Ladies ...

I adore the ladies on my board (cappies and non-cappies) -- I think its important to take a peek at this. I posted this on the Relationships board too

http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/health/oral-sex-linked-to-cancer-you-must-read-this-290258/?pg=1#commentsBR ">Read this

What's typical is how so many people seem to speak negatively about the article, and barely any men want this article to exist, which I find amusing 🙂

It diappoints me how the intelligence level among my generation at an all time low when it comes to this sort of thing. But I bet most of them have decent computer skills 😉

This re-enforces my belief in carely screening who you decide to have sexual contact with -- one person's stupidity and dishonesty can easily be another person's mistake and burden.

I think this article is directed more towards those who:

1. Lead secret sex lives -- you know who I'm talking about The ones who behave like they are in a committed relationship with one person but in fact have like one or more lovers.

2. Those who have multiple partners -- whether they are open about it or not. Its true, they use protection but from what I discovered during the winter' 08 semester in my class -- their are certain STDs that condoms, CANNOT protect. My instructor didn't go any further because he wants us to learn the rest in graduate school.

3. People who practice unprotected sex -- the ones who feel that its okay to not use a condom if its just oral sex, yeah, those jokers

4. Average college students -- most girls my age will do anything to get "that" guy and most guys my age what to "get" as many girls as possible. This maybe fun for the short term but the long term ....

5. Simple-minded people -- the ones who mindlessly unzip their pants or undo their skirts. The ones who get STDs and have no idea how contracted it lol!!!

These are three of the best comments (imo):

Posted by KitKat Sat Oct 18, 2008 12:31pm PDT
This article isn't about giving or not giving your "man what he needs." This article is about being a responsible sexual partner. The article does not suggest to engage or disengage in oral sex; it is just showing us that there is indeed a risk involved, and that it is up to us to be aware of this risk, educate others, and act accordingly so that we can protect ourselves. Consider driving a car: there are risks involved, but obviously no one stops driving. That would be ridiculous. Rather, we do things to try to protect ourselves, like wear our seatbelts. The same could be said of oral sex. No one says to stop engaging in oral sex, but to merely be aware of the risks and to protect yourself. Protecting yourself does not mean that you have to run out and get the vaccine, especially if that compromises your beliefs. Just getting tested for HPV and having your partner do the same would be a step in the right direction.
Thank you for bringing to light an important risk factor for men and women everywhere

Posted by Aurora Sat Oct 18, 2008 7:10pm PDT
people are so gross now. everyone "does" everyone and somehow in society thats ok now? society is sooo screwed up. what happened to people being careful and cautious with what they do and understanding that their actions have consequences. what about AIDS and all the other gross diseases out there? or does everyone think it just wont happen to them? or even worse, no one really cares anymore about themselves or others. who said this is a better way to live.....

Posted by SteveRN 16 hours ago

It is wise to consider things in proportion to reality.
Take our largest football stadium, "The Big House" aka the Michigan Stadium. Imagine you are at a full house game; look around. Of all the people you can imagine seeing, one will die of a HPV related oral cancer according to your stats. The rest will not.
The math: 34,000 deaths (note: you say cancers; not all will be un-curable) x 39% . That's 13,260 cases. Assuming worst case scenario we now have 13260 cancer deaths. Divide that number into our 281 million population = ~1 per 28,100. Or one in three full Michigan Stadiums. Note: I used the image of one football stadium because though you relate to 30's & 40's the data seems to relate to the 40's age group only. But the illustration shows that when compared to the magnitude of our population this number is not what it might initially seem.
Let's keep medical journalism "real" shall we? This being said, let's add that there is a large increase in genitally sited oral herpes simplex and in orally sited genital herpes simplex related to oral sex. So all of this points to avoiding casual sex. (with the unanswered question of kissing...OMG!)
If you engage in casual sex or engage in committed sex with someone who has engaged in casual sex, you are at risk. So people, be choosy and minimize risks by the use of condoms and dental dams. And remember there is only one form of truly safe sex: Get two heavyweight large trash bags, cut holes for the arms and head, each puts one on; now get it on...but remember, no kissing!

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lol, I guess I can be proud to not be a loose woman afterall 😉 lol, when it comes to sex, it pays to think instead of just taking "action". In the sexual area is the spot I will always think first 😄

i feel like a 1000year old zombie seeing all this shyt happening. where the will any decent guy come from? i think i might just die in my current state of sexual chastity

At this point, I don't blame you 😄 I think there are some pretty decent dudes out there, you just have to be able to filter through the ones that give you the bull-shit and the ones who give you the real shit 😉

It takes experience to understand how to do this -- in college, most guys aren't really serious about things like this and neither are many girls. So when you find someone who is, its best to try and get to know them quickly -- but if you lose out, no big deal 😉

I knew there was a good reason for me to have hang ups about it.

I have hang-ups about doing that sort of thing casually -- fyck no! LOL, I never have and I never will. Only with someone I'm committed too; if I'm going to start taking care of myself, I better keep my sexual health up to part too 😉

I'm never been the type to drop to my knees just to 'start' a relationship with a guy, heck no!

As a matter of fact, I can count the amount of sexual partners on one hand -- no how about that 😉 AND, I don't use all my fingers 🙂

Yes, I've done my dating but I have slept with ever guy I've dated or even been in a realtionship with for that matter -- the ones that were actually relationships were short lived but hey if things didn't feel right, then I didn't open my legs or my mouth 😉 Most of the time I was right and I would thank god I didn't let them touch me 🙂