Trust

Can caps really be trusted? I seem to have a lot of trust issues with my cap. Everything he does I seem to be suspicious of. I want to get past it because I feel I can trust him, but I just don't understand why I don't.

OF course you had to be the one to respond. It's not that he's treating me like shit. Its just that he seems scandalous about things. He's just very secretive and to himself with some things I guess.

Bran can you actually be nice to anyone ever?

Obviously u dont' remember my situation w/him before. We have known one another for a little over a year now...the first 8 mos was just purely sex. We only seen each other couple times a week, and that was all it was. I accepted and knew it. Well I wanted to get serious, we did for a short time and it didn't work out. Well now we r back together and things have been going good. We've been serious for 4 mos now. Maybe I am insecure, maybe ur right. But I don't think he thinks he can walk all over me and I will still be there, he has much more respect for me than that. Maybe I have insecurities with him because of the way he and I were for the first 8 mos, I don't know. Maybe I just don't know how to take him seriously since he we werent for a long time.

Branh...thank you ..you put my situatin black on white...and I have known my cap for years but as you put it is the way it is ...well I have put a stop on nonsense..becuase as I read somewhere If a Man wants you NOTHING can keep him away..if he doesn't nothing can make him stay....I look back and laugh at myself..

Soo confused - you chased him for years? so you guys weren't exclusive at all?

oh we were exclusive ( or so he told me) ....about 4 years ago..for about 9 months..had a big break..always kept in touch..started going out again in january..he told me we were exclusive...and this time around his life is under controll..wel...It's june..and all that control is gone...haven't heard from him in more than a week after he stiffed me for a date....

mycap

when u have these trust issues abt ur cappie, I suggest tat u just ask ur heart what it tells u..and by that I mean tat
dont listen to ur frens
dont analyse his words and his actions
dont fret and worry coz it wont do any good for urself

Just ask ur heart and it will tell u whether u shud trust someone or not..

Thanks for the responses!

TGWC -- Ok you totally understand where I'm coming from. And you said it right on when u said that ur worst fear is when u do totally trust him he will screw u over. That's exactly what I think. Me and my cap were discussing our relationship the other day and I told him that it's like I'm scared to just give myself to him wholeheartedly because I'm afraid of getting hurt. He said that's stupid. But it's not to me. It's just how I'm thinking right now. I'm just so used to other guys I've dated opening themselves up to me like an open book and them communicating so well. But this cap doesn't communicate so well, but he's improving, and that's because of me! What work these men are!

And ur right bittertaurus, I've asked my heart and deep down I do believe that he's faithful to me, but then again it's like my head tries to get in there and change that on me.