Need help with cappy ex!

Hey everyone! This is my first time doing a post on DXPnet. I usually read other people's advice on various topics. But anyways, I am a scorpio male that is desperatley trying to get back with my ex-capricorn girlfriend. I know I must be a fool for trying so hard to get back with her because she dumped me on Facebook and became a total bitch to me after we broke up, but there is something that keeps
me coming back to her (which is I cannot explain). The reason why she broke up with me was because she didn't take our relationship serious from the beginning, and she felt that it would be unfair to our relationship (from what she was telling me). But I think the reason she broke up with me, was beause she was fickle, and didn't know what she wanted. Well, anyways, to make a long story short, KARMA (the bitch that it is) came back to bite her in the ass. The way she went into our relationship (not taking it serious), and the way she dumped me, and the way she treated me afterwards came back to haunt her because the guy she dated after me did the same thing that she did towards me. But yeah, I was wondering from any of you cappies if you can give me adivce on how too woo back an ex-capricorn lover who has just broken up with some dude for a week now. I told her that I would give her space to get over him, and I also told her if she needed anyone to talk to that she could always call me. I am giving her time to get over him because I don't want to be a rebound boyfriend, but at the same time I gave her proposal that she should think about my offer of giving us another chance, and give me an answer on valentines day (Its when we hooked up) But yeah, do you cappies have any advice on how to Woo capricorn successfully. I know they say be patient, diligent, and real with a cappy and you just might succeed..... But any advice would be great.... And yes I am a fool for trying to get back with her, but there is something about her....

BTW, I forgot to mention that I also have another interest too, but I am keeping my options open.... You can never know what will come ur way....

don't go kissing her ass if you don't see her coming back around. if you act like a doormat, she will treat you like one. Move on and find someone that wont make you jump through hoops of fire in order to be with them.

welcome again, dude. any clue what it is about her, flip? other than there's 'something about her' i see you've described her as a bitch... what keeps you coming back? know what it is that you want, what you love and what you can and cant forgive. i know its not as easy as snap, but you should think about that.

and i also left a lengthy reply to your request for advice on the scorp board.

"don't go kissing her ass if you don't see her coming back around. if you act like a doormat, she will treat you like one. Move on and find someone that wont make you jump through hoops of fire in order to be with them."

ayayaye... this makes me wince... theres a difference between making your presence and feelings known in action vs. yes... ass kissing and being a doormat. just be sensible, realistic and you should be fine.

"BTW, I forgot to mention that I also have another interest too, but I am keeping my options open.... You can never know what will come ur way...."

this also makes me wince... know what you want. if this is your mindset 'be on the lookout for something better that might come along' then i should tell you that caps play for keeps. we're the committed types, and rarely anything else so if you're just out to play the field then consider her feelings please. whether she's a bitch or not, dont be one yourself.

I'm also a cap woman. I was going to say the same as PantyCreep and cap said about keeping options open.. I would act like a b/i/t/c/h to a man who keeps his options open or maybe he would be just air to me. Maybe she saw that you look out for something else and is acting like a b/i/t/c/h because she got disappointed in you?

I am an aquarius and this is just my reading of the situation... she dumped you and you don't want to trust her because she dumped you once. I say that at this point you have EVERY right to keep your options open because she was being insecure and untrue to you.

However I am going to say that you are acting a bit too easy for this girl at this point. She doesn't know what she wants... your words. So what makes you think that she's suddenly going to realize that she wants you?

My advice here is be a little hard to get. Make her see that you are a great catch. Once she realizes that then stay true and what everyone else says. The old 'compliment and disappear' routine is neccessary. You told her that you were open to talking and forgiving her, but that's so simple that she won't take it.

I say that you need to make another girl laugh right in front of her. She needs to see or hear another girl talking or wanting you. In order to win her this time you have to let her realize that you are worth having. If she thinks that you are waiting for her no matter what she does, then desire never builds. Girls want confident men.

Another option is not to talk about feelings UNTIL she brings it up. Let her come to you. Guys like the chase and all but before you can catch her you have to make her want you.

Desire and wanting is the first step in your quest!

ladyvie ----> "old 'compliment and disappear' routine"


Me: I don't understand what that means can u futher explain?

i'll say it again, as a cap... we hate games, and nothing gets passed us. she'll sooner balk at that then someone who's offering something real... like a caring friendship. but you know, whatever you wanna do... what do i know really. i'm only a cap. use your instincts, that will land you where you ought to be.

Hey everybody! Thanks for ur advice. I decided to just give up on her after we talked on the phone. Her fickleness, and not being completley open to me when we talked really bothered me. I realized that I don't want a partner like that. So I just gave up. Also, I prefer not to get my heart broken again and there are other fish in the sea, especially one who has my eye! Anyways, thank you everybody for all your adivce. - Flipatl