had said law enforcement...

I agree w/ T36, MyCap... You guys weren't exclusive then and didn't know what the deal was. I think I recall there had been that 2 week hiatus after you emailed him the serious email, during which he was hanging out w/ her, and then after you got back w/ him when he finally called, you caught her over there one weekend.

MyCap-- You should stop jumping when he calls, and particularly jumping to go over and sleep w/ him. I know his work schedule is erratic but are you all going out or is it always spending time at his place? I don't think you should keep giving of yourself, w/ the situation as it is. I've been exactly where you're at all along w/ my Cap. He likes to call at 8-9 pm during the week, hinting at hanging out, and I have once but wouldn't sleep w/ him bc. he won't commit to shit. I know you want him badly, in all ways, but don't settle for the little that he's willing to give. It's not worth it, and he's not respecting you, and won't end up with a woman he doesn't respect.

Sounds to me like he picked a fight on purpose so he didn't have to do Valentine's day.

CapGirl,

You're a lawyer, what kind of psychology is this guy using on MyCap?

I mean, the staring into her eyes, like trying to discern if she is weak or strong, you know what I mean. I hope I'm wrong, but law enforcement officers are trained to look for certain signs, gestures, etc.

I don't know that the officer bit has anything to do with it... I think he's being a typical male or Cap.-- thinking that he doesn't owe you anything. You have to look out for yourself and protect yourself (your heart) w/ these guys bc. they're not going to look out for you! That's exactly what that look, "have fun at work" and quick kiss goodbye said to me, a brushing off of your feelings and him not owning up to any hurtful behavior.

I still think he using some of his professional training on her.

Thanks for ur comments guys. I appreciate it. I'm not taking this very easily, still really hurt. I know we werent together at the time he did sleep w/her, but it still hurts. Yes, he is a police officer. I don't know if he was trying to use some of his training on me or not. He really looked deep into my eyes this a.m. tho. Like he could tell he really crushed me in 2.

T36 -- u r totally right. I'm going to let him miss me. If he tries to call, I won't be answering. I really have nothing to say to him anyway. I don't think he'll call tho. I think he knows he really did a number on me this time. U know what. When we got together after that two weeks apart, and after he had did that w/her he asked me if I had went out on a date, etc. Then he asked if I had boned anyone. I told him no. That right there should have told me he did. Why else would he have asked. I was going to ask him then, but I knew deep inside, had a feeling that he had.

Oh well, I don't deserve the treatment he gives me. I care a lot about him, he knows that. It's a waste tho. As much as I want things to work and to be w/him, Im just letting it go now. I dont think there is any use in continuing this non ending circle of breaking up/being together, and especially him seein others at the same time. Man I have strong feelings for him, but I can't and won't let myself be treated this way. I do deserve better.

Ladies, I just want to be w/him and for things to be normal, but I guess I have to realize and live in reality right now that it's just not going to happen w/him and I. And it hurts....BAD!

Mycap, just want to say I'm sorry, i know the feeling and it hurts, and this kind of pain just sucks, we've all been there, you have my empathy, keep talking and crying to your friends, see that's where we women have it over these guys, we admit our feelings and can cry and get it out, they bottle crap up, so keep sharing, it doesn't make the pain go away but it does help to express it.Better things are coming if you do, youknow that all of us don't really know each other and we're from all different parts of the country but isn't it cool we can feel for each other

hello~ MYCAP

I am sooo sorry to hear about this. And I know that ther is nothing that I can say at this time that will make your pain go away! I can tell you this though.. I know exactly what you are going through ( just read my old posts) and i know the thought of him being with someone else is excruciating!!! It's a flippin nightmare really.. i have been there trust me I know.. (with my goat) but your right you were not with him! So it was none of you buisness and he was not sleeping with both of you so you have that to be greatful for. And i know two weeks is a short time for him to just go and jump in bed wiht someone else but you know something men will be men... When I went through this whith Brian I was sick I was throwing up sick...devistated.. but then he told me this "Im soo sorry for hurting you... I would do anything in the world to take it back, if this means anything to you at all it was JUST SEX nothing more" He did not LOVE her, so what he was telling me... is that he loves ME that I am just not SEX!! Funny thing is I loved him enough to forgive him, but not forgive him to just have him back I made a decision to forgive him because he made a mistake who doesnt hes young. And when I made that decsion I knew that I could NEVER bring it up again, never ask about her nothing and I didnt.... waht IM saying is people make mistakes and sometimes it takes huge mistakes for them to realise what they have or want..HE does love you and when he looked you into the eyes this morning you saw how much he cared but could not or would not find the words to tell you how he felt....

Im sorry sweetie, I know it hurts but when you love somone there is alot of forgivness involved. and there are lots of mistakes made..


good luck sweetie

love, Brandy
I will Pray for you tonight!!

I put this on the wrong post...

MyCap, this guy seems to be manipulating and controlling. If he is in law enforcement, he is professionally trained to "read" people. I have a few male friends (a Libra and a Scorpio) who are detectives and they know how to diffuse and incite emotions in people. Your cappy is by training, and perhaps by nature [male cap], suspicious at most. He does not trust easily, and he may test you until the cows come home. You seem to be too innocent and naive right now to handle him. You let your guard down too often. I do not believe that a capricorn man could resist using whatever was at his disposal as method to control. I could be wrong, or perhaps I'm being negative, but if "untrained" cappys use head games, why wouldn't someone with "skills" use them?

You are right to leave him be. There's nothing wrong that. Do not feel defeated or forsaken. You are choosing your battles, and right now, it may be wise to just back up to regroup/recover so you can come back stronger.

i agree though to give him space let him come to you...he will

First of all. Thanks for your stories and support. I'm slowly but surely making it.

APW, yes it is crazy that we all don't really know one another. But we r all dealing w/these crazy men and we all have BTDT with all of this. And I'm glad that each one of us has such experiences to share w/one another...good and bad. I hate the bad and hate that some of us have had to experience the bad.

GEG, Thank u so much for sharing ur story w/me and for praying for me. I need that right now. I am confused and hurt and scared, and just a total mess, to sum it all up.

pathfinder, I will agree w/you, I too think I am too innocent and naive to be dealing w/him right now. I don't know why I'm like that, but I just am. Others I'm fine with, but when it comes to him I have a problem w/that. He seems to always have to be in control w/us and he has admitted in the past that he likes being in control. He can easily read people and he reads me better than anything. That's how he has all the control. See I sent him for a spin when I didn't contact him last week. He then contacted me until he reeled me in again and was in control because I gave in to seeing him. That proved to him that he had control over me and the situation still. I can't let him do that and it isn't fair. I am going to back off and recover for the time being. I have to let this go and stop holding on to him. Who knows if he'll come back or what he's feeling. I really shouldn't care at this point anyways. But if anything, it will show him that I WILL NOT tolerate being treated like this.

just reading this thread to check in, Mycap: I was thinking about you today and if he slept with someone else, you have to move on....it hurts but we can not let men think they can treat us like that....no way...UNLESS you were also fooling around, were you? But the tears..they were real, they were because you were hurt, deeper than you might have thought. Its sad this all happened around Vday....I will send you positive thoughts and healing....I can almost feel the pain myself...

Thanks wheretomylady, I do need to move on. Thanks for keeping me in ur thoughts! He told me that he slept w/her because he thought we were done. I honestly did think we were too at the time, but still. I guess that's what he wanted. But obviously I have deeper feelings for him than he does for me. I couldn't have just went and slept w/someone else during that 2 wks. I was still hooked on him and thinking about him and wanting him baCk. Just last nite I was laying there thinking about him and her and it just literally almost made me sick. It's just crazy when I'm really trying to convince myself right now that it is over w/him and I, that we will never be together, and that I will never probably hear from him again. I know I won't contact him again, know this w/out a doubt.

Mycap
"Just last nite I was laying there thinking about him and her and it just literally almost made me sick" - of course it's going to make you sick Mycap.....you are letting someone else rent your mind space.....him and her....in the nuddy!!!!

When he asked had you "boned" someone.....why did you say no......you didn't have to lie but you could have been evasive and left him wondering!!! (air of mystery and mystique).....a "I prefer not to talk about my sexual history when we are apart" is always the line to use when asked with this.

OK so you say you knew deep down that he had slept with her........why didn't you leave it at that rather than go the extra mile and hear his yes answer slam you heart, my dear—.....A woman always knows deep down.....let sleeping dogs lie...that's my advice. And anyway, so what if he did sleep with her, the many men I know tell me over and over and over again, sex means zip with someone they don't have deep feelings for..it's just a release...Never ask for the truth........if you know deep down, you can't handle it and I don't care what most people say, but they can't.

To get the sex ething out of your head, give yourself one hour to think of him and her doing it every which way.......drain yourself with all the thoughts of him and her up to all sorts reaching the dizzy heights or ecstacy........at the end of it, you will come to realize, there's only so much a woman and man can do together - it was another time, another place in the past......all you have now is the present moment.....

I don't mean to be dismissive and I do understand your hurt........but whoever he was with and whenever......realize that you are second to nobody.....your world revolves around you!!!and act accordingly even though you may not feel one bit like it......so if you feel up to it tonite or maybe tomoro, best bib and tucker on.....makeup and hair done!!out on the town with the girls, nice few drinks, get chatted up, and hey, you appraoch the guys even.....(better still go one of his favourite haunts and let it be seen by his friends what's happening:-)!!!! - good/bad news travels fast with guys:-)

I'm not saying you over-reacted,you acted like you acted and that is very OK.

But now it's time for you to get back on your track and circuit......if he's to enter it, let it be at your pace and your speed......

I wish you the best mycap.

Alana x

Hey MyCap,

If he slept with another woman w/i two weeks of your breakup and you had been dating him for several months, either she's been around all the time, or he was interested in her for a moment. I dated a leo once, and he would pick petty arguments with me every now and then. A good friend of mine told me when men do that, sometimes it's b/c they want to do something they know they have no business doing. Be careful -- your cappy doesn't sound faithful to me.

Suvant - you're making me laugh out loud now........we all know your real identity.......

So once again I am saying to you (although DXP deleted it last time due to censorship!!!) - you go to the "public toilet" - go stick your big finger up your ass, then why not ram it down your throat and you will realize the "bad odour and taste" your rantings and mouthings have!!!

As for tatooing my faviourtie line on my ass.......hey, now that's one fine idea:-) - god, you do have some good ideas, don't you:-)

From the "JUST A HUGE BORE" beautiful Alana x

pathfinder, i agree with you , my old old cap used to pull that crap all the time...after a couple of months of everything being good he'd start looking around, and then would come the inevitable "i think we should just be friends for awhile" that way he could do the other chick with no guilt...brilliant...but then he'd be back which is why i am on these boards and vowing no more cap men and broke off the thing with the cap guy after just 3 months when the same old crap started. yes they have fragile egos, get bored easily etc etc and i suppose what better way to boost the ego and get excited is to take up with someone new for awhile. so mycap, i think he might always be looking whether you're aware of it or not

Yea... the way mine reappears after 1-2 weeks usually, and then the 2-3 months, forces me to believe that he's been rejected/dumped and is looking for attention. Or, he's just bored w/ the other one(s) and is now wanting to leave them hanging for a while and in order to do so, he picks back up/ or tries to, with me. When I won't give him the attention he wants (sex, spur of the moment get togethers), he's off to the other backups on his list. I can't keep thinking that he's purposely sitting home, thinking about me, wanting to call, but denying himself, because he eventually does call and so, what's the point in suppressing the urge in that period in between which is not a few days, but several or weeks. No... he has other things going on. He may think he's punishing me in the process and gaining power/control over me, but he's not suffering himself during these disappearances.

APW, What is it with the three months thing with these guys? It's like they deal in "threes" -- like Death or something. Maybe you've heard how they say when one person dies, two more usually follow? I used to work in a hospital and on the terminally ill floor, death always happened in threes...then stop for a bit, then start over again.

My cappy used to wait until my third contact attempt b/4 he would respond -- especially when we were seeing each other regularly. Now once I figured that out, I would stop at TWO. That would get him wondering and he would contact me. He would tell me, just keep calling until you get me. Huh? I'm like: "Forget about it."

As far as them being bored with us, I believe it's more vice versa. I think they believe we get bored with them.

good point on the bored thing, i remember thinking sometimes "huh, he's an idiot, same old stories, same old whining, same old ego seeking affirmations from other people, that's why my friends really said to me "HUH——" what the hell are you doing with him, he's a clown...and i'd think sometimes "this is getting really boring" and then i guess he'd disappear, i'd start self hating myself, and , well you all know the story.
as an aside, i just wrote something to GEG that i really didn't mean to be cruel, i hope she takes it in stride, it's just that as i've said before, i am a little older than some of you women, and i have a 20 year old baby goat son, and i've heard him and his friends talking about how to get a girl/woman "Just stare deeply into her eyes, tell her she's the most amazing woman you've ever met, no one has ever made you feel this way before" and then they said'she'll be tearing off her clothes faster than you can. I said to her, GEG that it breaks my heart to hear her waiting and waiting for, what i think, is just a little boy, i'm not trying to be cruel it really hurts me to listen to her hope, when i've heard my own son and his friends and what their prioities are at that age. please don't hate me GEG or any others of you, i mean no harm

APW,
I think it was good that you told her what you think. Sometimes we all need a kick in the pants to get on with our lives. I am also older and I agree with you that a boy (he is still a boy) of his age is in no way ready for a relationship. He still has to figure out what to do with his life. Hell, the boys our age don't know what the hell they want either 😉

PF~ that is SO true- 3 contact attempts has been routine and an established pattern for me too. I have my 3 in now, and it could techinically be FOUR, so he could be pulling a true disappearance. And you know what, I don't care!! Yahoo!!! I did text msg. him last night at 10:30, "Happy V Day weenie!" hahaha

APW~ those tactics of seduction, I've read them. Honestly, if a girl is so dumb as to fall for that heavy BS, then she deserves to get played. The whole "never felt this way" line is just too-too much; it should send up the red flag the minute it hits her ears. My Cap. had commented after knowing me 10 days that pretty soon he might be spending all of this time w/ me (in reference to still meeting others), and that sounded like pouring-it-on BS and were just words to me. He kept proving himself to be an a $ $ by his actions, so I kept my guard up. Thank gosh.

CG, you crack me up!!! LOL!

APW, I don't think anyone is offended by what you've said. We all can be pretty blunt at times, but the opinions come out of genuine care and support, so that softens the blow a bit.

thanks guys, i mean ladies, as i said i'm not trying to be mean, i just recognize some of my own desperate hopes, thoughts and consequently, really self-destructive actions and thoughts, in thinking and thinking and thinking that HE"S going to reappear any day now with undying love, when in reality, they are far far gone and we're not even a thought in their little ego-centric brains.

Alana, u r so right w/everything you said. When he asked if I had boned someone I should have kept my mouth shut. I was too nice to him. And he didn't deserve it.

Ladies I don't know if he's a player or not. I mean, what hurt me the most was that he could just go have sex w/this chick a week later after ending it w/me and be ok with it. That tells me how much he cares about me. Honestly, I don't need him and I'm ready to move on from him. He can miss me if he wants, doubt he will, but if he does, oh well it's his loss. From this day forward, Im moving on. As Ive said before, I deserve way better, and he's defintely not worth this.

Why does survant keep being mentioned again alana?Was there a post deleted here or something?

capman,

I don't really think that he's trying to see my reaction. I came out and asked him if he did, and he said yes. That's all I needed to hear, whether it was during the time we were together or the time we were apart. I think he's honestly just an a $ $ hole who doesn't know what he wants and whom can't settle down. It's in God's hands now. Yeah I want him, but for some reason I think he's really lost me now.

Hi all,
Why are always tryng to make explanations as to y our man(mr cappie) is just not into us...if he is , he has to stop playng immature games...
but then when he does not call u tend to go crazy no matter how patient a person u are...for all the women who think ur cappie has forgotten u or has gone away..u need to remember..he loves u a lot..he is just terribly scared of his emotions..dont ask me why...it seem cappies carry hurts from their childhood and even their past lives...I read tat somewhr..but I totally believ tat...
btw this board is awesome...I cant thank the ladies out here enuf for all their experiences...

bittertaurus,

he could be saying to get a reaction and the reaction I'm giving him with definetely shock him. Ihaven't always been the one to just disappear and not contact him. I would email, or at least text. I don't want to do anything. I'm still so hurt by it that it just disgusts me. I will get over it tho. He needs to grow up and stop playing games! I hope I really stand up for myself when and if he does come back.

Hmmm.... Am I going to have to close this thread off officially too?? Haha

I like what Bittertaurus has to say... I've experienced all that instigating for a reaction stuff, and it pissed me off, but I never showed it bc. that means he would have won! I now presently have... one IM, one voicemail, and a text msg. in to him (in 9 days time) and nothing. That just says: NOT a normal person!! Sure, it might be typical male behavior if he lost interest or was planning to never get back to me, but he WILL resurface! Crazy psycho!

Hi Tiamat.............the Suvant posting must have been deleted or censored by DXP - Suvant bad-mouthed me and cussed me big time for absoultely no good reason - rattled my cage and ruffled my feather my feathers!!:-) - even called me boring!!!!! Anyway, gone for the moment...but S will be back under another name no doubt!!!!

Bye for now little Tia.

A x

I missed something with the Suvant posting....doesnt sound very nice though. Mycap, sister Taurus to sister taurus, it hurts so deep to have a man sleep with another woman when we are in love with them, or even in lust, and I dont think the pain is going to leave anytime, you will be reminded of it the second you see him and it will dominate your every thought...I guess my heistant advice is to walk away from this, I would hate to loose you off the site though....but he isnt good for your esteem or mental health

love and positive thoughts

suvant-survant is just a troll who takes these boards a bit too seriously when it comes to qbone(one of the virgo members),alana is just one of Q's "buddies" so thats what "it" has against her is all.It should just be ignored if you see a post by "it" again,it might be pretty nasty and insulting.

WTML,

Ur right, it isn't good for me at all. So far I'm doing ok. Haven't heard from him, which doesn't upset me. Yeah, I wonder what he's thinking, etc., but really that shouldn't matter to me. I need to just keep moving forward and get on w/my life. Just as I've said before, as much as I will miss him and want him back, nothing will change if he did try to come back, it would just be the same cycle over and over, and I don't want that.

My Cap,

Most men NEVER admit to infidelity, even when caught. So, I find it hard to believe that your Cap did this. I think it's a test to: 1) get your reaction and 2) to see if you will stick around.

I've had guys (in the past) run around on me. My instincts always let me know. Did you feel/sense something that told you there was another woman? Usually a woman knows when her man is cheating or has cheated......

i for one believe my instincts are usually ALWAYS correct, esp in this area, it's just that when i don't heed them and go into denial i get in trouble. as for him admitting and it being a "test" i'm sorry ladies but this whole 'testing' thing is really starting to piss me off big time. again, who the hell do they think they are——??
TESTING!!!!!. cut the crap guys... what are we? and who are we? that we need and stand for these TESTS...as you can tell, i'm angry about the whole testing thing, sorry but we're people not lab rats, screw them and their damn tests...i don't know about you other people but i don't go around with my friends, loved ones and lovers doing "tests" to see if they care.

I'm with you, APW. I rather think that they like to push you away and get their distance with this "testing" tactic. They're either unconsciously or purposely screwing up the relationship bc. they don't want you getting too close. They know they're messed up (i.e. hurt, scared, confused), and they are creating walls/obstacles, so that you run and shut them out, instead of them having to do it to you. The cheating confession could be honest or fabricated, but it was used to keep his space and distance from you.

VirgoLady,

I don't know if you've read any of my previous posts but a while back me and the cap split up and during that time he started seeing someone. That's when he said he did have sex w/her during the time that we were apart those 2 weeks. Yes I did sense that he had had sex w/her but just recently asked him. Yeah guys don't usually admit, but my cap told me that if I ever asked him anything that he would be honest with me. I asked him and he told me. I believe he did. I don't see him testing me in this way. But if I stayed around and chased him after him telling me that he had slept w/someone else, I'd be really stupid and dumb!

LeowithCap,

ur right, that's exactly what my cappy told me.

isn't it funny how sometimes just because they're "being honest" they seem to assume it makes it ok? it's like a little kid who does something wrong and then is honest about it and is surprised when you're still upset. I feel for you, i know the drill, been there done that, i know i said it before on these but the old cap used to "let's just be friends for awhile" routine, that way he could screw around without any guilt, because. hey! we were just friends. and i take absolute responsibility for being available when he would come running back soooooooooooooooooooooo many times. never asked me if i had done anybody, but would get all jealous-like and "you're mine, hands off" whenever it seemed someone else was interested.
and i'll go back to the testing thing because as you guys read my earlier post, today it really hit me that in so many of these everybodies saying "he was testing you" Damn!!! i can't tell you how angry that makes me, again, who the hell are they to TEST anyone...MYcap, i'm thinking of you, i know you're in a tough spot, and you know what else, (and i just can't be like GEG here, i'm a little too cynical for that) no one here will judge you if you go back with him, we ALL know the pull...damn that pull, it's almost like a drug (and no, i didn't go back to any of my two crappy cap guys, just identifying the feelings)

My cap was the same way. He would get jealous whenever some guys would talk to me, etc. but it was ok for him to talk to other girls and all that. And especially sleep w/them. He told me she was just a friend, I knew better. But then again he probably just considered us friends for the past 9 mos also. And we had sex. He always used to say that no other girl gets the same treatment as I do. Oh that really made me feel special...not! I don't want to go back to him. I don't even think I'll be tempted to because I don't think he'll contact me.

cool..good for you and also sad for you...it's a hard "drug" to detox from to use an analogy, i know it from hard personal experience, yeah i was special too...i was the one and only sane,non-blonde(and no I don't have anything against blondes) normal, non-pyschotic, non-bulimic, non-anorexic etc woman he'd ever been attracted to. that tells you something about his personality..he gets off on the crazies...give him a normal sane women that he can't feel better than or try to fix and he didn't know what to do with it. and yet, he could never stay completely away...i just really feel he couldn't handle the non-drama, he needed the rush of insanity to feel sane himself

Probably so....it's a good thing u don't have anything against blondes!! I was going to have to yell at ya about that one!

noooooooo...not at all, blondes, brunettes, redheads, i couldn't care less, i'm just saying what HE said...see he was mainly attracted to blonde chicks and i have long reddish brown hair, so i went against his normal attraction. although, the nice body was still a must, and i do have a nice body, all natural also, a couple of his others were total plastic women. and when i say pyscho i mean PYSCHO...for real.
(and is it true, blondes have more fun??) kidding

noooooooo...not at all, blondes, brunettes, redheads, i couldn't care less, i'm just saying what HE said...see he was mainly attracted to blonde chicks and i have long reddish brown hair, so i went against his normal attraction. although, the nice body was still a must, and i do have a nice body, all natural also, a couple of his others were total plastic women. and when i say pyscho i mean PYSCHO...for real.
(and is it true, blondes have more fun??) kidding

Yes blondes do have more fun...lol