Says he wants to be with me but not showing it!

So some of you might remember I posted about a Capricorn guy a couple weeks back who kept arranging dates then cancelling with me and I got a mixed responce. I just want to say thank you for all those responces - at the time we had 1 more date arranged, he promised me it was definitely happening this time and suprise, suprise... it didn't!

Fast foward 3 weeks of NC between us, I get a text Sunday morning at 3.30am asking how I am, I then sign into my FB account to see a message from him sent 15 minutes before the text asking what I was upto and saying here's my new number text me. Fast foward to 4.45am and he's standing on my door step. The reason why, he had seen a post I made about drinking champagne with footballers and got jealous, even though he said he knows he shouldn't be.

We sat up until 8am and he explained that although I had tried to set up numerous dates with him, he didn't think I was that interested, he said he's thought about me every day since and when he see's comments from other guys on my pictures, he wants to say something but has to control himself. - Not saying I believe every word he says, I just want to share whats been said

He knows I'm cool with just dating, or even friends if that's what he wants, but he says he wants to be with me and I told him he'd have to prove that which again he isn't doing, I asked him if he meant what he said about wanting to be with me and he confirmed he did, so I told him I'd like to see him again and he said I want to see you again to as soon as possible, so I told him to let me know when and again I've heard nothing...I know he's physically attracted to me

So I don't know what gives, he knows he doesn't have to be with me that we can just keep it casual or whatever so why is he saying he wants to be with me then making no effort. I don't know if it would be different if I told him I want to be with him to. He even knows he's going to lose me.

I'm just not getting the point of him getting a taxi to my house at 4.30am in the morning after it's been 7 weeks since we first went out and to tell me all that and no, it wasn't a booty call.

Maybe someone has some crazy theory on this.

All I see are red flags!

Showing up at 4:30 a.m.—?!!!! Inappropriate.
Getting jealous of male friends comments on facebook?! Really?

I think you're better off sending him on his way. He sounds insecure, indecisive and a little weird. Most likely would become clingy in an obnoxious way. Best I remember, he was saying things the first night he met you that were too good to be true. Be careful. He could end up being a stalker. Wonder how much Scorpio he has in his chart?

run fast and run far If hes that indecisive, jealous and cann't even keep a date now whats he going to be like later.. I dunno either you want a relationship with someone or you don't maybe I,m just to simple and thats why I stay single. I couldn't handle all the drama

Posted by WoundedLeo

Posted by truecap Be careful. He could end up being a stalker. Wonder how much Scorpio he has in his chart?

Is it really true that Scorps have a tendency toward stalking?

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They say they do. Well some of them, anyway. I have scorp rising and venus. I have the thoughts and urges, but refuse to do it. Unless facebook stalking counts. lol!

Posted by Metoo
How old is he?

He's 23, 24 in Jan.

Actions speak louder than words. If he's not responding he's not interested. Ignore him or you'll inevitably end up appearing quite desperate which KILLS any opportunity to move forward. Men know women that are of value have a life, have other men chasing her and that kind of woman doesn't waste time on men that stall. Ignore him, let him come and get you then move forward with him.

Posted by wonderingsoul

I'm just not getting the point of him getting a taxi to my house at 4.30am in the morning after it's been 7 weeks since we first went out and to tell me all that and no, it wasn't a booty call.

It WAS a booty call. In his eyes, it was. You probably gave off some sign that you weren't down, so it turned into a friendly, "let's talk" visit so it wasn't so obvious. No guy stops by at 430am without a possible intent of getting laid. Any contact like that after 10pm = booty call hours.

The guy is full of shit. He has no idea what he wants and he wants to string you along as an option. Tell him to fuck off and be done with it. The only time a guy's actions don't match his words is when he's full of shit and he is NOT truly interested. If this is how he treats you in the pre dating stages, why would you want him as a friend??

He comes around when its convenient for him. He gives you all these tall tales about what's really going on, but his actions speak differently. He's "jealous?" Yeah right. He's just saying that shit to keep you around and make you think that he's actually interested.

All he wants is some ass. A guy that flaky and iffy should be an absolute turn off, so I don't get why you're still caught up on his bs.

I knew a Cap JUST like this. He was weird and once he realized he wasn't getting any from me, he high tailed it out of there. Haven't heard from him since. Gave me all the "we're friends" bullshit lines, yet coincidentally had no problem bringing up hooking up on multiple occasions, even though I said no every time.

You, and most females, need to realize that guys are NOT that hard to read most of the time. They can be pretty obvious if you pay attention to what's going on - mostly through actions.

If a guy says he's interested, yet he can't be bothered to contact you, then he's not interested.
If he goes from "interest" to saying that he wants to be friends, he doesn't want to be your friend. He wants to keep you around as an option.
If he waits weeks at a time to get in touch, is flaky in responding and hanging out (like he claims he wants to do), he's full of shit and doesn't respect you the least bit.
If you barely hear from him, but magically, he can be bothered beyond 10pm, he sees you as nothing but a "piece of ass" potential. A guy truly interested would not contact you randomly during witching hours.

Does it really matter WHY he does/says what he does/says? What do YOU want? What are YOUR standards? Where's the line for YOU? Set your bar and see if he meets it. By your report he has been failing miserably.