Should I walk away from this cap

1 year ago I met a Cap guy. Im a pisces female. We liked each other and started dating. After 1 month he said lets just be friends. I was crushed of course.

He meant what he said , lets just be friends. But he continued to hang out with me every week him initiating , we would go have dinner or drinks , movies and he would always pay even when I told him I could fall for him . And we are still hanging out 1 year later .

2 months ago he started warming up to me more and having me meet his mom and family a couple times. He even came out to have dinner with my parents and kids.

He started putting his arm around me puts his hand on the small of my back when we are out , tells me how nice I look , my hair my outfits my scent and how good I smell noticing all the small details about me he even told me he likes me more than a friend and kissed me on my forhead . He says he wants to do other things than just go out to dinner and movies ect ect. All the while he does not have sex with me at all.

And of course I told him Im falling for him

He wrote back and told me we are better off as friends and he does not feel romanitcally for me.. So I said ill need time for myself..

10 days later he contacts me and says ok its been long enough and wants to see me .. This leaving me so confused, honeslty I think I made it to easy for him to see me and be around me , Ill admit I really never put up a challange for him. I know I should have belived him at first when he said he just wanted to be friends. But Ive never had a guy do all of the above with me and " just be friends.... Is this a Male Capricorn thing ? Do they take forever to fall in love ? Is he in denial or should I just walk away??

does he have an STD? maybe thats the issue?

He may have commitment issues. If so, that has nothing to do with you. He has to sort those issues on his own.

Such a person will yo-yo with your feelings for a longtime till you get drained. Its just exhausting...

You are better off moving on and being available to a man who wants sth more with you.

You are right , you should have believed him when he told you "we should be friends".

"10 days later he contacts me and says ok its been long enough and wants to see me .. "

Lol....he gave you a time limit for your space. Indeed, you have made it too easy for him because he can easily intrude your boundaries when he feels like it.

You have to set boundaries and stick with them.

I'm a Capricorn woman and I can tell you that we are VERY slow movers. We always wanna be 250% sure before we make any decisions we over think EVERYTHING even love. I wouldn't look to much into it Really, I would say he definitely likes you we always find time for those we favor! He noticed the small details about you, that's a good sign to. Honestly if you can not deal move on, do not torture yourself. But if you really enjoy him , just be his friend who knows what it will grow into with us Capricorns, if you can gain his trust you will surely get his heart trust me baby steps

Posted by Capz
does he haves kidz

No he does not.

he likes you but

sounds like he has intimacy issues.

Hi Brittp 192 and Netpower

Hi and thankyou for for your input ..

Yes he is very slow moving especially because of the failed relationships he has in the past and being hurt . possibly giving him commitment issues and being guarded.

Id say his words dont always match his actions I seem to make him nervous around me by the way he acts such as putting his hand through his hair over and over and other things like that.

There seems to be some deep emotion brewing that he is trying to lock down and control.

And yes he does find time for me Im part of his life routine I think.

And of course I want more of him and he is doing everything on his terms really and part of that does bother me ..

I dont see my feelings changing for him even If I did let him go, Its a rare case for me to feel this way for someone and it would take me a long time to get over him no joke. Im on the fence here about letting him go or sticking around just being friends ..

He has told me he is scared as well but I didnt ask him if he is scared to fall in love with me or is he is scared of my feelings for him.

But maybe I should make it harder for him and not as easy to see me.

Maybe let go of the idea of him and I in that way but enjoy our friendship.

Posted by mer-eye-uh
does he have an STD? maybe thats the issue?

I dont think so . He is extremely cautious with everything.

What the hell? he wants u for everything but sex.. ok I get that cuz u guys are just friends .. he enjoys his time with u.. ok cool.. he made it clear that he wants to be just friends though .. I would back off cuz at this point I think he's playing with your feelings or rather you're letting him play with your feelings .. take a couple steps back .. not as a make him miss u thing cuz u guys are just friends, do it for u

Put that Virgo moon of yours to work and vanish. Or that Pisces sun and swim away.

But definitely channel that Virgo moon, no one can play an earth signs game like another earth sign.

Either way:

Posted by Piscessunvirgomoon
Hi Brittp 192 and Netpower

Hi and thankyou for for your input ..

Yes he is very slow moving especially because of the failed relationships he has in the past and being hurt . possibly giving him commitment issues and being guarded.

Id say his words dont always match his actions I seem to make him nervous around me by the way he acts such as putting his hand through his hair over and over and other things like that.

There seems to be some deep emotion brewing that he is trying to lock down and control.

And yes he does find time for me Im part of his life routine I think.

And of course I want more of him and he is doing everything on his terms really and part of that does bother me ..

I dont see my feelings changing for him even If I did let him go, Its a rare case for me to feel this way for someone and it would take me a long time to get over him no joke. Im on the fence here about letting him go or sticking around just being friends ..

He has told me he is scared as well but I didnt ask him if he is scared to fall in love with me or is he is scared of my feelings for him.

But maybe I should make it harder for him and not as easy to see me.

Maybe let go of the idea of him and I in that way but enjoy our friendship.

Why would you want to be with someone whose words don't match their actions? He is not consistent...

You are worth more than that. You are selling yourself short...

Even being his friend will be more challenging because of your feelings for him.

You say "And of course I want more of him and he is doing everything on his terms and part of that does bother me"

Look he does things on his own terms because that is his right. He doesnot owe you anything. No obligations. He will only award you some time in his routine but not his heart.

Gal, you are settling for breadcrumbs when you deserve more.

With you being a Pisces sheds some light. We can sometimes stay too long in situations that are sub par. We can be too giving a times with our time and affection. You need to be selective with who receives this treatment.

Its not for everyone.

Remember you matter as well and sacrificing everything for someone doesnot mean they will love you. There are people who will gladly exploit you because of your giving nature. You have to come first and if your needs cannot be matched or met by another person don't waste your time ....move on



See this situation for what it is. Let that Virgo moon bring in some rationality lol. You want more, he is scared thus undecided...this guy is unfortunately not seriously interested in you and you have no power to change that.

Posted by netpower

Posted by Piscessunvirgomoon
Hi Brittp 192 and Netpower

Hi and thankyou for for your input ..

Yes he is very slow moving especially because of the failed relationships he has in the past and being hurt . possibly giving him commitment issues and being guarded.

Id say his words dont always match his actions I seem to make him nervous around me by the way he acts such as putting his hand through his hair over and over and other things like that.

There seems to be some deep emotion brewing that he is trying to lock down and control.

And yes he does find time for me Im part of his life routine I think.

And of course I want more of him and he is doing everything on his terms really and part of that does bother me ..

I dont see my feelings changing for him even If I did let him go, Its a rare case for me to feel this way for someone and it would take me a long time to get over him no joke. Im on the fence here about letting him go or sticking around just being friends ..

He has told me he is scared as well but I didnt ask him if he is scared to fall in love with me or is he is scared of my feelings for him.

But maybe I should make it harder for him and not as easy to see me.

Maybe let go of the idea of him and I in that way but enjoy our friendship.

Why would you want to be with someone whose words don't match their actions? He is not consistent...

You are worth more than that. You are selling yourself short...

Even being his friend will be more challenging because of your feelings for him.

You say "And of course I want more of him and he is doing everything on his terms and part of that does bother me"

Look he does things on his own terms because that is his right. He doesnot owe you anything. No obligations. He will only award you some time in his routine but not his heart.

Gal, you are settling for breadcrumbs when you deserve more.

With you being a Pisces sheds some light. We can sometimes stay too long in situations that are sub par. We can be too giving a times with our time and affection. You need to be selective with who receives this treatment.

Its not for everyone.

Remember you matter as well and sacrificing everything for someone doesnot mean they will love you. There are people who will gladly exploit you because of your giving nature. You have to come first and if your needs cannot be matched or met by another person don't waste your time ....move on



See this situation for what it is. Let that Virgo moon bring in some rationality lol. You want more, he is scared thus undecided...this guy is unfortunately not seriously interested in you and you have no power to change that.

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Very true what you say. Accepting this is whats so hard. My heart and mind just cant seem to wrap around being rejected is very painful .

Ha the virgo moon seems to make it worse not better with the analizing and trying to fix it.

And your correct its breadcrumbs Im getting and at the same time I know I deserve much more than that..

And I thought Caps and Pisces where suppose a great soulmate potential ...

I know Ill just be torturing myself sticking it out.

Honeslty either way if I do back out completely or I stay its both going to be painful.

Posted by Piscessunvirgomoon

Posted by netpower

Posted by Piscessunvirgomoon
Hi Brittp 192 and Netpower

Hi and thankyou for for your input ..

Yes he is very slow moving especially because of the failed relationships he has in the past and being hurt . possibly giving him commitment issues and being guarded.

Id say his words dont always match his actions I seem to make him nervous around me by the way he acts such as putting his hand through his hair over and over and other things like that.

There seems to be some deep emotion brewing that he is trying to lock down and control.

And yes he does find time for me Im part of his life routine I think.

And of course I want more of him and he is doing everything on his terms really and part of that does bother me ..

I dont see my feelings changing for him even If I did let him go, Its a rare case for me to feel this way for someone and it would take me a long time to get over him no joke. Im on the fence here about letting him go or sticking around just being friends ..

He has told me he is scared as well but I didnt ask him if he is scared to fall in love with me or is he is scared of my feelings for him.

But maybe I should make it harder for him and not as easy to see me.

Maybe let go of the idea of him and I in that way but enjoy our friendship.

Why would you want to be with someone whose words don't match their actions? He is not consistent...

You are worth more than that. You are selling yourself short...

Even being his friend will be more challenging because of your feelings for him.

You say "And of course I want more of him and he is doing everything on his terms and part of that does bother me"

Look he does things on his own terms because that is his right. He doesnot owe you anything. No obligations. He will only award you some time in his routine but not his heart.

Gal, you are settling for breadcrumbs when you deserve more.

With you being a Pisces sheds some light. We can sometimes stay too long in situations that are sub par. We can be too giving a times with our time and affection. You need to be selective with who receives this treatment.

Its not for everyone.

Remember you matter as well and sacrificing everything for someone doesnot mean they will love you. There are people who will gladly exploit you because of your giving nature. You have to come first and if your needs cannot be matched or met by another person don't waste your time ....move on



See this situation for what it is. Let that Virgo moon bring in some rationality lol. You want more, he is scared thus undecided...this guy is unfortunately not seriously interested in you and you have no power to change that.

Very true what you say. Accepting this is whats so hard. My heart and mind just cant seem to wrap around being rejected is very painful .

Ha the virgo moon seems to make it worse not better with the analizing and trying to fix it.

And your correct its breadcrumbs Im getting and at the same time I know I deserve much more than that..

And I thought Caps and Pisces where suppose a great soulmate potential ...

I know Ill just be torturing myself sticking it out.

Honeslty either way if I do back out completely or I stay its both going to be painful.

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I feel for you 😢

It is frustrating that's why when such red flags show up, i swim away 😄 lol

Hahahah yes the Virgo moon can do that. But you can't fix other people, only you

Caps and Pisces have great potential when both are evolved. When they are both unevolved, its just horrible.

Don't undermine yourself by settling for less. There is potential out there.

You are right, whether you stay or leave it will hurt. Rejection hurts but when you look at it clearly, its a blessing for you because you will be available to someone who knows what they want.

Don't let it discourage you.

Move on and have nothing to do with him.

It gets better with time 🙂