taking a break CAPS

My cap man told me he wanted to take a break. I really messed up, I embarrassed him and definitely lost his trust. What can I do to make it better? I wonder when he'll contact me again. It's been almost a week since we last saw each other. Any advice on how to make it right again? And what he might be going through? .. I'm an aries

What did you do to embarrass him?

kind of a long story..and personal

basically for a few weeks I was really emotional all the time because i was just having bad luck with life in general. Everytime i would get drunk i would cry and push him away.. i dont drink very often, and when i do i get out of control.
He was already feeling uneasy about the way i was acting for the past few weeks. THEN there was a party and i showed up with his ex-gf (which was perfectly fine as i was friends with her and he was comfortable as he also has a friendship with her.) I showed up late so got way to drunk really quickly and for some reason suggested a threesome with him and his ex. I dont remember doing this, i dont know why i did this. .. i think i blacked out and came to while he was touching her, and immediately stood up and tried to leave the room because i didnt know wtf was going on. they both started being like "whats going on? what did i do wrong?".. next thing you know I'm balling my eyes out screaming "i just wanna go home, you have no idea, i screwed up so bad this time!" to the ex. I ended up staying at his place, the next morning he didnt want to talk to me. I apologized and left knowing he needed time and space.
it was like the last straw
3 days later he contacted me so we could talk, we had an honest conversation that was really light, just like friends have. not much negative. he said he wanted to take some space and time to be alone because he felt disconnected and different. haven't seen him since, which was a week ago.
I am SO embarrassed for what i was acting like that whole time. I'm so embarrassed about everything.

We've been really good friends for 5 years, and ive liked him the whole time, and now ive screwed it. i just need some advice..

METOO

thats exactly what i said the morning after, I truly apologized for my actions and told him i would be here when he was ready to talk. when we had our second conversation three days later, I said " i dont know what to say, apologies are getting old. I'm embarrassed for how ive been..."
I am very calm when it comes to confrontation, i dont like to argue, and i really try to be honest and to the point.

Thanks for the advice

Thanks 🙂 Great advice

Black out drinking doesn't just *happen*. Have you looked into this? This is probably scaring the poopies out of him...wondering if you have a drinking issue.

My advice would be to seriously look into it...and then do someone about it.

Good luck, I hope it all works out the best for you.

thank you for your honesty, advice and concern

You need to learn to manage your alcohol intake - eat before drinking, pace yourself, etc. You obviously have no tolerance or control. As far as the embarrassment, yes, I would be too and probably would write you off as unstable or too emotional. Sorry if that sounds brutal, but if you can limit your consumption, you will not do or say things you normally wouldn't. Believe me, I was young once too and had the learn the hard way.

I actually plan on not drinking anymore, i wasnt a big fan of it ever and rarely do. so that fixes that. so how do i make it better with him? cuz i am the total opposite when im not drunk

Just give him his space. Apologizing with no or little response from him, will only make you upset in the end. He'll most likely come back around. It just may not be when you want, but there's nothing else you can really do.

If he likes you, he will come around. You may have to prove yourself again. Good luck!!!! Hope it works out. Caps are usually pretty forgiving - we know we're not perfect, either.

Good point! I didn't look at it from that angle.