The perception that we need to shower daily, or even twice for some godforsaken reason, is something perpetuated by the beauty industry and it started back in the early 1900s when personal cleaning products were advertised. You NEED to take a shower daily and use our soaps! Why? Using more product and buying more product. This is why shampoo directions say rinse and repeat. It's there for the dum dums of the world to blow through more product so you buy more. Moar monies lining those companies' pockets!
It's a capitalist driven mindset that has been drilled into our heads for almost 100 years now and people just blindly follow and THINK they need to do this butter. It's all insanely psychological.
Everyone has their needs. Some people have to shower more often because their body chemistry just doesn't allow for longer lapses between bathing. Others can go longer between showers than others. It's all really an "as needed" basis, tbh. If you got all sweaty and gross and need one, fine. If you can go a day or two and haven't gotten sweaty, gross, and don't smell gross, why the eff bother? The medical community will tell anyone time and time again that daily showers are excessive and unnecessary. We have created a society of germophobes who have bought into all the lies the benefiting industries have been perpetuating for decades.
Stop trying to force something to happen because YOU have the lady boner for the dude. If you can't figure out where a dude stands in the interest territory, then he's not into you. Move on and stop being so damned desperate. You got a tiny grain of attention from a random and you're off practically asking the internet if he's potentially your future husband, ffs.
Nowhere did she say that this was only 3 weeks. This has been an ongoing problem and that for the LAST three weeks, he hasn't worked at all. i.e. one of the gaps she referred to when he has work on and off. Three weeks is the off period currently which is a long treetrunking time.
treetrunking pay attention, jfc. It gets old constantly seeing people misread these posts over and over.
OP, like someone else said, if you're mentally checking out, you may very well have to consider ending things. However, the big question is have you addressed this with him? Have you told him you're considering leaving? Because he sounds like a huge treetrunking mama's boy who's content with you just pitching in while he's a lazy pile of butter who thinks he can dictate what's done with the finances he's not doing butter for.
Have a serious talk and if ish doesn't change, move on. It's just going to get worse. All you've done is be passive and enable. DO something about it.