Posted by iloveitaly
beautifulsoul74, yes all the red flags were there, but I really was not lonely. I am never lonely for men. I am around so many of them, not romantically. I thought it would be nice to have a male companion on this big ranch. He has been helpful. Both of us know the romance is gone. He keeps coming back like a long lost relative. Neither of us is leading the other one on. There is no romance or intimacy. My confusion is this: How did I grow up with a very quiet, shy person who is now Zorro the Swashbuckler? Where did I go wrong? Do people change so drastically. I thought I was getting a nice quiet companion. I got a rock and roll party. What did I miss? Are Aries so shy and insecure that they mask themselves until they are older? My questions here are about all this Aries energy I did not see. Most of my friends are Aries, but none are as impetuous and as impatient as is this one. How did I miss this? I am baffled. Are there any Aries out there who were quiet growing up and are now Lion Riders?


You're really naive if you think a person stays the same person they were in high school. Nevermind you let the dude move in under this assumption. Did you even really know the current him before letting him move in, or did you just go "well things were cool in high school. Come on down!"
Posted by beautifulsoul74
Posted by iloveitaly
I am new to this forum. I am not sure how to answer specific questions to specific people.

Hollyhock what is NN? We were romantic for 6 months and then the relationship fizzled after he hat-racked a grove of trees so he could get a "better view of the mountains." The trees will now die.

beautifulsoul74 There really is not much more to tell you. He is an old friend from home who is like a brother and I feel sorry for him. He lives in Indiana in the middle of nowhere and farms for free for his brother and nephew. I do not know if something happened to him during his two tours in Iraq. I would never turn away an old friend or a nice relative. I have a large enough ranch where I can avoid him...sometimes. My questions is this: Look at all the Aries in his chart. Why did I think he was shy and quiet in high school? He never dated. Just played sports and played them well. What am I missing here? I can see how someone with so much Aries can be a steamroller, but how did I miss this in grade school and high school. I would not have allowed him to come out if I had know he would talk all day and night. I'm asking for someone to explain to me the dynamics of all the Aries in his chart. Don't get me wrong. He is a nice guy, but I just did not realize how obsessive, nuts, and crass he is. My friends tell me I am very refined. This mix confuses me. He is very good to my animals and to the little girl I am rearing.
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I see but I'll be honest...he's only doing this because you allow it. I'm not making you into a bad person but I think you rushed into this situation with him out of loneliness/sexual attraction/etc without thinking and now that the honeymoon phase has worn off, you're having regrets. To be honest, I think you saw the red flags but ignored them, again, because you couldn't see past what you wanted. As I stated before, it's ok, we're all human and make mistakes. But fixing this situation begins with you being honest with yourself. While Aries can be controlling, they typically don't do these things and don't come around unless they're under the impression that somebody wants them there.

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Sweetie, this is all on you. He may have his problems, but you're enabling.

You are not allowed to cry about this mess you put YOURSELF in.

"No" is an amazing word, and the passive way you're victimizing yourself is lol. You let him move out to you. You let him steam roll into your life. Any normal, sane person would know that someone who is ready to move that quickly has problems, but you allowed it.

He's not the only one with mental issues here.

Not excusing him, but you're to blame too.
Posted by Mandy27
lol does it bother you?!?!?! I'm sure we all do it..
I "try" to reply to everyone but having a choice is great !




Forums aren't like chatting.

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Posted by Shrewdsharp
I think the title of your thread.."the jelouse libra"....speaks volumes about competence...or lack there-of! ROFLMAO! I am over it!



Agreed. People need to understand that you sound like a treetrunking idiot when your written communication is marred with piss poor spelling and/or butterty grammar.


Auto correct causes mistakes at times and I didn't realize until it was posted.
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Honey, that is not autocorrect. Autocorrect CORRECTS words, not misspell them for you.

Nice try though.

Hai Domino. Hope all is well, dude.
The latter want to treetrunk you immediately.
Posted by jeane
Posted by rockyroadicecream
Posted by jeane
I don't know. I was confused before my bull and I got together. I had no idea how he felt about me. I'm still not sure when his feelings changed. I think I was a member of the "almost always" club.


There's always minor exceptions. I've had two run ins with Taurus guys.

One was pissing me off with his weird butter. He was clearly sniffing around. He seemed to have some sort of interest, but he was just treetrunking around when it came to being direct. I didn't entertain his butter for long, it was so annoying. Turns out he was just looking for someone, anyone to fill the girlfriend void, which included being an opportunist sniffing around to see what he could get with minimal effort. Not worth my time.

The other was an older neighbor who's off his rocker and had just gotten divorced and decided to start chasing me out of left field. Prior to that, I had trivial amounts of interaction with the guy, so any "harbored" feelings were unknown until he started approaching me. It was gross, crazy, and the guy is like twice my age. He's still pretty batbutter and STILL tries once in awhile despite his current relationship status- possibly married (none of us know, we thought it was just a girlfriend situation but they might have gotten married).

So basically, one was in the "timid" category, which I don't have time to deal with, and the other was the more direct category.

Both were treetrunking weirdos though, so yeah.


I think what made my situation confusing was we were friends. So it was a lot of "is he just being friendly? But he flirts with me. But he doesn't ask me out. But he likes to touch me whenever we meet. But he is probably just nice to everyone" nonsense constantly running around in my head.

Being a libra just made everything extra hard because I was forever double guessing myself.

Turns out he was interested but not all that much because he didn't think I was and he was not sure he was ready for another relationship anyway.

So yeah, a lot of extenuating circumstances.
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Yeah, your Libran tendencies didn't help any haha.

I was in a spot like that with my Libra friend from high school. It wasn't til YEARS later, it became known we had both liked each other like that haha.
Posted by jeane
I don't know. I was confused before my bull and I got together. I had no idea how he felt about me. I'm still not sure when his feelings changed. I think I was a member of the "almost always" club.


There's always minor exceptions. I've had two run ins with Taurus guys.

One was pissing me off with his weird butter. He was clearly sniffing around. He seemed to have some sort of interest, but he was just treetrunking around when it came to being direct. I didn't entertain his butter for long, it was so annoying. Turns out he was just looking for someone, anyone to fill the girlfriend void, which included being an opportunist sniffing around to see what he could get with minimal effort. Not worth my time.

The other was an older neighbor who's off his rocker and had just gotten divorced and decided to start chasing me out of left field. Prior to that, I had trivial amounts of interaction with the guy, so any "harbored" feelings were unknown until he started approaching me. It was gross, crazy, and the guy is like twice my age. He's still pretty batbutter and STILL tries once in awhile despite his current relationship status- possibly married (none of us know, we thought it was just a girlfriend situation but they might have gotten married).

So basically, one was in the "timid" category, which I don't have time to deal with, and the other was the more direct category.

Both were treetrunking weirdos though, so yeah.
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Posted by rockyroadicecream
I want to know why you can't spell Taurus right when it's right there at the top of the forum?

Also, you're not confused. You just refuse to see the reality of whatever it is that's going on- he's not into you.

Confused = almost always not into you.

Move on.


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I love you... Lol lol

The fact she is asking for "Taurus male" as if that is going to make a difference to her situation.

U are correct Rocky, confusion does mean "not into you" and 10 out of 10 times the OP's who say that know the brutal truth but yet they come here for some kind of validation which is simply wasting our time..

OP, Taurus is never confused. If we are into you, you would not have to ask...
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That goes for any guy, too.

I mean, when I was younger, as a lot of females do when they're younger, you cling on to little things because you want to see if they like you like you like them. Oh he said this. Oh he did that. But it's all "confusing" because you want it to mean something when the reality is that it doesn't.

HOWEVER, the second I finally DID experience "he's into you" behavior, there was no looking back. It was a serious lightbulb moment that was like, "OH SO THIS IS WHAT THEY MEAN."

From then on out, all that other stupid bullbutter had no weight in figuring out whether a dude has interest or not. If a guy is interested, you KNOW. Zero confusion about it. He will contact, he will initiate, he will make time to see you, he makes his intent to be around KNOWN.

Flaky, iffy behavior is a thing of the past. Women who cling on to that garbage are either immature, desperate, or their self esteem is so treetrunked up that they cling on to any morsel of attention to make their ego feel better (which also makes them refuse that someone might not be into them *gasp*).

Women like this need to do themselves a favor and just assume the dude isn't into them until he makes it obviously known. Saves you a lot of headspace.
Posted by jane84
What a loser.

Could he mean it when he said it?

Hmm do you think he means it when he tells his wife he loves her? Because regardless of what you think or the friend tells you, believe me he tells his wife he loves her. Plus all the other girls he talks to. Do you not think he feeds them lies too?

He's the lowest of the low. Wife is pregnant, has an emotional, slightly sexual relationship with you, and has other women on the side who excite him sexually (or he wouldn't keep going to them.)

Geez what a keeper this one is.

Seriously WHO CARES what he means or doesn't mean, what his wife looks like or doesn't look life, where she works, if she's "controlling" (he could just be a damn cheater who she is now paranoid about because she's MARRIED to him and is going to have his BABY), etc. I wouldn't even give this guy a second thought. I wouldn't ask questions, look up his/her info. Nothing. Move on OP. Why you are wasting time even caring is beyond me.

Why did he do it? Simple, he's a loser.

Side note: I know MANY Sag men and women who are great people, been around them enough to know that they don't cheat, are happy in their relationships, and are excellent family people.


This. I know the OP is wrapping her mind around it and she's going to have "why" questions wondering what the bloody eff, but she shouldn't be reading into anything. She's not the magical vagina here. A lot of women tend to think they're something special if they can get a guy to cheat and it's pretty treetrunking pathetic basing your worth on another loser's infidelity.

What I don't understand, OP, is if you guys only had sex a few times in 14 months, why weren't red flags going off then? :/
Posted by Shrewdsharp
I think the title of your thread.."the jelouse libra"....speaks volumes about competence...or lack there-of! ROFLMAO! I am over it!



Agreed. People need to understand that you sound like a treetrunking idiot when your written communication is marred with piss poor spelling and/or butterty grammar.
I want to know why you can't spell Taurus right when it's right there at the top of the forum?

Also, you're not confused. You just refuse to see the reality of whatever it is that's going on- he's not into you.

Confused = almost always not into you.

Move on.
Let's save you all some time.

There is no helping this chick. She does the same thing every few years. She wants to bang with no ramifications.
...and I take this site too seriously?
Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
Posted by rockyroadicecream
I'd really like to know why you're so hell bent on talking about finances on a site like this. Asking about credit scores, getting people to talk about managing finances, etc. It's just getting shady as treetrunk, tbh.


Why shady?
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Why not? Are you really that dense? You ask a lot of information that could target users from shady individuals. And it's constant from you. Sharing tmi and expecting everyone else to do the same. Makes me wonder if you got some silly cookiemonster ulterior motive always prying people for info like this.
I'd really like to know why you're so hell bent on talking about finances on a site like this. Asking about credit scores, getting people to talk about managing finances, etc. It's just getting shady as treetrunk, tbh.
I thought you left ages ago, AA.
Doesn't Ands live further north though? If he does, he's probably fine.