Posted by nanobotPosted by rockyroadicecream
People here seem to be confusing "want" and societal pressure.
We're told, as women, that we have an "expiration" date, which is usually dictated according to men's ideal desires in having a youthful S.O.
So as women get older, they start feeling the societal pressure to conform to this standard. Oh noes, in nearing/in the 30s, and no marriage or babies yet??? I must do this now before it's too late!
Everyone around eachother at that age will start feeling the itch because everyone else is doing it and they feel left out or drawn in by the "cute" factor of babies (remember, that "cute" baby factor goes away after a few years).
Tbh, it all should be based on individual basis and preference. Our society stupidly shoves everyone into a one size fits all scenario of this is how life should be- Go to school, get a job, get married, and have babies. The end.
But the reality is that this bullbutter idea has been crumbling a bit since it's showing how outdated and ridiculous it's become over the ages, ESPECIALLY in the last 30-40 years. Marriage and babies aren't for everyone, nor is it for everyone at specific ages/life stages. People are now getting married later in life or not even at all. They're also starting families later because they want to focus on career and be established first.
Since we're surrounded by the brain dead masses who still cling on to the marriage and babies notion, that's where the pressure comes from and some still choose to conform to it and not really use much logical thought. Just do it because everyone else is!
A few years ago, I started a thread about not feeling this so called "itch" to have kids. How I could see where the "child free" crowd was coming from and I was still on the fence, but likely leaning toward not. It was met with an overwhelming dismissal of my stance and that I would surely change my mind. Mostly by women, and maybe a few men.
Utterly brainwashed masses we live among. Don't let society or anyone tell you what you should and shouldn't do in regard to marriage and babies. You do you and what works for you. If you want kids and marriage, cool. If not, that's also cool. To each their own as long as its done by your own will and thoughts and not under the pressure of outside influences.
A bit of a tangent, but I bring this up because I really question how much of this is biology and how much is just society making women feel inadequate if they aren't popping out kids. If you're bringing this up because you aren't feeling this so called "itch," it's okay if you aren't. Don't let anyone else make you feel less than you are because you aren't molding to a societal expectation.
Edit- Fun article
I agree with everything, but would need to do more research than I have on studies showing the increased risk and complications of having a baby when older, because I know next to nothing about it. I am going to look at that article. I was friends with a doctor, and he was talking about it once. He said that the ideal age for a woman to conceive the most healthy baby was 25-27 years old, if I recall correctly.
Meanwhile, these societal expectations are still present everywhere on earth. My guy's best friend is some inexperienced-with-women Taurus dude in his mid thirties. He's had 1 1-year long relationship ever, and he desperately wants kids. He tries to make himself feel better, told me his sperm is good forever and it's the "women that need to worry about age". Said he would simply find a young woman to marry and have kids with.
Made me feel so turned off by him. No women wanted your ass in your twenties, early to mid thirties so far, so what 20something is gonna want you when you reach 40? I see nothing that you have to offer with your still living-at-home can't-cook, mom-still-does-your-laundry ass. treetrunk outta here. Young women date older guys for money. Which he does not have! It's bullbutter.click to expand
Posted by baePosted by topes
Sextile signs aren't instant connections like trines. They need effort to work or they fail.
Unlike trines, sextiles can move mountains together. But not without facing realities first.
Soulmates and twin flames and past life hoohaa are for the gullible and narcissists out there.
that's nice.click to expand
Posted by Nightcap-The so-called 'fat guy' lineman at 300lbs can outrun any soccer players not to mention the running backs, receivers, defensive backs, and linebackers.
Posted by SoftMachinePosted by ValleysofNeptune
Meh, basketball really isn’t. Especially compared to how it used to be. There’s far less physical contact allowed these days. Basically none. I wouldn’t consider a sport where you aren’t allowed to touch a player trying to score “aggressive” lol
Injuries like these are becoming more common in the NBA, annoying refs and ill intent aside, there is still a lot of aggressive contact.
Posted by LadyNeptune
I say this ironically cause we owe the native americans for inventing this and other sports.
We repay them by racially insensitive mascots which mock them. YAY AMERICA!!click to expand