Is she playing hard to get? (Virguy meets Capgirl)

So I used to work for three weeks with a Cap Girl. She is a ethnic Russian Belarussian girl going to a two year program, and then transfering. I am in a four year program, at a UNiveristy in town. She is 21, and I am 23. We would talk about language alot. I study Russian on my own, used to major in English (Creative Writing) and have a keen interest in everything Russian (I'm 50% Russian descent).

So I was dating a girl at the time, never asked her her number and left the restaurant. From time to time I'd go and talk with her, usually somewhat akward, I played off liking her, and probably seemed kinda cold at times. I could tell at times she would want to talk to me, as she'd look over, or move to the part nearest to me, but my own Capricorn in me (I have a Mars) prevented me from jumping to it.

So anyways, I start seeing her at school, because I took some classes to save money at the 2 year school, and I'd talk with her as we walked by. She seemed suprised and attentive. She told me her relationship, was complicated and she doesn't really have a boyfriend, yet, she's often had an IPAD or the like and says "a guy let me borrow it."

I bit the bullet today, as I really do think she is a great girl, and would like to be friends with her and in contact. I put it as an objective to go by the restaurant, invite her out and get her number.

So I go to the restaurant, and she is getting off, talk with her for a second in Russian, and then she sits down we continue the conversation. I ask her about typical stuff, and then tell her about this 'Art of Ukraine Exhibit' at the Museum that's open house on Saturday morning, and invite her to it.

She says, "I do not think I will be able to. Thank you tho." She does work a ton. So I say to her, "Well then I can invite you some place some time, when you can." Then she replies, "I don't not think that will be possible either." I'm sort of stunned, because I'm not even hitting on her, I'm actually just trying to be friends. I respond "Why is that then?" and she replies "It is too complex to explain." I am tempted to say "Try me," but drop it. It's hard to be angry a Cap Girl for me, for some reason they hardly ever offend me just make me feel unwanted/loved whatever. So I'm quiet, and then blurt out my intentions plainly as I feel she misconstrued me.
"Listen, I just want to be friends with you, I've talked to you many times, and keep running into you, I want to be friends, I think you're a great girl."

"Can I call you sometime, will you give me your number."
"Certainly" she replies.
She gives me her number without hesitation, and continues a half conversation while she messes with her cellphone.

I don't really get it. I have a girlfriend, and I am not saying I don't have some desire for this Russian girl but above all I just wanted to be friends, especially because she speaks Russian. She seems to shoot me down so coldly and I don't understand why. I guess maybe she did have some interest in me, and honed in on another guy and sealed the deal? She saw me as a potential wanna-be suitor and had to nip that in the bud? Or perhaps, she just isn't interested? That's just her reaction to guys who try to enter her life? Maybe, she is just playing hard-to-get but I seriously doubt it.

This Capgirl just made me feel really crappy for trying to put myself out there. I know between a Virgo and Cappy someone has to make a serious move to initiate the very rewarding friendship, so I endeavored to do so. It's been 3 1/2 months that we've been talking to eachother, running into eachother, it's about time.


What do you all think?

Lol @ wanting to be her friend

"So I say to her, "Well then I can invite you some place some time, when you can."

^THIS^, and the timing of it was most probably what made her change her mind about you as a potential friend. To be honest, your interest came across in a romantic manner and your attitude just doesnt compute with this "I just wanna be friends" story you're telling us.

I mean, no need to fear the attraction, rather embrace it..cappy girls are irresistible 😉 the cappy picked up on your romantic intereste disguised in a "friend" mask, so dont blame her for turning cold on you.

Posted by thxbutnothx
^^^ Very nice picture. You guys look alike!

🙂 thank you, for some reason I under the vague impression Ive talked to you before 😉

Its been impossible for me not to feel any kind of familiarity with most Cappy females Ive seen/met, so I very much doubt I could totally say Ive never met you before if I saw your pic 😛

So, she saw through my friend disguise. I suppose she's not interested, she probably living under some dude's jock already, and I'm just not that relevant to her life. She might just think of me cowardly because at the time she might have wanted me I was busy with the current gf, and now thats its not all that I thought it would be, I randomly blitzkerg her. Lame. I can see that.

Posted by thxbutnothx
It's pretty amazing to me that you would extend your love of your cappy to all cappy females across the board lol.

I do, in fact I like to extend it to all cappy women in the world 😄 Most of them can use a hug at least!

You too have a great one 🙂

Posted by sikkario
So, she saw through my friend disguise. I suppose she's not interested, she probably living under some dude's jock already, and I'm just not that relevant to her life. She might just think of me cowardly because at the time she might have wanted me I was busy with the current gf, and now thats its not all that I thought it would be, I randomly blitzkerg her. Lame. I can see that.

What did you expect? You talk about you two being involved with other people. Besides I dont get the impression you have let things take their natural course, building trust takes time.