Is anyone happy and content with their cappy man

Just curious...everyone on here has been hurt, is in the process of being hurt or manipulated by a cappy man, so I am wondering is anyone happy with one..
Is there such a thing as a normal, easy going relationship with a cappy man....

Personally soo-confused I don't think anyone is happy they are to busy worrying about the cappy and walking on egg shells trying to figure them out.

From all that you have read about the women with them what would you think?

I don't think they are happy. Anytime you have to watch what you say, how you say, your tone, your attitude, when you are with a man I can't find much happiness in that...seems like the person is constanly trying to make the Cappy happy then themselves...

Take your own situation are you really happy? Probably not.

I am just being honest...

I know that women on here are not content....but do you even know somebody dating a cap..a friend or cousin or a coworker that is happy with their cap...

content sb who the hell wants contentment.....that'st got to be borning...

Think those women who are with a Cap man, they are settleing, they are young they are insecure, they lact strength and confidence.

I agree with SB if they are happy they are not here.

I personally came to these boards to get info about the Cap and once I got I was out.

Simple.

"You took advice from people who were facing problems with their own cap guys. When a cap person actually tells you how it is all you guys ever did was throw the advice on their face."

Wow how true SB...I think you have to assess each individual situation..The worst thing I am telling you straight up is getting advice from people..Only YOU know your situation with a cap..how can anyone else possibly advise you? they don't know you, they don't your cap man..The worst thing is when someone who is truly bitter about their own relationship with a cap tries to advice you on yours..Don't even go there..Every guy differs be it cap, scorp or whatever..but only you know what you have to do..trust your intuition..

Peace out.

All relationships have theirs ups and downs. My partner is a Cap, and I understand the what it feels like to be hurt. The hurt resulted from being tested as they like to do so often. Their hearts are so fragile and they are more vulnerable than they let on. You would never guess by the stoic and dignified manner they show in public.

Caps are thinking about the worst case scenario and thinking how can they protect themselves. "Is she or he going to hurt me? Can I trust this person? Is this person loyal? Believe me, they ask themselves a million questions inside their head about their involvement with you. And this leads to playing games on you - testing you, analyzing your bahaviour. They were times when I felt hurt.

Caps are very patient people and refuse to rush into anything because they want to be sure about the person they are getting involve with. In the process of getting to know someone, they really watch you and really listen to what you say. Once they make their decision (to be with you)- that's it - because they don't like to back out.

Within the last year, I've been happy with my Cap. It's been tough but worthwhile. In the beginning, I had to work hard and be tough (ie: testing, game-playing). Be friends and demonstrate trustworthiness, loyalty, respect, and open communication. It helps in developing a healthy and long-lasting relationship.

hope this helps

"what I used to consider as 'walking on eggshells,' has essentially enabled me to be more logical and to rationalize things before unloading my anger and hostility to anyone, in general"

Well said LWCA!

Caps are very much to themselves - they're like an enigma - (speaking for myself here) they don't usually have alot of friends but the ones they do have are usually the ones that last for a long time - they like their isolation (I'm enjoying mine right now 🙂 and their personal lives and relationships are usually kept on the d/l - they're independent and self sufficient (there's not alot of tasks a Cap won't mind undertaking - I personally can't remember the last responsibility as I've always believed that undertaking responsibility will more better respect from others over time) they're workaholics (usually - I know I am) they'll speak their mind usually rather easygoing - the reason they lack emotional fulfillment is simply because they're not really emotional people themselves - I just recently split up w/ my ex (a Leo - we we went out for about a year and a half before I started working more and she got another job and @ that she met someone else and at that she wanted to break it up - maybe there wasn't enough emotion for her to be happy - but were still good friends - she says she's learned alot from me (I've shown her how to better handle her money and pay her bills to fit her budget better and always been there for her no matter how bad her life was going) and ever since the day we met we spent (literally) EVERY day together - but she knows I'm happier being single and I just couldn't love her the way she wanted to be so I told her why force something that we both know is never going to work out? (I also got her into astrology - she's now seeing a Cancer which I think is a much better match cause they're more family oriented just like she is - so I guess it was for the best - so really I didn't give up on her - she gave up on me - and sometimes that's a step that needs to be taken for the sake of both people - happiness should come naturally - people shouldn't have to act a certain way to make someone else happy - they should be loved for whom they are - and when that happens - will happiness truly be fulfilled 🙂

"I wasn't. He turned kind of nutso. He was really nice and sweet at first, then he went psycho. He did a 180 and turned REALLY mean and nasty. I would NOT recommend one unless you're a masochist, and I am not."

I've seen aqua female and cappy man fall apart on two occasions. Cappy men have this way about them ... I can't explain it but I believe they get better after the age of 25 😄

Nice to get some insight from a cappy guy..Welcome to the boards CapVirgo..

Thanks for your insights capvirgo. It's interesting to hear how often Leos and Caps hook up - an odd couple. I'm glad to hear that you are good friends with your ex-Leo. Your description of Cap males matches closely to describing the Caps I've met. They are VERY private people. Their personal relationships and emotions are kept under tight wraps - on the d/l. I guess Caps wand to appear strong; a tower of strength.

Taurusgirlwithcap - "...caps need to KNOW you're gonna be with them no matter what." I agree with you completely. How does he feel knowing that you love him as he is? Does he let his walls down?

Thanks for the feedback Taurusgirlwithcap. Taurus are known to be like a rock. Steadiness is one your strongest traits and for them, they want to be with someone whom they can lean on, through the good and bad times.

Oh yes, Caps have the memory of an elephant. I never realised how attentive and observant they can be.

Another thing I've learned about them is they search their whole life looking for that one person they can stick with and really love (Long-term commitment is serious business to them and they REALLY take their time).

I know he cares for me and doesn't want to hurt me, however. He's never said it and that worries me. He is kind and loyal, and his family is wonderful - a lively bunch. He even trusts me which is surprising because they are so slow to trust anybody.

Caps take a slow time to warm up to another person. For a fire sign like myself, the slow pace is frustrating, took while to get used to. I appreciate it now.


LeoWithCapandAnnoyed: he's accused me of doing that to him. I lead a busy life (and he reminds of it often) and sometimes neglect to keep in touch with him. If a few days go by and I don't call, he'll make it known to me. What's up with that? I don't get it.

All the best to all in finding happiness with their Cap 🙂

I guess the best way to put it is that if a mutual trust cannot be established in a relationship - (esp. w/ a Cap and other earth signs I believe as well) then that alone will reduce the chances of any relationship potential there may be - Caps are naturally carefree people - they do what they gotta do and they dont like to be held down by others - now I won't mind telling people (in most cases) where I went or what I'm doing - but I'd rather tell them AFTER the fact that it's been done because if you're telling someone that you're going somewhere and something causes you to have to either find another place to go instead - I think of that as lying to the person cause now my agenda has changed - whereas I say I'll be back and then come back and then I might have an interesting story to tell or something to that person (which I might find amusing myself - so long as that person isn't throwing stuff at me cause 'I was gone too long') I never could understand the whole insecurity thing - I think of it as - if a person isn't happy w/ that other person - then that other person shouldn't waste their time trying to control a relationship to end up a certain way - if things don't work out then it's whatever - stuff happens - that's life - love will always find a way if it's real - and if a Cap loves someone - they'll be back - I mean I've been in some pretty bad situations - but I've learned so much from them - and one thing I've learned is that the fate of a relationship is inevitable - one way or another - but if two people love each other enough - there should be no reason for worry - and if things don't work out - oh well - that's life - there's no point (I believe personally) in trying to hold on to something that was probably never meant to be in the first place - so trust is VERY important to me - just gotta confide in a Cap - we DO mean well - and if you trust - we'll love you all the more for it 🙂

Thought I would check in and say Hello! Me and the cappy have been together for a year next week, WOW we have had some ups and downs, but for now I am content. Capricorn men like to wait things out, I believe leocap explained this very well. They may love you but they are able to keep that love boxed up, like a xmas present or something, only letting it out when they finally decide that, "ok, they can love you, you aren't going to hurt them." These guys really, really fear, fear. They are terrified of making a mistake and loving the wrong person, so really ladies its up to you to tell them to loosen up and love, especially if you are demostrating a wholesome, open loving attitude, and don't plan on breaking their hearts.

Hello again 🙂

Wheretomylady, your comments are dead accurate.

In a previous post, Taurusgirlwithcap once said, "testing testing 123....testing." Nearly over a year has passed and he STILL tests me. These moments just annoy me; leaving me exasperated. I feel like I do my best and he still doubts me, as if it will never be enough. Most of all, I feel hurt.

I realise the emotional scars from the past can intoxicate our present relationship if we neglect to heal ourselves. He still carries the pain from the past.

Well I dunno if you would consider my last relationship - I had her taking me to work only cause my car didn't work (she insisted) so during that time I had been saving from the auto insurance and other stuff I didn't have to pay for that were alleviated from my budget - and after about 9 months I had been able to save up for a down payment on a newer car of my own and pay insurance for it and pay for the downpayment for this apartment we live in (for now - until the contract is up in december) but in return I've also helped her by paying for alot of the stuff that she wouldn't have been able to pay for herself - (I mean her being a Leo and though I did have her being frugal for awhile only cause I was trying to help her save money for her budget - but her expensive tastes eventually got the best of her and now that we're not together she's more broke than ever and I'm left having to pick up the tab on the rent cause she either doesn't get enough hours @ work or has to spend the money she does get on something or another) though I find that it seems to be my lack of emotion (or lack of a more demanding sex drive - never had any probs w/ the satisfaction part but it was apparently the whole initiation on my behalf) being the reason for a relationships falling apart - or I wasn't with them enough (even though I spent everyday w/ my last one but apparently that wasn't enough for her) I dunno - relationships seem to be somewhat of an obstacle for me I guess - I work too much - I sleep to much cause I work too much - and when I am up - they're either never around or they're too tired themselves to do anything 😛) It's an enigma all it's own I guess to me 😛)

Thank you lonely capricorn - I did get to talk to this girl I've been infactuated with - we were working but it looks hopeful - I just got brutally honest with her (though I still haven't told her I liked her but I did tell her that my ex and I broke up and how they cheated on me and it turned out that even though all I had told her friend (which is my friend - whom is also a Cap) she didn't know (or said she didn't know) that we had broken up - told her I was workaholic (but I forgot to tell her that I still spent time w/ my g/f's when I could though - now I'm thinkin she might be thinkin I might've neglected them or something - I'll set it straight though cause I told her I'd get back to her on this whole apartment thing - (I might keep it and just kick her ass out and live here for another year - I like it - but on the other hand I wanted to save too - but I told her if I figured out a way to get my budget balanced well enough to be confident in my future payments - then it could be possible - told her I couldn't stand being w/ my mom and brother - (she said she could relate to that cause she gets like that too sometimes) and I did wish her a happy b-day - asked her how it was (she said it was crusty) but I still dunno what to think - should I just let her like absorb all this info and hope for the best (cause I've heard of Virgos needing to do that when they get overwhelmed w/ information like that - I hope it's something good - it's progress - I was rehearsing it in my mind all night - what to say - she didn't have any makeup on this time and the car was close but not too close) I made her laugh though - told her it was my sister's b-day and how I went to buy her something and then took her to the movies yesterday - it's like I'm being broken down here - I can't take the silence anymore between us sometimes - she's quiet - I'm quiet - I'm thinkin to myself 'dammit say something!' Any helpful feedback would be really appreciated - we did talk about some other stuff (school - she loves school, among other things) it was funny cause there was like love songs playing on the radio in the background and when I left they were playing that Keysheia Cole "Love" song 'why you go so far away...' it was just kinda funny the timing of the songs were like setting this awkward mood or something - but anyways I just hope for something positive 😛)

Capricorn men want everything, they want soft, gentle, girlish as well as strong, deterimined, hard working complete woman! My cappy likes gentleness and hugs but he also admires my strong nature, so really its a good deal for me!