Help....

In my first post a while back I stated I had not yet meet my Cappy in person (and still haven't) but I was helping him with some personal issues he has (legal matters). I said in my post that I would help him as much as I could but instead of calling him with this information (which mind you would have been so much simpilier since its very complicated) I would e-mail this info to him so that I could "mess w/him." I'm trying to get this man to make a move (again) to meet me. Funny thing is that he called me last week twice and I did not pick up but rather choose to e-mail him the following day like nothing w/an update re: his information. It almost killed me (ok, so I'm exaggerating but you guys can relate to what I was feeling) to not pounce on the phone when he called. GUESS WHAT? The man called my job. The strang thing about that is I've never given him my work number and our mutual friend would not have my work number either. Okay, okay, I'm excited over nothing...right? I mean, he only went through whatever trouble he went through to get my work number b/c he wanted his info right? Well, he is coming to meet with someone in my office this week or next and won't tell me when so I can't even began to tell you guys how stressed and scared I am about this. What if he doesn't like me, what if he is just using me to get the info he needed (I know that was ugly to say but hey, it happens), what if,..............

I don't think he is using for the information because you are already giving it to him freely...so I think he probably is interested in eeting you in person...and then if he likes you, he may go from there....Men are visual

Softy, thanks for the reply....I sure hope he's not just using me although I have to say I offered the advise freely so I couldn't really be upset now could I. Having said that, I've offered to help him out a couple of times b/f (I'm a cancer - I guess its my nature) and plus I like to see if he has built up enough trust towards me to actually let me help me w/such personal things. Each time he's accepted so this is a good sign. One thing that is really bothering lately is last year when he and I first started talking I mentioned I was going out one night and what club I would be at (of course he had already said in prior conversations he didn't like that club). Odd thing is as I'm standing at the bar I noticed a man standing maybe 10 feet from me looking at me and I did a double take. We both continued to look at one another and mind you, he had to turn around to look at me b/c his back was to me. Something just told me right there and then that was the Cappy (that cancer intuition). My friends wanted to leave so the staring at each other only took place for about ten minutes or less. He called me the next morning (which he never had called that early b/f) and asked about my night, etc. I played it cool, never asked him if he was at the club but waited about a month after the fact and brought it up to him. I just casually asked it was him that particular night and he denied it. Last week during an e-mail to him while telling him I was glad to help him out, etc. I said the following to him...

"it's really nice to know that you trust me enough to tell me all of your
personal business so I can help you get the appropriate help/advise especially
since I'm just a "faceless" girl with a voice or am I really a faceless girl to
you?" "Your an intelligent man so I'm sure you can figure out what I mean by this."

I got absolutely no response to that whatsoever (so you think I was out of line saying this). BUT I have "not"forgotten his face so I will know if it was him when I meet him. I swear my intuition says it was him and I'm not sure how to react when I meet him if, in fact, he is the same man. Any suggestions?

Your probably right that it as him....I am saying this because I am cancer too and our intuition(not all the time) is usually right on target. Plus the fact that he didn't reply to the text when you incinuated that it was him...if it wasn't he would've been bewildered by it and maybe said something like "Huh?? what are ypu referring to?..I'm lost....I know I would've. If I were you, if its the same guy, I wouldn't say anything like "I knew that was you!".....that might make him feel uncomfortable....I would wait ahwhile before I brought it up.....

Softy~~~

I know I won't say anything right away if, in fact, it turns out to be him but knowing myself I will have to eventually bring it up. Its just not my nature to let something like that go. I keep thinking about it and wonder if I'll feel pi $ $ ed at him for lying should it be him or not pi $ $ ed. Didn't I read somewhere on this msg board that you are playing the waiting game w/a cappy or do I have you confused w/someone else? These cappy men, its seems as though we are all "instantly" attracted to them and feel as though they "are the one for us" and we are probably right but they are so hard to get through too..

No...right now I am dealing with an Aries....But I have dated a Capricon Man,,,but I really wasn't attracted to him...but he was very inquisitive as well as reserved....he was interested in me but I really didn't like him like that.....but Capricorns..from my experience are VERY patient.....

I dated an Aries for almost a year and I have to say that was the greatest time of my life...unfortunately mine turned out to be married but we've learned to be "just" friends (which is not easy considering the physical/mental attraction between us). I move very slowly into relationships but this man just literally swept me off my feet and refused to take anything slowly. I can honestly say b/c of that and b/c of the fact that he treated me so good was what made me let go and actually learn to "go w/the flow!" It was by far the best relationship I've ever had even though I got burned. Good luck with yours.

Thats how he is....making all kinds of plans w/out really asking me first.....I have to admit it freaked me out and scared me and I think I might have pushed him away...see —? under the Aries board......I hope I have not ruined it..I'll hav eto wait and see.

what is your sign??

I'm cancer girly just like you. I don't know about you but I have so many of my friends telling me to "stop watching the parade go by and join in!" With my aries I did just that...I let go of all of my inhibitions and went along for the ride and what a ride it was. It was the best thing I've ever done, honesty. Hopefully, my cappy will come through for me and things will heat up. I've waited a very long time for this so I hope my patience pays off with him. He is so down to earth, practical, funny, and I love that I have never meet him but he makes me feel so d@mm secure.

Everything seems all to the good right now with you and your Cappy....I wouldn't worry about anything...just go with the flow...and see where it takes you..

I'll check out your postings under the Aries and tell you more about what I think they are like......I failed to mention I was married to one for five years so I have a little insight as to how they are/can be. Besos