rockyroadicecream

Posted by Vlora93

Posted by rockyroadicecream

Posted by Vlora93

Posted by Enfant-Terrible-II

Posted by aquarius09
I think you need to learn to be single and enjoy you.

She's been single for 5 years. You don't think she's done that at this point?

Yeah exactly!!!

I don’t know how everyone thinks I’m dying for A relationship and desperate for men when they’re the one asking and they’re making things official not me!!! Even when I tell them I’m not ready!

I’ve been on blind dates for real! Like a friend’s bf or husband brings his buddy to hang out with me without me knowing anything!! I had no idea I was on one.

I mean even the guys knew I was single and fine how did that appear thirsty!

I said I’ve been single for almost 6 years, I am single!!

It seemed like a long list but was in 6 years a couple months each and they called it official relationship and they Ended when it didn’t lead to sex!

Please. Again, you're not taking accountability here. It's everyone else's fault.

You're a real selfish piece of work, here.

You up and move from the guy who wants to marry you. Here he is, ready to start a life with you and you flip the script and want to move internationally. Most people are not down for that. You go on about how he broke your heart, but you equally broke his.

You're willfully dating guys who want more than you're willing to give. Yet when they push, you go along with it and then cry foul when things tank or they end up being crazy. "Well, I just went along with it, but it's not my fault!" The most powerful word in your vocab is "no" and you aren't using it. Do NOT complain when you don't do anything in your best interest.

This is the biggest issue with people pleasers- they are the most untrustworthy and selfish people you can come across. You go along with whatever people tell you do to because YOU want to look good in their eyes and be agreeable. You can't look bad to other people, oh no! So you just do what they say. But when things go wrong, it's never your fault and you quickly finger point because you just did what THEY said. You have zero free will!!! It's all their fault!!

"Why am I still single?"

Because you date bottom of the barrel markers that people shove on you and you go with it so you don't look bad in their eyes. How can any sane person expect results from that approach in life?

You left a guy to go travel, which, there's nothing wrong with per se. But don't act like a beaten, betrayed puppy when you gave him a pretty butterty list of options in order to keep you. "Wah, he left me. I thought he loved me!!!" Yeah, and I'm sure he thought you loved him but then decided you wanted to go focus on you and travel- which again, isn't bad per se. Everyone should do this at some point in their life. BUT you can't expect to do that when you have LTR and not have negative consequences as the end result.

You're single because you're immature and still have some growing up to do.

Stop dating.

Figure your butter out.

Go back to therapy because this people pleasing butter isn't healthy.

Relax...

Are you a certified therapist to tell me I need therapy and ignore my therapist advice! or you’re talking from YOUR own personal experience?!!

Because you sound like you have so much issues and anger you wanna take out on me.

You started off fine but to call me selfish and not taking responsibility for my actions!! When did I blame anyone else for me being a people pleaser?!!!

Yes they pressured me but I should’ve said no!! I own it, and just because I wanted to pursue my career somewhere else which we’ve talked about earlier doesn’t make me selfish, and I didn’t say anything about giving him a list to keep me!!

Also when did I say my life is butterty or miserable ? Romance and dating is one part of people’s lives not their whole life!! Which I assume you know!! Because you’re single and don’t mind enjoying your OWN company!!

Just because I seek insight in one part doesn’t mean I’m living a terrible life.

If you have problems with people who were born under my sign it’s okay, but to start creating scenarios about people’s lives, fill in the blanks and act like a therapist that’s crazy.

Seems like I’m not the one who need to focus on herself and her personal growth and seek therapy!

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The only crazy one here is you, sweetie.

Posted by Vlora93

Posted by Enfant-Terrible-II

Posted by aquarius09
I think you need to learn to be single and enjoy you.

She's been single for 5 years. You don't think she's done that at this point?

Yeah exactly!!!

I don’t know how everyone thinks I’m dying for A relationship and desperate for men when they’re the one asking and they’re making things official not me!!! Even when I tell them I’m not ready!

I’ve been on blind dates for real! Like a friend’s bf or husband brings his buddy to hang out with me without me knowing anything!! I had no idea I was on one.

I mean even the guys knew I was single and fine how did that appear thirsty!

I said I’ve been single for almost 6 years, I am single!!

It seemed like a long list but was in 6 years a couple months each and they called it official relationship and they Ended when it didn’t lead to sex!

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Please. Again, you're not taking accountability here. It's everyone else's fault.

You're a real selfish piece of work, here.

You up and move from the guy who wants to marry you. Here he is, ready to start a life with you and you flip the script and want to move internationally. Most people are not down for that. You go on about how he broke your heart, but you equally broke his.

You're willfully dating guys who want more than you're willing to give. Yet when they push, you go along with it and then cry foul when things tank or they end up being crazy. "Well, I just went along with it, but it's not my fault!" The most powerful word in your vocab is "no" and you aren't using it. Do NOT complain when you don't do anything in your best interest.

This is the biggest issue with people pleasers- they are the most untrustworthy and selfish people you can come across. You go along with whatever people tell you do to because YOU want to look good in their eyes and be agreeable. You can't look bad to other people, oh no! So you just do what they say. But when things go wrong, it's never your fault and you quickly finger point because you just did what THEY said. You have zero free will!!! It's all their fault!!

"Why am I still single?"

Because you date bottom of the barrel markers that people shove on you and you go with it so you don't look bad in their eyes. How can any sane person expect results from that approach in life?

You left a guy to go travel, which, there's nothing wrong with per se. But don't act like a beaten, betrayed puppy when you gave him a pretty butterty list of options in order to keep you. "Wah, he left me. I thought he loved me!!!" Yeah, and I'm sure he thought you loved him but then decided you wanted to go focus on you and travel- which again, isn't bad per se. Everyone should do this at some point in their life. BUT you can't expect to do that when you have LTR and not have negative consequences as the end result.

You're single because you're immature and still have some growing up to do.

Stop dating.

Figure your butter out.

Go back to therapy because this people pleasing butter isn't healthy.

Posted by Enfant-Terrible-II

Posted by aquarius09
I think you need to learn to be single and enjoy you.

She's been single for 5 years. You don't think she's done that at this point?

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No. She's been actively dating a good chunk of that time. She has yet to figure out how to be alone and do her thing without a relationship. She's letting those around her pressure her into dating when she clearly isn't in a place to be dating.

Posted by Vlora93
The only thing I don’t agree with is I see being single as miserable... not at all

Yes, I come from a society where girls should get married young and be mainly housewives.
Maybe I’m a people pleaser and I let others affect my life but I don’t think single is bad or being in a relationship even if it’s not healthy and happy is better than being single

So why are you acting like it's a bad thing and coming across desperate? What, because of what others think? You really have butter self esteem if you're that preoccupied with what others think and THEIR standards. You say you don't have "internal issues" but you clearly do if this is your approach in life. Being a people pleaser leaves you with nothing but misery and you will never do anything for you, but for the sake of pleasing others.

"Well family/friends pressure me blah blah so I just do it." Yeah, that's a dumb ass approach, sorry. I've had to deal with the same thing before and people will say all sorts of stupid butter. Yes, it's annoying, but jfc, it shouldn't sway you into doing stupid things, which you're doing. Stop blaming everyone else for your current situation and take responsibility.

If you're happy doing you and being single, then so be it. The sooner you stop trying to please others and their personal views which are NOT in YOUR best interest, the sooner you'll really start to live and not be miserable.

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Posted by PhoenixStorm
I’m sorry I don’t mean to laugh but he sounds like a piece of work 🤣🤣🤦🏼‍♀️😂

Have you ever tried NOT dating? Maybe take a break from dating. Focus on yourself instead of relationships. Then maybe you will attract your equal instead of these knuckleheads. Maybe they sense your vulnerability.

It’s okay... I do laugh myself when I think about it, he was a lost cause!

I wanted to focus on myself and my career at first, but my friends and family saw how sad and depressed I was and kept telling me I should go out and put myself out there... they set me up on blind dates and whatnot and I did what they said but it still didn’t go anywhere, I stopped for a while then I moved to England, where co-workers and roommates kept asking why I’m still virgin, single and not dating or accepting guys invites, they gossiped about my sexual orientation, I was silly enough and started dating again.

I’m planning on taking a break from guys until the end of my masters, I’ll focus on myself more because it’s impossible and not fair for other guys to heal me.

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I see two things here-

One- Again, you are taking no accountability for yourself here. It's everyone else's fault that you foolishly date whoever gives you attention or asks you out? How about you just don't do that?

Two- why tf do your coworkers know about your virginity? That ish is none of their business.

Posted by Cancer96

Posted by Vlora93
I don’t actually jump into relationships [...]

I just go out when guys ask me [...]

See the problem here?

Also, what rockyroadicecream said. Ik a lot of Taurus woman who are ALWAYS in one relationship or another, dunno why this horoscope are so thirsty af for a partner lmao.

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I was thinking the same thing. All the Tauruses I know, guys included, are stuck on stupid with dating/relationships.

Stop dating.

Stop worrying about finding someone and do you.

You're more likely to find the right match when you aren't actively pursuing it. I have yet to see someone end up truly happy when they take the approach that you're taking. They obsess over relationships and dating and spend so much time and energy on that bullbutter. It's all a societal construct that's drilled into our heads from an early age and then people wonder why they're miserable in middle age- it's because they spent too much time on what society tells them they want.

Simmer down a bit. The fact you have an entire laundry list of guys that you dated speaks volumes. You're single because you don't know how to find a relationship. You also see being single as a bad thing. Miserable cookiemonsteres whine about being single and see it as a bad thing. It's not. The sooner you realize this, the happier you'll be, and the more likely you will land a successful relationship.

The fact you still hold a torch to the guy you were with for 8 years says a lot. Stop seeking a replacement. Do you for awhile and find out how to make yourself happy on your own. It's cliche, but true af- it will happen when you least expect it.

Posted by GemiAwesomeAss

Posted by rockyroadicecream
You're treetrunking nuts, dude.

Yeah. And you are raging lunatic hateful to everything around you - Normal!

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But enough about you....