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Welcome....and ok u sound too much like me. It's funny, I tell people all the time, he's just weird, and they just don't understand. But I do, and he is just extremely weird, not normal to say the least. They r difficult men, but somehow seem all worth the trouble we go thru to latch on to one. Doesn't seem quite right, but it seems that way. They have a way about them with everything. They r good at what they do, and they are especially good at keeping us around.

Leo~ How long does he "disappear" for?? I am all about #2, 3, and 4!

I just put in my 2nd contact attempt for the week... Got the voicemail. I decided to leave a message and it's rather clear that he could see me this weekend and to call. I feel that I have got to put a deadline on this in my own mind, and it's going to be 2/19. I'm willing to bet money that he doesn't call this weekend- I've laid the bait and the test is on.

1) I know he needs space. I'll give him space. Stupid Capricorn men.
2) Does he just not want to be with me? Why does he always do these stupid disappearing acts?
3) He doesn't care about me. *the usual sadness creeps in*
4) F*** him. I'm so done with him.
5) You know, this isn't any different than what he usually pulls. He always come back from his disappearance acts with great insight. He is the epitome of a man disappearing into his cave.

Are you two newly together? This happened to me the first couple months, it was very hard, and I wouldn't wish that experience of anyone! He does care about you, he just can't tell you, he wants to show you how he feels, not tell you. He pulls away to test you, and to see if he can handle being alone, he may also be going through a depression...they are very up and down people, try not to get pulled in....its not you, its him...believe me....I finall told him after a month or two of that kind of behavior that I was just going to be myself...NO more walking on egg shells around him. Have a great weekend.

Good Morning beautiful capricorn Lovers~ LOL

and Welcome LWCAA, welcome aboard the Capricorn roller coster, get in buckel up sit tight and enjoy the ride!!! LOL 😉


love to all,

Brandy aka GEG

LWCAA~ well I guess you know more about the ride then I do... 3 years geeeeesh!! ha ha 🙂


love, GEG

3 years... He and I will never reach it and still be doing this dance, bc. I will have one of us committed by then, for insanity or homicide!! LOL

LOL Capgirl. That's for d@mn sure with me also!

MyCap~ I think you seem to have an okay situation going w/ yours. I know it's frustrating not getting a same day callback, but doesn't seem like he's disappearing for days and days. I've got 9 days till "lift-off" - that's when I'm "launching" him if he hasn't called! And coincidentally this is also his 9th life- no more!

Leolady,
Wow, three years! First of all congrats you have a stomach of steel and a heart of patience! Are you ready for the next step because: for love or because you have put in so much work up to this point?
Does he call you his girlfriend? Do you know his family, do you live together?
I have noticed from my six months with cappy that he likes to move sloooowww at his own pace, always his pace. Luckily for him I am a patient taurus with a sense of humor : ) but after 3 years I would need something more, maybe engagement or even babies..I am almost 30

I agree wheretomylady, after 3 years I would need a ring. Leolady, you must be one strong person!!

Capgirl, I guess I have an ok situation going but ur right he doesn't disappear for days at a time. Now I don't call him that much, so I don't have to wait for call backs. I've gotten a lot better. So urs is on his ninth life huh? Well I hope he acts soon!

Your steps 1-5 would be hilarious if it wasn't so frustrating and sadening at times. I have gone through this about three times since Cap and I got serious four months ago. I was convinced he cared, and I invited him to come stay with me for a few days (he had stayed here twice before for a few days with benefits) and he panicked and said, "I sounds like coming home to meet the parents and I thought we were just dating!" I had no idea what he's talking about here, this was totaly weird because my dad passed away 30 yrs ago and my mom lives 3000 miles away!

Then he called several times a week later. I didn't want to take his calls after that comment but finally I gave in. He apologized several tiems and owned that it was his problem and that he was sorry he panicked. Then all seemed well for a while, but I still wonder if I will be able to handle long term the distance I feel when he "disappears". He travels a lot and sais he can't call when he is not at home, but he's got a cell phone??

I love and respect so much about him, but I'm real scared I'm setting myself up to get hurt. I don't want to punt too soon and loose a great relationship, but I don't want to wait around at snail pace for him to tell me he loves me, if ever. I was careful not to say it, but at the same time I wanted to be honest and told him "I've fallen in love with you" Is that the same thing do you think? I see a distinction between falling in love and saying ILU, but maybe he doesn't. What do you think?