He's a CAP man and he CHEATED on me!!

Hi everyone,

Every breakup is hard but damn?_ this one is really hard.
He was a good looking, bright, 30 something Capricorn man. I am a sexy, care free also 30 something Sagittarius female. here is our brief history..
My friend saw him outside a club and mention to me how handsome he was. I couldn't really see him so, I went up to check him out myself and ended up giving him my digit. He was so cool and courteous but he had a girl friend. Long story short, he decided to be with me. We were happy (at least I thought) for more than a year together but then I found out that he was talking to many girls (young girls in their early 20s). He was saying that they are just friends. He took them out and called them 2 or 3 in the morning!! I freaked out and cussed him out. He didn't give me any explanation nor he try to apologize. He just let me go and that was almost 3 weeks ago.

To cope with my sadness, my friend invited me to his home in NYC to shop and party out. One night, I got drunk and phoned him but he didn't answer. He phoned me back next day and left me a msg saying: ??I don't know whether it was a drunken impulse or not. But call me if you wanna talk. That will be nice. Take care.?? Instead calling him, I sent him a text saying: ??I saw Jade (he and I??s favorite america??s next top model) at the club and I got excited..?? Then he sent me a reply saying ??R U in NYC? I miss you??.

That was a week ago. I didn't do anything b/c if he wants me in his life, he??ll make an attempt to bring me back to his life, right?? But I still wonder, what the heck??s wrong with him? I thought Caps are stable and honorable. I just don't get it. Because he cheated on me with so many girls, I don't know if I want him back. But at the same time, I just want to see him making an effort to let me know that I am special to him. Am I too obsessed here? My friends are saying that I am handling the situation very well. Thank goodness, I'm not sobbing every night or calling him. I miss the friendship that I had with him. I want to talk to him many times everyday like I always did for a year.

Can someone cure my sadness??

No, not all caps are assholes..Don't tar them them all with the same brush..Its like saying all men are bastards..

Thank you guys for your thoughts. I am trying to get over the situation and stay positive. My friends are being good breakup buddies and they help me a lot. I just couldn't believe that this CAP man can be so insensitive, and a selfish coward. That's all.

I dont know whats going wrong with capri nativs for the past six months, They are being percieved as being insensitive, cold,idiotic and basically jerks.

I guess the pressure of perfection is finally creaping on them. they are trying to fulfill too many agendas at the same time. Sometimes people do stupid stuff in self preservation and insecurity.

My word of advise is to tackle him face to face, he will try to reason his way out. just dont listen to any stupid argument.

Alot of Cap. men are COWards, is what I've learned from my experience with one... I even called mine a coward for being non-responsive and he didn't even defend himself... just said, "ok." LOL Sounds like yours is still playing the field, thinking he needs the young trophy wife, or just alot of action?

That doesn't suprise me one bit.

I dated one Cap man for a month when I googled his name and found out he had a wife and 2 children. He lied about his entire life to me. He told me we lived in the same town, come to find out he lives 3 hours away!

I knew another one, he was my Self Defense teacher at college. He flat out told me he had a girlfriend he wasn't going to leave, but that I would make a great sex partner for him.... What a jerk.

Sorry you have to go thru this. It sucks.

Cowards they are..some even admit to being one..But this is another side I am seeing to caps..the dishonest side..well its human nature isn't it..

Good answer from jackdoniel.. I also think that you can't make him to change himself. You just gotta leave him and if you really are special to him he will do the change when he realizes that. If he realizes that... There are so many good guys out there so I wouldn't sit and wait for that. Go out and see other guys, then you know how much fun you are missing right now. Good luck! 🙂

Top notch stuff from Jackdoniel

not all capricorns are faithful... yes capricorn women are... but MEN.... ahhhhhh..... are a bit fishy... i have seen quite alot of cappy men cheatin' on their women... when i saw the first case i waz really shocked but then i saw more and more of them....

MM~ what's up with your cap. dude?

Some of the men think they're pimps! Or they're wannabes... player-pimps.

LWCA~ Hey girl! ; )

I don't think I've cheated... No, I can't say I have. I was married for 3 years, half of which was unhappily so, and I never considered some clandestined affair or cheating. I was very bold and brazen, and rather flirted outright and openly in front of him when things were at their worst. I wasn't going to be sneaking around or lying...

J😱 "My interpretation: He is going to be who he is, just like every human being, if he got with you while he was in a relationship it's not because you were special, it's because that's what he does, the only difference is that you're on the other side of the gate now. So when you got with him, another girl was probably on other board asking that same question."

EXACTLY!!! OMG! JD, I don't have to really comment ... you stated everything I was going to type 🙂

WOMEN!!!! #1 Rule of thunb! Never .... EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVVVVVVER!!! Go into a relationship with someone ALREADY ATTACHED! ANYONE WHO WOULD START A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE ELSE WHILE BEING INVOLVED IS NOOOOOOOOOO GOOD! PERIOD!!!

hahaha
you guys are awesome!! Sereiously guys.. I'm doing fine. I just needed a lil something to make me believe that i can do so much better for myself. and there you guys are giveing me very open and honest views. I really thank you for that.
Btw, I'm going to the playboy??s party this Friday! (i love bunnies!)
muah!

p.s. yes, i'm a sag gal and this GAL JUS WANNA HAVE FUN!

Hey Capgirl..Me and cap are doing just fine..Told each other in a rather pathetic way that we like each other..as both of us aren't that great at expressing emotion!..lol..so we'll see how things go..Hows you? whats new?

The Cap that I was with for year and half if he cheated on me I don't know when I was with him to much, knew where he was all the time, and he spent a hell of a lot of time with me especially at night. I do believe after we stop seeing each other he was seeing someone else but he still continued to call and see how I was doing. Oh well that is old news know, life goes on.

remember Rod Stewart and Elvis were/are both capricorns....these men can be players, especially if their role models, aka Dad was a womanizer/cheater. Look for a cappy with a nice stable family...

"I'll have to disagree with you, Eliza. All of my female Cap friends have, at one time or another, cheated. The women do too!"

To confirm this, I have 4 close capricorn female friends. Each one has cheated in a major way. I always thought of many Cappie women to be cheaters if not promiscous in disguise since non appear or act like the stereotype. They my friends but I cant stop them.