Hot and Cold; Driving Me Insane. Or was I insane to begin with?

Met a cap back in summer. We've been talking nonstop and got on really well, our sense of humor clicked and we had a lot in common. We went on date and started slow but really hit it off. Then we found out that we actually didn't realize that our jobs were a little more intertwined than we thought. He texted me moments after I got home and we continued talking. The following week, he stopped responding. I backed off as well, giving him space. After a week or so, I sent out a feeler and told him I'd be headed to an event, and if he were interested, he should join. He had work unfortunately (to which I knew he was telling the truth) but he continued the conversation anyway. However, he never rescheduled. After going silent a second time not long after that, I took the hint and stopped talking to him completely, figuring I'd never hear from him again.

A week later, he sends me a message, apologizing, and told me that he was a little apprehensive because our jobs worked more closely than we thought, but then he continued the rolling conversation we were having earlier. I was/am confused at this, considering he didn't really provide me with a decision he'd made, he just told me he was nervous. I told him I understood, and that I didn't know how to handle it either. No response. I was getting pretty frustrated at this point. After a few days, I told him flatly that I enjoyed spending time with him and would like to get to know him better, but understood if he wanted to take a step back. but I also expressed that I would need a better understanding of the direction he wanted to take.

Three weeks. No response. Again, I accepted the rejection, and moved on with some other prospects. The other day I saw him during work which took me by surprise. Admittedly, I know I should have acted more maturely and acknowledged the situation, but I was embarrassed and I didn't make eye contact. From the corner of my eye, I could see him trying to get my attention. I left the room. Why is he trying to get my attention? I should chalk this up to a lost cause, right? I really liked him, but I know I need to move on, it's just hard when I feel like there's unfinished business. Thoughts?

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TOO LONG DIDN"T REA😱
-Great date
-Good followup
-unfortunately finding out about working too closely in our jobs
-still keeps in contact
-starts fading
-I back off
-he comes back, apologizing, saying he's just nervous about the job situation
-I tell him I understand. I'm clear about wanting to get to know him better but needing a better idea of what he wants to do
-No response
-he sees me in person after a while and tries to get my attention
-Now the question is: Lost cause or fleeting chance?

Posted by kalin
Why do I know? Cuz they brag about it.

Ahh, yeah I'm not sure. He seems like a non-flashy genuine guy, but I don't want to be naive. Any advice on how to move forward? Or if to move forward at all?

Posted by FrenchKpricorn
When you wrote a comment and it get cut because, there is a limit size ;(

Thanks for responding; I'm pretty interested to read it, mind re-posting?

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Posted by kalin
Why do I know? Cuz they brag about it.

stop giving our secret to everybody !

One of them can write a book, seriously. He has a theory of ignoring the hottest girl in the party and while talking to her unattractive friend all night to make the hot girl wonder what's going on. Yea usually it works pretty well. Then the hot-cold stuff, among many other tricks I can't remember now. I think he gets what he wants 90% of the time--or at least he says so lol

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Ha, this sounds like something my Cap friend would do lol.

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Posted by kalin
Why do I know? Cuz they brag about it.

stop giving our secret to everybody !

One of them can write a book, seriously. He has a theory of ignoring the hottest girl in the party and while talking to her unattractive friend all night to make the hot girl wonder what's going on. Yea usually it works pretty well. Then the hot-cold stuff, among many other tricks I can't remember now. I think he gets what he wants 90% of the time--or at least he says so lol

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My Capricorn does this to me in a multitude of ways. Will make a point to like all kinds of girls pictures on Instagram (I don't find many of them attractive), but won't like a single one of my pictures. Will refer to other women as being beautiful and can't be bothered to throw a compliment my way EVER, especially in the looks department. WTF.

Lol ashley1734, my cap crush does this too! Liking other girls' pics on Facebook and one of them is our mutual friend -.- ughh

Posted by marsscorpiogirl
Lol ashley1734, my cap crush does this too! Liking other girls' pics on Facebook and one of them is our mutual friend -.- ughh

I really don't see the big deal of "liking" someone's picture. Here I am scrolling though Facebook/Instagram and I see a really good pic of someone or someone at a place I wish I were at and I "like" it. It doesn't mean I like them like that.

There are also some people who like everyone's pictures they see.

If someone likes my picture, I don't see it as flirting.

I think you guys read way too much into "liking" a picture.

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Posted by marsscorpiogirl
Lol ashley1734, my cap crush does this too! Liking other girls' pics on Facebook and one of them is our mutual friend -.- ughh

I really don't see the big deal of "liking" someone's picture. Here I am scrolling though Facebook/Instagram and I see a really good pic of someone or someone at a place I wish I were at and I "like" it. It doesn't mean I like them like that.

There are also some people who like everyone's pictures they see.

If someone likes my picture, I don't see it as flirting.

I think you guys read way too much into "liking" a picture.

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Lol but what if it's the same girl every time? Her selfies, food pics, quotes, re-posts? It makes me think that he likes her like that. Me and Cappy have known each other since we were kids. We talk online every now and then, I unfriended him on FB(for ignoring/stopped talking to me) then 2 mos later he sent me a friend request lol. And he does it again. I suppose I don't have the right to be mad, we only flirt every now and then but I like him a lot haha

Posted by caster721
@marsscorpiogirl

I'm trying to reply your PM but it tells me you have disabled private messaging.

Okay, I fixed it 🙂

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Posted by marsscorpiogirl
Lol ashley1734, my cap crush does this too! Liking other girls' pics on Facebook and one of them is our mutual friend -.- ughh

I really don't see the big deal of "liking" someone's picture. Here I am scrolling though Facebook/Instagram and I see a really good pic of someone or someone at a place I wish I were at and I "like" it. It doesn't mean I like them like that.

There are also some people who like everyone's pictures they see.

If someone likes my picture, I don't see it as flirting.

I think you guys read way too much into "liking" a picture.

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Oh totally...there is nothing really to liking a picture. It's when the person CLEARLY avoids liking yours.