Please Help... Considering Drastic Gesture

Girls...

I am no romantic and said I could take or leave VDay... it really has no bearing upon my "relationship" w/ the Cap. but yet I'm feeling this pull to do something significant or symbolic to show my feelings... I am thinking about just one song on a CD tucked in a pink or red envelope, delivered under his door. I know which song, but just don't know whether to leave it all anonymous with no sign that it's from me, or to just subtly indicate on the CD w/ an initial that it's from me. And heck, should I not do this at all, bc. it'd be too scaaarrry and overwhelming for him?? I just feel like we're at a cross-roads where he's either not believing what I've told him bc. words mean nothing and my actions haven't been too aggressive as far as pursuing him, or he knows what I feel for him and is just not all that interested or motivated to give it a chance. Either way, would this leap/risk I'm taking really ruin what is or is not there now?

Help- and don't hold back. ; ) (The song is... "Collide" - Howie Day. I feel that he and I have similar "emotional make-up" due to same moon signs, sun signs, and trine venuses and mars, and this song really kills me every time I listen to it.)

Don't hesitate to tell me "NO" bc. I don't know where the he!! this idea is coming from and I question following through on it....

Oh gosh- I'm already thinking bad idea, too much wine. Please veto and second this before Tuesday!!

CapGirl,

The CD idea is good. My cappy gave me a CD, totally out of the blue and unexpected [I'd never heard the song b/4], a few years ago with a song on it. I listened to the words and they were so poignant. I was almost afraid I was reading more into it, but afterwards, he assured me that I was right in what I thought and the CD said exactly how he felt about me.

Now, we've heard it said that cappy men don't express their feelings well. Well, that song was my cap's way of telling me what I meant to him. Since you are capricorn too, I think you are following your heart. I dont' know the song you are referencing, and yes, putting yourself out there. But I think there must be a level of comfort there if you are going to go through with it. If your cappy does not get your message via your CD ... d/a/m/n ... I don't know what to say ... kick his a/s/s to the curb. He doesn't deserve you.

hey you girls..did you know that Howie day is a capricorn...LOL 😉 when I heard the song months back I said I bet hes a cap and guess what!!!!!!! I was on the money

love to you

CapGirl,

I was in the same scenario this past Christmas. I put a gift in his mailbox with a Merry Christmas on it and no name. He liked the gift and called me days later and asked if it was from me. They like suprises. It wouldn't hurt to do it for him. I think it's sweet, and it's how u feel so go for it. What can u lose?

Thanks, PF and MyCap... I'd like to but I think I was in romantic-overload mode last night (too much red wine)! I had called him on Friday and left that msg. to give me a call and I haven't heard from him. I'm pretty sure he's not out of town, too. So, I have no reason to go doing anything.... I've signed up for the first time ever on match.com, and am going to start getting serious about dating. Have to do something different to get past him.

I'm sorry he didn't return your call. I know how u feel tho, I wouldn't consider doing it now if he hadn't returned my call either. Good luck on the match.com, are you sure ur ready to start dating tho? I don't think ur truly over your cap. Is it best to move on like that, or should u take some time out first? Just suggestions! Good luck w/whatever you choose tho!

You may not be over your cap but you deserve to be treated with respect and date someone who plays minimal games!If this guy really wants you he should take you, not ignore your calls, etc. Good luck with match.com, I tried it before my cappy came along, my advice: dont put your hottest picture out there unless you want to get hundreds of emails... : )

Leo~ how many days has it been for you, since you've heard from him?

I did the eHarmony personality test thing, and it has never sent me any matches. I didn't get too into it or pay $ or anything though.

I know he'll end up calling. I just get tired of opportunities being lost to spend time together, and having weekends free, where it makes no sense why we're not together over them if this is really going anywhere and has potential. Ya know?

Been there, done that CapGirl. I used to sit at home and wonder why he's not calling me when I know he's off work and has free time to do so. It used to bug the sh!t out of me so bad, I'd get frustrated, then when he did call me finally, whether it be that day or a few days later and I'd be fine to him and act like I didn't care. I kept all that bottled up inside so long, then one day I just let it all loose on him. It wasn't a good thing to say the least, but I sure felt better. Now it's weird because I don't know when I'll hear from him, and I'm fine with it and he does just call out of the blue now, and pretty much everyday, but sometimes every other day because I guess now he thinks he's losing me. U just have to figure a lot out about ur cappy and how they each deal w/things. Then you'll know how to work them! I've finally figured mine out, and now I'm pretty much stress free w/the whole thing. I know it's frustrating, and we all deserve better!