Violence in a Cappy?

Has anyone ever experienced a violent relationship with a cappy male? I HAD this friend and we have known each other for a long time...he all of a sudden became violent with me. A very scary situation. I am working on healing myself but I am just wondering what the heck happened? I know that I have not given a lot of details here as it is very hard for me at this time. I also do NOT want to make this a Cappy thing as I do believe that anyone is capable of exihibiting these qualities. It is just that this person happened to be a cappy and I thought that maybe someone out there would be able to give me some insight on this..and then again, maybe there is none. Could it be is was just a life experience for me? how do I move through it? how do I trust another man? yes, I am hurting. I know somewhere deep within me I have the strength to get through this and I need to realize that it will take time. I would have thought that the days would have gotten easier but, they are getting harder as I am experiencing more thoughts and flash backs. Helen Keller was correct in saying, "Life is a daring adventure or nothing at all!"

Thanks for listening to my post. It helped for me to write and I suppose I should do more intense writing...later.

Thank you.....

I'm sorry to read of your experience and that you are hurting. And your right it's a life experience and nothing else. One can be born under any sign to behave in the manner as your SO did. I can relate to your ordeal however from a Pieces. I'm a Sagi myself. I'd never would have thought in a million years he would have done what he did. He ALWAYS was the most gentlest man I had ever met. It was surprising.

To move thru such an experience do what I do in any negative situtation that a person creates for me...write the guy a long letter. Detailing what he did, how it made you feel, what your experiencing now as a result, the whys, howcomes, emotions etc. Leave NOTHING out...And then BURN IT! It'll be really emotionally releasing for you and will help a great deal. You'll see.

As far as trusting a man again it took confiding in a close friend who just happened to be a male. The next thing I knew I was madly in love w/him! Of course that led to another major disaster (but that's another message board) so choose the friend carefully!

Helen Keller must have been a Sagi huh?

Hang in there you'll be fine (we're women afterall are we not?) and you'll emerge a much stronger woman! Be kind to yourself thru this too.

Thank YOU so much for responding and with such wonderful advice. I will write that letter and burn it, releasing all the emotions that have surfaced. If I can get through this, I can get through anything afterall, it is a part of life and because of this, I am "feeling" feelings I never had felt before. Not sure that I will confide this situation with another man...I think they then know we are vulnerable and we are and I am not sure that I would be thinking clearly...I will learn from you on this one. Thanks for mentioning that. You are very kind to help me in this situation. I really appreciate you.

Thanks,
Aries

PS. I have been doing some reading on this subject and I have learned that the reason a man would choose to let this happen/maybe not choose but subconsciously, it is coming from a place of fear. This too helps me to understand and to release and forgive him. I am looking forward to the many new people that will enter my life as this door has closed. Next?

I am a female cap who suffered this type of behaviour over a period of 13 years - my ex was a gemini. I think it is down to the person and nothing to do with starsigns. My only advice is get out of that relationship and stay out of it. Maybe being a cap I thought if I hung in there (being loyal) tried my best that things would change - things do change but people very rarely change. Last year I took a leap forward and must admit it is very hard especially with a young family etc but hey I've never looked back. Life is for living and being happy but also true to yourself never let anyone take away your dreams. Best Wishes

Thank you for your encouraging words. I have taken myself out of that relationship and I am NOT looking back. This experience has allowed me to grow and I am thankful for that. I will know the signs (hopefully) should this experience come to me again. I was reading in a very helpful book that once we face and deal with a situation and then let it go, we will not need to experience it again, therefore it will not enter our life. I have not seen or spoken with him since. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with me as they really helped. By the way, my ex when I was married was a Gemini too....I don't look back on that either.

Blessings to you.....

Well, although I am responding to this topic, I don't necessarily think that violence is cappy's thing.
Me, as a cappy female, may at times find myself aggressive when ill-treated or misunderstood. I had been exposed to violence ( not only physical, but mental too ) from men; to name a few signs, these were Aquarians, Librans, and yessss geminis, although the latters tended to be mental but persistent nevertheless.
The aquarian was definitely a sight to behold. He would get abusive, both mentally and physically, and all the while pretending it is MY fault, and wanted me to be so. Thank Goddness I got myself out of his clutches in due time.
The libran happens to be a 'close relative' who would also get abusive particularly when broke.
The gemini on the other hand wanted things to go HIS WAY or else he will chase you to the end of the world. Thank Goodness again I got out of his clutches when he was UNABLE to chase me to wherever I am now.
Just thought to let you know that men have large egoes, and as a capricorn woman please NEVER promise or say what you don't mean. And never get involved 100% with someone you are not sure you want for life. Last but not least, NEVER keep things bottled up, and let others on your dilemma before it is too late...!

I thought I would add a message; I hope you don't mind. I am a male Cappy (05-01-73) and I agree with what has been said about men having egos.
My mother suffered from domestic violence when I was old enough to know what it was but too young to be of any help. My Cappy determination and pride is focused on showing respect and love to my partner, which my mother lacked 20 years before. Incidently, my mother is a Sag and I believe Sag. and Cap. work well together as mother/son.

Being a Capricorn sometimes people just piss me off.