Validation

Hi cappys... Practical, cold, aloof, emotionless...

I write here for the very first time because i need validation... Because im sincerely tired of this waiting game it feels like im wasting my time with one of your fellow caps

Im pisces... Little background we are not formally exclusive Ive been seeing this cappy guy for about year and a half at this point we are more than holding hands... Sex is amazing, but unfortunately it seems like he is not willing to offer more, he is devorced... i though it was a matter of time and patience but theres is been opportunities in which i directly had ask him if there is any future with us but he has being very clear he doesnt know now... So i stepped off the relationship for a couple months becausd off that, but he kept calling me... So we ended up back where we left off... Ive noticed he gets very hot and turns very cold...he is very nice with me but since we are not going anywhere, everytime i try to end it he dont want me to and ask me to take things as they come...

Long story short recently we thought we got pregnant (not planned obviously) false alarm thank god, but that lead to a conversation about kids and shit and he made a comment that scared me for ever, he sees himself with kids but with a family and wife... But obviously not me...

Im done... This guy is using me and im letting him... So can someone please just give me some validation and encouragemeng i know this needs to end, no patience will change this

Posted by cheekyfaerie
Agreed. After a year and a half, you should be more than not formally exclusive. He's leaving his options open. As for not wanting you to leave, there's a big difference between actually wanting you and simply not wanting someone else to have you.

After a year and a half, you shouldn't still be wondering where you stand. The sad irony is that, it tells you where you stand. :/

+1

I agree with the rest. He's not seeing you in his future. Best to find someone who does.

A cap is slow, but we generally know within a few months whether we see a future with someone.

Sorry to hear this, Cap guys will take what you give if you let them. Hope you find someone more suitable to you.

Aww, that is adorable!

Posted by JanuaryCappie
Time to leave 😢 I agree with TrueCap

If I was with a girl for 1+ year,I would definitely know my future with her and if she would be my potential wife. My thoughts would look like this

+1000000 thats exactly why i name this thread "validation" and also the reason why in the pisces/capricorn thread i said we are soft lively creatures but we can spend all the love in the world trying to melt cappys iceberg heart...

He is just simply taking what im giving and he still dont see me as anything else... Reason why many if us swim away... Just like im doing... No more reply to his communication...

Hey sista pisces!

Nice to have you here! I was in somewhat same situation as you, pretty much the exact. But my question for you is; what else does he do in life? Career? Does he take care of his family? Studying? Age?

I believe you, and I know how it feel when you try and try... You get the right signals and everything, but frustrates you not to get to the goal - being exclusive with him.

The the might be though, that hes working on SOMETHING..thats is his priority right now. He is keeping you on his radar, because he does want you, but not now. But do not give im, sweety! You have to stop the physical affection, but keep on giving him the emotional support. I know its hard, because we Pisceans just want to "give ourselves" to the person we love. Its not wrong, but for your own good, dont! Keep being there, support his plans/ideas, but only emotionally. He WILL notice this, treasure it, and he will flow back to you. I hope you have plenty of patience, because this will take time.

But FIRST, take a choice about if you want to put im this effort.

All the best sweety! Cheers!