Some observations about cap friend

BT,that's a pretty interesting post. My guy has always been super secretive about me for the same reason that your co-worker keeps secret as well. It didn't make sense until I had the misfortune to meet some of his friends. After that, I was like...yes, please keep us separate.

I don't believe that he's being secretive. Some Caps have a way of compartmentalizing their lives. Personal is personal and business is business. Normally the people they work with are often considered acquaintances. Therefore, they may not share personal issues.

Yes..I guess the cap wants his personal and proffesional life to be clearly demarcated. I hope thats the reason. One cute thing that I have noticed is that he loves sharing office gossip and keeps me updated on who is climbing up the ladder, networking stuff like that. I guess one reason that his frens try to tell me about his girl could be because they have also noticed that I and the cap have become very good frens. I think they wanted me to know that the cap is taken. I can totally understand that.

I was the same way w/ my ex's - I keep work related things at work (unless I feel the need to really discuss them by venting with usually other co-workers whom in turn usually feel for my frustration) and my personal life is rather personal since I for one feel that others don't really care about what I do as I don't really care what they do outside of the workplace either unless I'm really interested in them and maybe become friends w/ them - but there's also the possibility of him feeling ashamed of being with that person - but feeling they can't do any better so they stick to the relationship anyways - or they try to help the relationship get better despite that the significant other doesn't seem to want to change any of their ways as much as the Cap tries to change theirs. But it could also be their upbringing - I know that people in the midwest (according to my mom whom grew up in Wisconsin) told me that people (unlike here in PA where things are a little more likely to become gossip) there are very much to themselves - they keep their personal life personal and their work life is mostly secluded to those they work with - I guess it could be alot of things - but I guess him being a Cap wouldn't make it any easier to guess either 😛) Best of luck though 🙂

I never talk about my love life to work mates, one reason being that at drink after work that used to attend... they gossip about the love lives of other people we work with.. i dont like it and as a result have stoppd going to after work drinks.

Talking about your personal life to strangers can be dangerouse, it opens the door for them to have an opinion, when outside voices start interfearing, thats when things can break down between the couple. I have seen it happened often with friends (outside work) and with family, heart get broken and it awful.

pardon my awful spelling 😛 typing too fast.