Unexplained Disappearance

Me Scorp. Him Cap. Both of us strong Sagittarian style s of philosophizing. (His eyes lit up so nicely when I asked if he had placements there! He was explaining to me about astrology being energy.)

We met online with minimal witty banter, and agreed to meet in person. His idea of where to meet was nixed, so we met at a gas station, wandered over to the nearest restaurant, and sat down. Ended up launching into conversation so humorous and intense and off-beat and FUN that the waitress, who'd come by 4-5 times already, finally asked if we needed her. We'd tried looking at the menu several times but kept getting distracted. Very little of this was personal. A lot of it was theoretical. All of it was wow.

We'd shared a pizza. When it came time to part ways, there was half left, and he said for me to take it, even though he paid. He wanted a hug before leaving. He texted me that he made it to his home.

I messaged the next day saying how wonderful that all was, and with a few follow-up questions about his theories, and even a comment about his first choice of place to meet having a nice event coming up. He said he was glad I had a good time to the first message, but ignored the others. I haven't heard from him since. It's been almost a week. The stalker-friendly website (danged thing) does say he's been online. I did send a short message Monday asking what's up. No response.

Dafuq?

you scared him with your awesomeness... leave it be. if he comes back all good, otherwise no loss. flaking this early on is not a great sign though.

Well, at least you enjoyed the conversation and had a nice time. 🙂

If you run into him again, just be friendly. He could end up being a good friend someday. No sense being upset since you really didn't have anything invested.

Who knows, maybe he's been distracted, cleaning up unfinished business with an ex, got overtime at work, letting it all sink in, family issues....ya never know. I wouldn't take it personally.

A week really isn't that long when you barely know someone. If he contacts you, I think you ought to give him a chance.

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Posted by Draumstafir
Me Scorp. Him Cap. Both of us strong Sagittarian style s of philosophizing. (His eyes lit up so nicely when I asked if he had placements there! He was explaining to me about astrology being energy.)

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Talking a lot about philosopical subjects is nice with friends and so forth but it doesn't sound like you formed any type of "romantic connection" with him. You didn't connect to his heart 🙂

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I know! I wanted to try again, at a more-action-less-talk type meeting. Just because I already know the talk can reach higher than most anyone I've ever met in person. That's amazing in itself. So if the other side has even a small spark...

*Sigh* Being 100% ignored is the worst thing ever. It's like when I apply for jobs and never hear back. Granted, this is not a job. But being told a negative answer at least ends the chapter so it quits coming to mind. Sure was an interesting chapter...

Maybe I should just pour myself into finding that empty, unfulfilling, better-dressed office job that has hopes of being better than retail. Office jobs like to ignore me when I apply online, so sometimes I bug them in person. Then I actually get to watch them CRINGE when they see my past work history. What, like lack of opportunity has been on purpose or something.

Friend zone all the way = /. If he already has friends that he can talk to about what you guys talked about and no personal exchanges were made.... well... yea. He??ll come back, eventually, if he thought it was worth it to meet in person he is obviously interested in ??something?? . Problem is do you really want to take a step forward with someone that is perfectly fine with ignoring you for a week?

Mayyyyybe. I'm looking for friends, too. I personally don't have friends I can theorize with offline. 0:-) Friends can evolve into more, but they're not required to.

Love my Saggi Merc. Fun Saggi Merc. Danged Saggi Merc; never fits in.

I??ve personally never seen a boy and girl friendship NOT turn into something more. I??ve heard of it, and read about it, but I feel it to be an ellusive unicorn. He??ll come around = ) and best of wishes

He did give me his E-mail, all on his own initiative, the day after. And was keeping in contact then through text. I didn't use it then and wasn't going to, except by the time I came here I also started thinking maybe the phone had dropped in a puddle or something. Technology can be a bugger. Gave the new contact 1 shot only; no pestering it. The amount of time to go from yay to nay *may* have been just enough time to do the dreaded interwebs search for "scorpio woman".

Disassociation with my Sun sign is pretty much what kept me thinking astrology was bogus until so very recently. My Mercury with possible hints of Moon are really what I relate to. The house placements are also intriguing and I've been learning more about that. But I digress.

Bad Google!

Turn-off yes, but that's half the point: yesterday I decided to embrace Scorpio and send one last message: "Dorkus!" (I'm PG-friendly, y'know.)

I'm still meeting people, of course. But these poor linear-thinking individuals are just so... on a very different wavelength... Kind? Yes. Sweet? Yes. Polite? Yes. Handsome? Most. Sound good? Yes. Smell good? Yes. Good taste? Yes. Good energy? Most. Make me laugh? Somewhat. Make me think? Not a bit. Ask questions? Yes, EASY ones (What are my favorite movies/music/food). One guy is SO SMART. Studied quantum physics of all things, and was explaining it to me in analogies that made sense. My Merc was intrigued but it wasn't really applicable to anything I could touch. Then he apologized for using too much jargon, and then was impressed when I said no, keep going. I was asking questions and making comparisons and it was slightly interesting. Then he was done and then I was bored. And he's a Saggi Sun. My Saggi Merc got bored with a Saggi Sun.

Dafuq is wrong with me...

Is there some sort of philosophy convention I can bust into somewhere?

Sorry. Ranting. Meh. Brain, please sleep now.

I want a mental challenge too. 😢

And I want to bust out laughing again in a good, hearty way.

It's just so RARE.

And yes I've researched Virgo Moon. 🙂 I've analyzed the analytical. I like it! It's my 2nd fav to Saggi Merc. But I'm not anal about having tasks done in any specific way, and I'm hardly prepared for anything. I actually enjoy surprises and traveling without a plan. I do dislike mindless tasks and avoid them like the plague. Messes don't bother me. I SEE something out of place, but I just don't care. But yeah I'll see it. And point and laugh.

I am interested in healthy eating, though. 🙂 I like that bit. It's mostly because I've found that doing so can increase my energy. And it can do useful things too, like keep my joints from aching. Yes I'm only 27 and yes I had aching old lady joints in high school. It was nastiness. Apparently I had allergies to something. Problem removed.

I want a mental challenge IN PERSON.

I can find theorizers all over the internet. This place, for example. I'm learning about astrology and it's looking a lot like chess, with the human psyche. Um, cool! Even in wandering onto a video game you'll find people going off on sci-fi tangents and making leaps in conversation that are just hilarious. It's addictive and I don't know where the time goes. I love shows like House (before it became dark and moody), and Doctor Who's wittiness when Russell T. Davies was the writer. The semi-recent remake of Sherlock is an especial favorite. Witty bantering is just so fun for me even if all I get to do is read it or watch it. I'd love to join in with more than just typing.

But then in person the people I meet, girl, guy, older, younger, tell me I'm hard to have a conversation with. I'm weird and "eccentric" and kinda scatter-brained. But not cheerleader- style scatter-brained, just juggling too many subjects at once (and keeping up with them all!). So I hold back and appear "shy". Become my friend and whoops! I'm a little on the crazy eccentric side... sorry... didn't warn ya! 😛

My very favorite professor in college was, of course, the philosopher. The psychologist with ADHD was a close second. I loved when as soon as the subject started to get a little stale, as in yeah yeah, I GET it already, she'd lose track and start teaching something entirely different. Yay!

I just want more of this. In person. It was amazing that someone my own age and local to me would be into it, but if he's decided against me for some reason, I have no desire to be a nuisance. I wanted to learn more with him and about him and see if there could be more connection, but only if that's two-way. Either way I want more theorizing in person. It's fun dagnabit! 🙂

And I know I can't get it here, online. This is counter-productive but the sun is down, and it's either bug you or go find more office jobs I apparently don't qualify for. Mmm... sounds like bedtime.

Sleep well, whenever you go! And thanks for any advice. Even when I don't take it, I do appreciate it.

Posted by 88PisceScorp
And don't feel bad, these kind of guys need to be dropped like hot potatoes.

when you do meet another one, you message only once if you can't wait till he messages you back. If he doesn't respond.
You drop him, and most likely he will come to you. Because he will see a strong woman who is not afraid to *drop him*. 🙂

^^^ Truth right there.

I had a few dates with a Virgo, then all of a sudden, no contact for about two weeks. I sent him one text. No response. Started dating the aqua. Lo and behold, albeit two months later, Virgo was texting me and telling me he regretted it all, trying to get me to break it off and give him another chance, etc. Of course, I wouldn't. Every two or three months Virgo was contacting me saying the same things. He finally got the message and doesn't contact me any more. I'm wondering if it was because of what 88 said. I wasn't afraid to walk away and didn't go chasing him like most girls would. No telling, but very possible.