Relationship with capricorn woman is over, or not?

Dear people, I really have a messy case with my life at the moment. I would be very grateful, if there could be capricorn women, or females who has gone through a similar case, could read my story and maybe give their opinion on this issue. Here's the story so far:

I am a 40-year old male and I have been born under a sign of cancer. Joann is 28-year and was born under a sign of capricorn. I have read that cancer and capricorn make a good couple. And that's how I really felt with Joann. My previous relationship (before Joann) was very destructive. We were truly a horrible match, fighted about every possible issue on earth. I felt miserable in thiat relationship. For some unknown reason I was just hanging and feeling that my life is going to be wasted. I think I expected that my ex would end that misery, since I didn't have the power to do that. We never really talked things through since as she then moved to other country, and overall she always resisted to talk anything about us. Talking was nonsense business for pussies. So, all the things were left sort of open. I was then living in my homecountry on my own, waiting truly for nothing. Then, the last time she visited me for one week at august 2009. I really felt miserable and at some point I decided that I cannot live my life this way anymore, having a relationship in which we meet 2 times a year for 3 weeks or so. We have been hanging together complete of 4 years. I decided to move on - straight away. Now, this was really a mistake, as I have realized now.

Then, during october 2009 I met Joann, and we started to date slowly. Pretty soon it was serious. However, as I didn't really processed the case with my previous ex, that created some problems in our relationship, right from the beginning. As a truly clever and quick woman, Joann sensed that there is something odd in here. At some point, I then needed to tell her about my ex. This was a shock for her, but after a week or so, she then proposed me that we should get separated for the next 3 months so that I could settle my things finally with my ex. That's what we did. We saw each other a couple times in a month and talked in phone sometimes for hours. I changed my phone number and cut all connections with my ex at this time. I thought this was enough.

At the spring 2010 decided to move to the same city, in which she was living and since then, I started to do working trips with train on a daily basis. We set up our own place and decorated

it together, no expenses counted. I'd say that on a daily basis, we were really a good match. No hassles about any stupid issues like how to squeeze tootpast tube or so. We made holiday trips together, she introduced me to her sisters and friends in denmark and life was feeling great and real. However, I understand now that since I haven't really process the case with my previous ex, all the issues and feelings were still there, just waiting to be popped up. At the end of 2010 my ex called to my working number and told me that she is in the country. I honestly thought that finally I could give her stuff back and say goodbye and continue my life with Joann, finally without this burden of past. I felt ready for this. Since I didn't want to hide anything from Joann at this point, I told her everything. Joann got enraged and told me she didn't believe a word of what I say. She was moving rest of her stuff away from the house and left key to table. She told me angrily that I can have my ex and she don't want to hear anything about me ever again. I acted stupidly and my pride prevented me to do anything. I lost my temper also, and said exact opposite things what I felt at that moment. One week from that point she called me, and I now understand that she maybe wanted to start over (later I found out that this really was the case). But I acted stupidly and my pride prevented me to do anything, again. I wanted to retaliate, to have satisfaction. For the next 4 months I worked like crazy to get the whole thing out of my mind and denied everything what has happened. Since there was some of her stuff still in the house, I wished secretly that she would come back again. But she didn't come back this time anymore. It took 4 months and we were not in any touch during that time. During this 4 months I finally met my ex. To my surprise, we were able to talk about the issues and I truly got a feeling that were finally even. After seeing my ex, giving her stuff back, I truly felt I was able to let her go. I mean that I don't feel to be obligated to her in any way or to have any responsibility about her anymore. I don't get sad if I am thinking about my ex anymore. At the end of april, I then realized how much I miss Joann, and that I really have made a biggest mistake of my life. I felt that I need to get her back.

After I started to reach her again, she didn't respond in any way. Not to my calls, text messages, emails, or anything and I was feeling myself desperate. I r

I realized she has changed her phone number. I even called to her sister and closest friend and asked them to tell Joann that I'd like to talk to her, please. Nothing. Finally, as a last chance to make contact, I decided to visit her place. She allowed me to have a chat in terrace of her place. I tried to explain honestly as I could, how I feel about her. I told that I have made a mistake of my life, I love her, I know in my heart that she is the woman I want to share my life. Tears were there as I tried to talk with her. And honestly, this is how I feel about her at this very moment. I also told her that the thing what was creating problem between us (ex), is gone from my head and heart. I told her that what should have been processed year ago concerning my ex, has happened now after we separated and I finally met my ex. I got an impression that she didn't believe me. She was quite calm as she spoke with me and from her side, there were no tears or any bursts of emotions. As we were talking, I felt that she was opening a bit. She said that coming physically to face her, I was acting like a man and she respected that gesture. She told me that the trust is gone from our relationship, and that has made impossible to continue together again as she cannot trust me anymore. During this conversation, I sort of realized that starting from this point directly together is not any option, after all what has happened. She said, that have a time for you and then you will be ready for that right woman. She said that basically I am a good person and I will be a good catch for them because of how I look, my working place and my financial status, and that if she would love that very comfortable life style she would still be with me but she's not after that. I then told her that maybe, when I get over this, maybe we could be friends. She told me that "I had stole her line", and she feels the same. She also added, that I need to get over this and after 6 months or so, I could contact her if I really want. She also added that I should remember that "she will not contact me first. It has to be me who says hi first". She told me this two times. And also, if we meet again, she will come to me as a friend, not as a lover. But after this 6 months or so, "just call me and I'll be there". I promised to respect this 6-month period. She also casually told that now she finally got her 4-year visa to stay in the country. I congratulated her and said that she is now really ready to stay

in the country. She responded like, "hmm.. let's see" and "maybe I will".

I am really now in a purgatory with this. Is there any hidden message in what she told me? I mean that do I have even tiny chances to get her back anymore? Was this a sophisticated way to say "fix your head and life and then come back again if you really want me after 6 months" or is this really the end of everything and I should move on and forget her? Should I respect this 6 months timeframe not to contact her, or if I constantly feel the same for her, should I try to contact her within, say, couple of months or so?

Mikael

Mikael, I would be asking this question on the Cancer message board.