rockyroadicecream

Posted by lilliverpoolsangel
and Venus in scorpio

Ruuun

Eight years? You're 30 now, so you were, what, 22 and he was 29 when you two first met?

Tbh, it sounds like he got caught up in the fun and fantasy of the long distance thing. People tend to get all caught up in it when it's an idea and something that's not as tangible as being physically present.

Libras are notorious for getting caught up in the lovey dovey fantasy of romance. Seeing you and the reality of it was a slap in the face to whatever he was imagining it to be. Not to say that you did anything wrong, but something about the whole thing seems to have made him pause, so to speak. For someone who seems to think so highly of you to suddenly just go MIA like that, aside from any random life issue, he sounds like he's being a total coward.

I really wouldn't be surprised if dude built you and the relationship up in his head, getting caught up in the romance of it all, and once it all settled down, he realized it wasn't what he thought it was and doesn't know how to cope with it. One thing emotionally immature Libra's are notorious for, its treating the object of their desire as a new toy to covet. Once it's lost its novelty, its tossed in the pile and they're on to the new one.

Hopefully, dude will get ahold of you and try to piece together some sort of bullbutter reasoning as to why he's doing this crap. Men who are into you don't do that butter, so I have a feeling he's going to jerk you around.

...why the am I tagged in this stupid thread and being compared to Don Jon?

And wtf did I just watch??

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Posted by rockyroadicecream
People here seem to be confusing "want" and societal pressure.

We're told, as women, that we have an "expiration" date, which is usually dictated according to men's ideal desires in having a youthful S.O.

So as women get older, they start feeling the societal pressure to conform to this standard. Oh noes, in nearing/in the 30s, and no marriage or babies yet??? I must do this now before it's too late!

Everyone around eachother at that age will start feeling the itch because everyone else is doing it and they feel left out or drawn in by the "cute" factor of babies (remember, that "cute" baby factor goes away after a few years).

Tbh, it all should be based on individual basis and preference. Our society stupidly shoves everyone into a one size fits all scenario of this is how life should be- Go to school, get a job, get married, and have babies. The end.

But the reality is that this bullbutter idea has been crumbling a bit since it's showing how outdated and ridiculous it's become over the ages, ESPECIALLY in the last 30-40 years. Marriage and babies aren't for everyone, nor is it for everyone at specific ages/life stages. People are now getting married later in life or not even at all. They're also starting families later because they want to focus on career and be established first.

Since we're surrounded by the brain dead masses who still cling on to the marriage and babies notion, that's where the pressure comes from and some still choose to conform to it and not really use much logical thought. Just do it because everyone else is!

A few years ago, I started a thread about not feeling this so called "itch" to have kids. How I could see where the "child free" crowd was coming from and I was still on the fence, but likely leaning toward not. It was met with an overwhelming dismissal of my stance and that I would surely change my mind. Mostly by women, and maybe a few men.

Utterly brainwashed masses we live among. Don't let society or anyone tell you what you should and shouldn't do in regard to marriage and babies. You do you and what works for you. If you want kids and marriage, cool. If not, that's also cool. To each their own as long as its done by your own will and thoughts and not under the pressure of outside influences.

A bit of a tangent, but I bring this up because I really question how much of this is biology and how much is just society making women feel inadequate if they aren't popping out kids. If you're bringing this up because you aren't feeling this so called "itch," it's okay if you aren't. Don't let anyone else make you feel less than you are because you aren't molding to a societal expectation.

Edit- Fun article
https://www.bustle.com/articles/146600-why-womens-biological-clock-ticking-is-actually-a-total-myth

I agree with everything, but would need to do more research than I have on studies showing the increased risk and complications of having a baby when older, because I know next to nothing about it. I am going to look at that article. I was friends with a doctor, and he was talking about it once. He said that the ideal age for a woman to conceive the most healthy baby was 25-27 years old, if I recall correctly.

Meanwhile, these societal expectations are still present everywhere on earth. My guy's best friend is some inexperienced-with-women Taurus dude in his mid thirties. He's had 1 1-year long relationship ever, and he desperately wants kids. He tries to make himself feel better, told me his sperm is good forever and it's the "women that need to worry about age". Said he would simply find a young woman to marry and have kids with.

Made me feel so turned off by him. No women wanted your ass in your twenties, early to mid thirties so far, so what 20something is gonna want you when you reach 40? I see nothing that you have to offer with your still living-at-home can't-cook, mom-still-does-your-laundry ass. treetrunk outta here. Young women date older guys for money. Which he does not have! It's bullbutter.

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He'll find some moron. At that age, those girls think it's a good thing to attract older men. It makes them feel extra desired. They ignore all the red flags of when older men chase younger women- naivete.

People here seem to be confusing "want" and societal pressure.

We're told, as women, that we have an "expiration" date, which is usually dictated according to men's ideal desires in having a youthful S.O.

So as women get older, they start feeling the societal pressure to conform to this standard. Oh noes, in nearing/in the 30s, and no marriage or babies yet??? I must do this now before it's too late!

Everyone around eachother at that age will start feeling the itch because everyone else is doing it and they feel left out or drawn in by the "cute" factor of babies (remember, that "cute" baby factor goes away after a few years).

Tbh, it all should be based on individual basis and preference. Our society stupidly shoves everyone into a one size fits all scenario of this is how life should be- Go to school, get a job, get married, and have babies. The end.

But the reality is that this bullbutter idea has been crumbling a bit since it's showing how outdated and ridiculous it's become over the ages, ESPECIALLY in the last 30-40 years. Marriage and babies aren't for everyone, nor is it for everyone at specific ages/life stages. People are now getting married later in life or not even at all. They're also starting families later because they want to focus on career and be established first.

Since we're surrounded by the brain dead masses who still cling on to the marriage and babies notion, that's where the pressure comes from and some still choose to conform to it and not really use much logical thought. Just do it because everyone else is!

A few years ago, I started a thread about not feeling this so called "itch" to have kids. How I could see where the "child free" crowd was coming from and I was still on the fence, but likely leaning toward not. It was met with an overwhelming dismissal of my stance and that I would surely change my mind. Mostly by women, and maybe a few men.

Utterly brainwashed masses we live among. Don't let society or anyone tell you what you should and shouldn't do in regard to marriage and babies. You do you and what works for you. If you want kids and marriage, cool. If not, that's also cool. To each their own as long as its done by your own will and thoughts and not under the pressure of outside influences.

A bit of a tangent, but I bring this up because I really question how much of this is biology and how much is just society making women feel inadequate if they aren't popping out kids. If you're bringing this up because you aren't feeling this so called "itch," it's okay if you aren't. Don't let anyone else make you feel less than you are because you aren't molding to a societal expectation.

Edit- Fun article
https://www.bustle.com/articles/146600-why-womens-biological-clock-ticking-is-actually-a-total-myth

Posted by bae

Posted by topes
Sextile signs aren't instant connections like trines. They need effort to work or they fail.

Unlike trines, sextiles can move mountains together. But not without facing realities first.

Soulmates and twin flames and past life hoohaa are for the gullible and narcissists out there.

that's nice.

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"I'm a silly bleep who's delusional and is shrugging off logic to seek validation for my tardo thought process that doesn't reside in reality."

Posted by Nightcap-The so-called 'fat guy' lineman at 300lbs can outrun any soccer players not to mention the running backs, receivers, defensive backs, and linebackers.

Sorry, but that would be false. Cardio in soccer > cardio in football any day. DGAF about the argument generally, but the training for both sports is so incredibly different and football does NOT focus on cardio as much as soccer does. I've been behind the scenes for both, so it's lol that you generalize that a linebacker could outrun a soccer player. It also tells me how little you know about the topic generally. Many people in this thread have no idea what the hell they're talking about, tbh. It's nothing but a dick waving contest at this point, which isn't surprising given how macho and stupid our sports culture is. Thank god that's changing.

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Posted by ValleysofNeptune

Meh, basketball really isn’t. Especially compared to how it used to be. There’s far less physical contact allowed these days. Basically none. I wouldn’t consider a sport where you aren’t allowed to touch a player trying to score “aggressive” lol

Injuries like these are becoming more common in the NBA, annoying refs and ill intent aside, there is still a lot of aggressive contact.

There's more behind it than the aggression. Diet has a lot to play in it. Athletes are notorious for eating like garbage, especially in the NBA and NFL. Recently, the NBA started heavily focusing on diet and offering healthier alternatives by hiring RDs and nutritionists and making healthier food more readily available.

Another culprit is specializing in one sport early on in life. Everyone wants their kid to be a pro, so they start playing heavily at a young age. College football and basketball have schedules and promotion as heavy as pro, vs what it used to be back in the day. Pair that with butterty training, and you're bound to see over use injuries and a slew of fractures in the process. All of that has been so common in the last 20 years, it's why we're now seeing more injuries than we used to- people are just not taking care of themselves and focusing on money.


In regard to the OP, soccer here has been gaining slow momentum and is leaps ahead of where it was two decades ago. The women's national team here helped with an uptick of that in the '99 World Cup, as well as the men's team in Korea in '02. The MLS has expanded quite a bit and with the funding there from USSF, it's been able to advertise more and appeal to the masses. The uprise of youth soccer also helps lead to larger fan bases because most fans have played at some point in their life. Overall, soccer is just too "intellectual" compared to some other sports too. There's a lot more strategy similar to that of chess. Pair that with low scores and long gaps between goals, our culture is just too ADD and derpy to really see it picking up to the masses.

But that's okay. Sports like baseball and football have been struggling over the years with viewership and they're on the way downward a bit while other sports are getting more popular. It's a generational thing. I wouldn't be surprised if given a few more decades, soccer, or other less popular sports end up becoming more popular in the long run.

I could also get into the socioeconomic reasons for all this, but meh.

Personally, I played for 14 years and was involved in youth soccer with a previous job that I had. I agree that soccer can be a sport that's more fun played than watched. Not as bad as golf, but I can see why that bit doesn't appeal to the masses. Whenever I watch games, I'm usually doing something while watching/listening to the game, which can be easy to do given the long gaps between goals sometimes.

But then there are games like these where you can't not pay attention haha.

Posted by LadyNeptune
I say this ironically cause we owe the native americans for inventing this and other sports.
We repay them by racially insensitive mascots which mock them. YAY AMERICA!!

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Soccer has roots in China, Europe, and South America when it comes to who invented it.

Unless you're referring to football, then nvm.

All I see is someone who clearly has feelings for someone else and is digging for trivial butter to see if he's interested back.

..don't do that. It's stupid and will drive you nuts.

It really depends on the area, tbh. Everyone's saying it's in the minority, but I live in an area where there are huge pockets of stay at home moms like whoa.

The topic in itself- to each their own AND if it works for them, hooray, nothing wrong with it.

But there are three types of stay at home moms I've witnessed over the years-

First one is one who went into it, knowing what it entailed, knowing that's what she wanted, and she's happy. Kids are well adjusted, everyone's good to go. It was a well thought out choice and decision for all involved.

Second one is the one who went into it, not realizing what it entailed, gave up all her life goals and dreams, and ends up a miserable person because society bred her into believing THIS was the goal in life that would ultimately make her happy. It hasn't. She loves her kids, but she's miserable as hell and has a butter ton of regrets.

Third one is the gold digging type. She got married and promptly decided to quit working and focus on the kids- aka allow herself to be lazy and live off of someone else. Her kids aren't exactly well adjusted or happy, the marriage is miserable, and it's an overall toxic environment for all because she went into it with selfish intentions and now everyone suffers.

The latter is what I see the most of, followed by the second one. This is why I generally have a blah mindset about the concept and it makes me gag when I see women give up their hopes and dreams because a dude came along, then the kids, and before she realizes it, her life isn't what she thought it would be. It's so sad how often this happens and our society encourages it.

Overall, not a fan if it creates misery for all involved. Dgaf about it if everyone's good, to each their own.

This butter is hilarious. All these stupid cookiemonsteres telling you fairy tale bullbutter.

He's not into you. Period. He's jerking you around because he knows he can and your silly ass will stick around and buy into his bullbutter.

He's not into you. If he was, he wouldn't be doing any of this butter. A man who is into you does not "confuse" you.

Also, you? "I'm confused" translates to "I refuse to see logic and am so hung up on this dick that I'm just going to make a million and one excuses as to why I should wait it out. I REFUSE to accept the fact that sometimes butter doesn't work and someone may not be into me."

What the hell is wrong with your self esteem that you think THIS guy is THE one? I had a Libra that I connected with amazingly, but in the long haul, nada. Worked out better for me in the long run and he's still a miserable butter. So you can sit here, be a fairy tale wench about how you want to frill up his bullbutter, but at the end of the day, that's all it is- bullbutter.

This is classic Libra dude who wants to let you down easily, yet keep you around as an option. He keeps bringing up these bullbutter talks because he feels guilty and has to constantly rehash this over and over for HIM, not you. All of this crap is about him and treetrunk all about you. He does it to reassure himself. He frills up his bullbutter to make HIM feel better. If he truly meant what he said, he'd have dropped you and gone no contact. Not strung you along like he has been.

That's all this is- stringing you along and you're falling for it like some sad sap. And of course, in typical fixed sign fashion, you're stuck on stupid and you won't learn until your life, self esteem, and any views on a healthy relationship are destroyed in the process.

And if you so choose to stupidly stick around with loser, you forfeit any right to create the oncoming 2758934578493 threads about your so called "confusion" as your being stuck on stupid is your problem and nobody else's. You're the only one who can fix it sweetheart because all I'm seeing is your wanting validation for your moronic, lust filled thought processes, not actual advice that'll improve things for you.

Drop the douche. No woman deserves this dogbutter.