Vintage cap ... is an idiot

Hi all ...

So after a few months of relative drama-free life with my Virgo lass, she does another of her "duck and cover" moves ... on the eve of a romantic weekend out of town, she drops the "I'm still exploring ... the way I feel" line on me in an email.

I'm tired of being explored. I feel like I have two choices, hurt now or hurt later. I'm an unusual Cap who expresses his feelings, and I feel idiotic for leaving my heart open to someone who is unable to express hers or come to a conclusion.

I'm not impatient. Our situation with kids precludes anything like marriage for a few years. But I am old enough to not want to sit around for two years waiting for someone to make up her mind whether she has feelings for me.

Damn it. I finally meet someone I get along with on an intellectual, conversational and physical level, but she's emotionally stunted.

Help. Please.

Oh Virgo's! LOL!

Strange creatures indeed, if I may add to the punch.

Oh Virgo's! LOL!

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HAHAHAHA

Ya' I plan to do a Ph.D. in "Virgo aging and behavioral patterns" after couple of years of holy matrimony 😉..

Neither of us are young. Let's say we're over 40 and leave it there 🙂 ...

I'm 6 years older. She's been married once, divorced over 12 years. I've been married twice, divorced five.

Sagigoat & /Capgirl: We were both out of town at the same time and didn't see each other for two weeks. A few phone calls. Got together twice since. Met her friends Saturday night. I've met with two different sets of friends and they thought I was great for her (they told her, and she told me). She has no cancer in her chart, but she does the side/backwards/side step beautifully.

We talked today (she hates phones). We're talking about this and I'm getting frustrated so I say "call me later." She says "Why should I call you later?" "So we can continue this discussion." She says "Why call you later when we can have this discussion in the car tomorrow (on the trip)."

She's clueless. I was looking forward to a romantic weekend and she punctured it and yet doesn't seem to understand how I might feel deflated. I even told her she has a habit of ruining the romance and it seemed to bounce off her. Are Virgos selfish? I've never heard that but I'm starting to wonder.

I'm nearing that hurt now or hurt later stage, and leaning toward the now. Too old for this crap.

Thanks, ddsk

"It is wrong to think that Love comes from long companionship or persevering courtship. Love is the offspring of a spiritual affinity, and unless that affinity is created IN A MOMENT, it will not be created in years or even generations."
- Kahlil Gibran, from "The Broken Wings"

ddsk, while i agree it is best to love and lost, then to never have loved at all, you must also be kind to your heart. Allow it to be open to love and have no regrets, but protect the love you have inside.

It might be time set yourself free ...

"I'd ask my heart more than my head in cases of heart."

Sometimes, this is easier said than done, but i would agree.