Should I even bother to try with this Cap anymore?

Well, first off, he's on the cusp (Cap/Aqua) but he has a lot of Cap traits to begin with.

Anyway, I first met him online when he messaged me on website saying I seemed cool and worth speaking to. At that point in time, I wasn't ready to meet someone new since I was getting over someone else, but we talked some, and he seemed nice. Although, he wasn't that engaging at first, and I found myself kind of bored by him. He gave me his number. For the next few days, I was busy moving into my apartment and helping other students move on campus at my university, so I hadn't really thought about him until about a week or two later. So, I texted him; I asked if he remembered me and how he was. We spoke a little through text, but then I forgot to text back at some point when I got busy again. A two weeks or so go by and I don't hear from him, but I find nothing problematic about it. Then out of the blue, he texts me. This happened for about a month and a half, where he would randomly text me after weeks of not speaking. At times, I just figured he forgot about me, and I was busy anyway, so I would think nothing of it. But he kept doing this, so at some point, I figured I would give him a shot. One day, he spoke about how he was open to dating if something worked out between us, and I said I would be to after getting to know him some more. He asked where my school was again, though he knew my school but wasn't sure where it was. When I told him, he told me he's never dated long distance before. Mind you, the cap and I were only about 40 min away, and I could just take the metro to see him at school if I wanted. The only thing that separated us was the inner city DC, so it never seemed like long distance to me. Either way, I was really surprised by how fast this seemed to be moving, and at that point, I wasn't even sure if I was into him.

Moving on, the cap and I spoke fairly regularly; I wasn't sure how I felt about him through just texting and such; he never seemed that engaging and sometimes I wasn't even sure what he thought about me. Finally, about two months after we first started speaking we finally decided to meet up since we had the time. I honestly was really nervous and was prepared to tell him to turn back around, but he came anyway. We hung out all afternoon nd evening, and I was really impressed with him. He was funny, talkative (although he wouldn't really look t me at first) and I was instantly attracted to him. Before he left, he kissed me.

I was really surprised by the kiss, but at that point, I truly wanted to see how far we could take this. After that day though, I didn't hear from the cap for about a week. I freaked out wondering if I had done something that day to offend him or if he just didn't care anymore, but then he texted me. I've seen that caps do that often: the disappearing and reappearing. That was when he started. At some point, I got used to the cap just disappearing, but it still never made me comfortable until he texted me again. I wasn't sure how to deal with him and his disappearing, but I learned to be patient. About a month after first meeting, he asked me to come visit him at his apartment. I wasn't sure how I felt about it, but he convinced me with just a single phrase: he said he wanted to see me. So, tht weekend, I went to see him. He showed me his school and took me back to his place. The entire time, we cuddled, watched tv, and talked about everything. We ended up making out among other things, but at some point, he said to me that he wished we could have sex. Before all this, I had told him I was a virgin. The cap always seemed to talk about sex, nd while I expected this, I wasn't sure how I felt about it. I wasn't sure if I could trust him with that yet. He told me that night not to say yes unless I really wanted to have sex with him, but he kept trying to convince me anyway. I asked him why he wanted to, and he said because he liked me. At some point, I just told him not yet, but we continued fooling around anyway.

After that meeting, it got a little harder to just hang out because we both were busy and one day he got sick, ruining the chance to meet up. Still, he kept texting me and we kept talking. I was becoming less sure about him though; he never once said what we really were. I was confused and curious as to why he kept speaking to me, but I remained diligent and just went with it. During one point, I was having issues with my friends, and I tried to text him just to seek some guidance and comfort. When I told him about my issue, he didn't really give me much of a response, and he never texted back after. I felt really hurt by that; so hurt in fact tht I didn't want to speak with him. I was there during his time of need, when he lacked confidence in himself (which he did often), and he couldn't be there for me. So, I didn't bother to text him until he eventually texted me back. After that, things were alright again. During one text, he asked what my f

favorite thing about him was, and I told him when I just speak to him and that he made me smile. He said he didn't know what his favorite thing about me was, but that it was probably that I put up with him all the time. I never figured out what that meant, but I told him that he was a breath of fresh air for me and that I liked him.

During my winter break, I went overseas to see some family, and I didn't get to speak to him for an entire week. This wasn't an issue or anything since this was kind of normal, but I was still worried about not speaking to him for so long. I had left on a really good note with him, and we were supposed to hang out when I got back from break. When I did get back from Germany, things took a different turn after my uncle died and my sister in law miscarried. I had to stay at home while my mother when to her brother's funeral, so I wasn't able to get back as soon as I could to see him. Either way, we still texted and I enjoyed hearing from him during the hard time I was having. I eventually got back to school with the hope of seeing him and giving him the shot glasses I got for him from Germany. He knew I was giving him something since I asked what he wanted. I didn't really him from him much throughout the week I was bck, but he did text me and tried to invite me over. However, that night I had to work since he didn't invite me earlier that week, but I told him I was free for the rest of the week. I told him not to worry and to just text me when he had the time. I really wnated to give him his gift, so I asked him the next day if he was free, but he was working. I knew his birthday was at the end of the week, so I really hoped I could see him. However, things didn't work out: I didn't end up seeing him until much later.

After school strted again, I began to hear from the cap less. It felt strange since I felt something was holding him back. During one week, he texted me, asking how I was, and I told him I was getting prepared for the snow. I told him about the snow storm that was supposed to affect the both of us. He never texted me back though. I thought nothing of it, but it still felt like something was coming between us. anyway, I became snowed in during the week, and I didn't hear from him at all. I wanted to text him to see how he was doing, but I never got a chance to. On the night of the superbowl, I braved the snow to go to a party. I was there most of the night. So when I got back, I went to check my facebook, and

I notice some photos coming up in my newsfeed. There were of my cap "friend." I realized they were posted by someone else, which I thought nothing of until I noticed it was by girl who posted the photo on her own wall. I was really curious about her, but pushed this girl to the back of my mind. Then, the next day, another couple of photos came up, and they were of my cap and the girl together. I felt my heart drop. I called my best friend and we had a long talk about the photos and the girl. I knew there was something going on between them, but I couldn't figure out what.

I didn't hear from my cap for about a week. I hadn't bothered to text him due to my anger and stubbornness. He texted me while I was at a basketball game, asking what I was up to. I told him I was out, and I tried to keep conversation very casual. I asked him how he was doing with the snow, and for the rest of the conversation, I just joked with him. I didn't hear from until about a day or two later, the day before valentines day. He texted me asking when I was free. I told him I'd be free tomorrow and next sunday, so he asked me out to lunch on valentines day. I was really confused by this considering he was seeing the girl I saw in the pictures. Anyway, Valentine's day arrives and he comes to see me instead of having me come see him. We go out to eat, then we hangout at this music shop where I watch him play the drums for a while. I was having such a good time with him and it was so nice to see him tht I nearly forgot about the girl. I did want to ask him where we stood with each other, but I couldnt bring myself to ask. We got back to my room in my apartment, and we just cuddled and talked. It was like the first time we hung out, and he eventually started rubbing my back. Before I realized it, we were kissing and fooling around once again. I asked him what he wanted to do, nd he very casually said "I want to do you, kind of like last time." To be honest, I was close to saying yes, but I didn't want to do it in my own apartment since my roommates were outside my room. He tried to convince me, but I told him that it jsut didn't feel right to do it at my place (we eventually got interrupted anyway when we were messing around, which I told him was the reason why we couldn't do it at my place); still, I just couldn't tell him that I didn't trust him.

Well, the cap left, but before he did, I asked if I could have a kiss. He did, and I felt like he was a little reserved this time in k

kissing me. Either way, he texted me when he got back home and thanked me for hanging out with him. I didn't hear from him all week after, so I texted him while I was at a party. I asked how he was and what he was doing, nd he told me that he had just got off work. I joking told him that he should be hanging out with me, but he never texted back. And that was the last time I heard from him in 3 weeks.

Between that text and now, I found out there was more between this girl and him than I had realized. I made a fake account and added her just to get my curiosities out, and I saw that my cap had been speaking and doing things with her the same time he had been with me (from around january to now). I was livid, but at the same time, I wasn't surprised considering I hd alredy figured he was speaking to other people. I wasn't upset with that, but I was upset with how far it had gone. I was sure this girl didn't know about me, and I was sure the cap didn't know that I knew he was doing. I'm not even sure if he is as serious about this girl as she is about him. I wasn't sure how to deal with him then, but I hadn't heard from him in 3 weeks anyway. I saw that she was going to hang out with the cap all week during his spring break (which is next week). Today, I decided I forgave him for whatever went on, and that I wanted to be his friend regardless. I decided to bridge the gap and text him, simply asking how he was. He simply answered, "At work." The text felt very empty and irritated. I told him that I needed to ask him a question about a bar by his campus that a frew friends of mine want to go to, and that he can get back to me whenever he can.

I'm not even sure if he wants to speak to me. A part of me feels so hurt by that, considering I always gave him the time of day. I feel better for having tried to speak to him, but I figure at this point it's all up to him. I dont' care what he does with this girl or if he even wants to be with her, but I hate that he can just seemingly stop speaking to me.

I didn't realize that my post was so long. Argh, I tried to shorten it, too. We spoke on the phone once or twice, but we were both the type who didn't enjoy speaking on the phone too much; we had better conversation when we were together. I always had an issue as to whether he just wanted sex or he actually wanted more. I couldn't discern between the two when it came to him, so I was never really sure about what was going on between us. He would make flirtatious, sex-inclined comments to me, but then we often had regular conversation too. I just figured after five months, he would have given up by now.

But I've become tired of his actions towards me, and the fact that I'm not even sure if I can get a friendship out of him. I can certainly understand mirroring his actions. I sort of did it while we were together, and I can certainly do it now. I just don't get why he would keep speaking to me if he was obviously (at least to me) talking to someone else and seeing her as well (mind you, she's actually farther away compared to the distance between the cap and I, and she's slightly younger). I mean, if you can't even tell me you're talking to someone else, at least make an effort to seem like it.

Yeah, now that I really think about it, he only wanted to hang out when it seemed convenient for him, not when it was for me. Whenever I did attempt to make a day to hang out with him, he always seemed like he was busy. And what do you know, he'd come out of nowhere and ask when I was free, and I remember once he was like, "we just need to find the time for each other." And in the back of my mind I'm thinking, "well wtf! I just asked you a week ago if you were free." And each time, I felt worried that I was making myself too available.

When we were together on valentine's day, I asked him if he was mad that I said no again, and he said, "no, I wasn't mad last time; why would I be now" And I thought he was either a saint and could hold out that long or he was getting it elsewhere, which I still wondered why the hell he'd keep coming back if he was (and I'm pretty sure he was. I actually found it funny that I'm sure his new friend had no idea where he was that day).

I guess the only sort of saving grace I have is that I'm onto his game in every way, and if he attempts to come crawling back, I have more reason to laugh at his face. Especially since he never bothered to text me back to answer my question about the bar.

Also, I actually feel bad for this girl that he's speaking to now. She's apparently already falling for him hard (that was the one difference between her and I). I don't know his intentions towards her, and for all I know, they could be sincere. But for now, I'm only assuming that she's in the same boat, and if it turns out the same way, she's going to be far more crushed than I was.

Yeah, I think I read your stories before about the two caps. I've been hearing so many stories about caps, and while I know all of them aren't like it, it seems the more immature ones start out this way. My cap has a lot of growing up to do, especially since he lacks a lot of confidence in himself and his abilities. He's being a coward right now; I texted him last night as I said just to say hi and to ask him a question, and he only responded with two words then didn't bother to text me back at all. That really pissed me off; if he can't even be cordial enough to answer a question, then he can grow a pair and ASAP.

I'm also really glad that I didn't have sex with him. I just can't fathom why he needed to keep coming back to me, but I'm sure it was to boost himself if he managed to sleep with two girls at once. Also, with this new girl, I'm sure he hasn't bothered to go drive out and see her since she is close to 2 hours away. Do you think it's very likely he's doing the same thing to her, or at least he WILL do the same thing to her?

I actually feel for him.. slightly. He's not a horrible person. We actually got along well, but his actions are just disgusting, and the fact that he will probably never acknowledge them makes me sad. I would love nothing more than an apology, but I know I wont get that. I'm just happy I at least had my guard up the entire time, because it would not have turned out well.

I guess the one thing I can't get over is how much of a 180 he did after we were last together which was a month ago to this day; which doesn't seem long to me at all. A part of me is still willing to be his friend if he ever comes back, but I couldn't be anything more, which I'll tell him, unless I feel he's being sincere. And I highly doubt that's going to change anytime soon. At this point, I've already moved on, and I kind of want him to know that I'm over his little games.