What do you think?

Do you believe in soul mates and true love and why?

No, I do not beleive in soul mates and all that. I think you make your own soul mates and true love. I think that stuff you may just beleive in when you first get with someone and can wear off. I think you can have the best relationship in the world , but it doesnt mean they are your soul mate. Maybe for the time being and if you want them to be.

Angel you have my sister's exact birthday!

What do I think? Well, what I think is...sure, why not? Soulmates can be anyone you desire them to be, true love is what we perceive it to be. Everything is our own perception....we create our life through our thoughts. If one views life as an adventure, well by golly that is what it shall be. If on the other hand/foot one views life as a struggle...sure enough, that is what is shall be. Anything is possible with an open mind. True love to me may be different than how you or someone else would perceive it to be. Most of our thoughts come from our past. The wonderful thing is that we can change our thoughts to fit who we are and what we desire to become.

Happy discovering 🙂

Hi,
Good one!

"Soul mate" —
hmmm......this phrase could mean different things for different people - depending on thier age, thier friends, thier surroundings and thier way of life and also to some extent thier seriousness towards life at any given time!!!

But i would think all these definitions would include one basic thing and that is "someone who makes you feel like you have never felt before...someone who opens doors for you that you havent noticed ever existed"

In that light, to answer your question "do i belive in soulmates?" - i would say yes i belive that there can be many such nice people in the world who given the chance could make me feel special!


On second thoughts :
i think this "soulmate" idea could also be counted as among an "aquired" feeling!!! 🙂
I mean i could get used to a relationship - suppose that i am in a relationship and i have a great rapport with my mate and we have a good thing going! After a while i might come to think of my mate as my soulmate!

🙂
I hope that gives you some food for thought!!

A lot of people can feel like soul-mates, it is really just a matter of meeting people where some aspect of their personality matches some aspect of yours. That doesn't mean you would have a great relationship with them though. I used to think life was about fate but now I realise it is about choices. Fate may deal us a certain hand but it is how we play the cards that decides our future. As long as you don't let your fears and insecurities rule you.

Hey...me again!
On third thoughts(yup! i can have multiple thoughts! My brain is a mutilprocessing machine!) 🙂 i totaly agree with 24.74.40.111.
She/he was able to put it into words much better than i have been able to!

Okay, now that I have gotten some feedback, tell me some more about what a soul mate is to you, and what true love is and means to you. I am really interested🙂

I "feel" that a "soulmate" to me is all the people that I truly connect with unconditonal love. We each accept each other for who we are without judging. One can "feel" the connection. I have a cappy male friend who is one of my soulmates. We will never marry and that is not important. What is important is the relationship that we have, that we share at this time in our lives. Also knowing that at any time the relationship may change and allowing it to change along with accepting the changes. Growth. Laughter. Love. Letting go. Accepting. Being in the moment. UNCONDITIONAL LOVE...it is love that heals the human soul.

Hi bunny,

Tell me about your sister and see if were a like. I know my son is a lot like I am. Sometimes it's hard to discipline him. I just smile and shake my head knowing it's something I would do or say.

Angel

I am speaking from my exrtremely limited knowledge on the subject of relationships, love, and soul mates (I just started my first actual relationship with a girl only two months ago, and I'm not 18 yet either for a good 5 months). I popped in the birth data for my girlfriend and I and got one of those freebie astrological reports that are all over the web if you're geeky enough to know where to look. Well, it said that we may well end up married and together for the rest of our lives and it went on and on saying what a link we have, but even if it may feel psychic at any given time it's one of the astrological pitfalls that we still need to keep talking and letting each other know what we're thinking. It also says that out of our pairing, a strong friendship would likely grow out of love through the years. Well, personally, way before we set eyes upon that computerized synastry report we were talking marriage...and basically all this leads up to the point that I think a soulmate is someone who will never fade into the background like so many people do in life and that love springs from loyalty equally as much as from feeling. I believe everyone has at least one soulmate, even if it's a platonic friendship kind of thing. I believe I've found one of mine, even if I never told her I liked her until after we'd been friends for 3 years and she'd been through several abusive relationships with people taking advantage of her and her good nature. I also don't believe I love her, that love can only come from time and sharing experiences together.

"I also don't believe I love her, that love can only come from time and sharing experiences together."

Josh,

Try not to analyze everything and worry so much. I know that is easier said than done and getting involved in a relationship is a big deal ,but just let it grow, let it flower and blossom! Allow the gifts of nature to help you out. It sounds like the heavens are giving you some extra help too, as in good earth--fertile ground!!! All you have to do is add your seed and a little sunshine and water and turn it in to something really beautiful!!! Nature has already supplied you with the basics. Go on ahead and plant them and watch in all wonder as it comes to life!!! It just takes some time. To really make something grow to it's fullest potential you have to work at it and above all else, you need some time!
S

PS: Let me know when you get to taste the fruits of your hard work! I bet it will taste good!

Oh yeah, soul mates....I believe we have one, and he is in heaven. I believe a connection to a soul lover is ordained by God. "Whatever he brings together no man can put usunder." IMO.

Nice to talk with you!

I have a Hare Krishna friend (only met them this last year) who believes that we all have a soul mate and that fate leads us although we all have free-will to choose.

My story - I was married for 13 years but after year one was having second thoughts but with a new baby etc decided to hang in there. Then for the next few years was to frightened to leave the marriage, lived in fear. Woke up one morning and knew I didnt love him any more but things had improved the abuse was few and far between and well I had a nice house, 2 cars, 2 holidays a year etc it seemed like to much hassle to get up and move on - life wasnt so bad! Who was I kidding but myself - one day out of the blue I (or should I say one morning after the abuse the night before) I said to myself right enough is enough - it is time to get out. So I sat him down told him I didnt love him etc. He begged me to stay said he loved me etc. To cut it short this went on for a few years but then again one day I thought sink or swim. I told him to leave I would buy the house from him etc and started to put this in motion. Should I say he made my life hell in various ways (why not it had made me take him back in previous times) but no not this time. And here comes the fate bit:- At the same time a new person started my work, he used to always ask why did I have such sad eyes etc (he was a scorpio). We became friends and after a matter of weeks I opened up and told him all that was going on. But unfortunately for me (unfortunate as I still cant forget him) we took things further. I fell for him big time and then knew there was no way I could ever go back to my husband. Firstly I didnt love him and having experienced being in love again for the first in years knew what I was missing and secondly knew it wasnt fair on either of us, that somewhere sometime there would be someone that would make my husband really happy as I was with my scorpio. My husband found out about scorpio and again made my life hell and his also. Scorpio had to leave because of his job and well I never answered him when he asked would I met him. About a month after he had left I went into despair and thats when I met my Hare Krishna friend. She told me that because I couldnt leave my marriage (kept going back) that fate had brought my scorpio friend into my life to show me what love was really about - she said I had a lesson to learn and sometimes they can be harsh so that we sit up and listen. She says that God obviously has other plans for me and that one day I would see this as nothing in life is more important than love - not the house, car, holidays etc. I know this to be true but only regretted not having met my scorpio when he asked. Her words again were well maybe he is not your true one, he was there to help you learn a lesson but if he is your true love then he will again come back into your life.

Very, very powerful. Thank YOU for sharing. In every adverse situation, there is the good. We need to look for that and focus on it. I agree with your friend. People are always brought into our lives to teach us more about who we are, to show us love. You have been given a gift. What's even more important is that you opened your heart to let him in, to experience that love. Some people never open their heart as they are afraid to lose something. Love is something to share, to give away, not to keep. Isn't living life great?

Another AF

At least you got a chance to feel love! It may have only lasted a moment but the memory will always be there.

Sometimes I feel it is better to have nothing(love) then to have all that and then have it disappear. I think what you don't have you never miss. And vice versa—
S

S,

You really feel that way? Life is about feeling all kinds of things...this is what helps us to grow...feelings don't stay with us forever, they change as we change. Love is the greatest give that we can give to someone. Please do not choose to just exist on this planet to feel safe. Go live life and what it has to offer you. You don't want to have regrets later on do you? You will also someday realize what you have missed as your life will be void of love. It is the memories that stay with us and it your job to create those memories so that you can recall them later on. Now go out there and create your life...have fun!

A-AF

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Yes I did feel love and yes unfortunately it was only for a moment but I will never forget that moment for the rest of my life. Right now I still hurt my heart feels so heavy at times but still I dont regret falling in love with him. You said maybe it would be better not to have love in your life than to loose it - deep down I dont think you mean that but I would say you have been hurt and are still hurting (sorry dont mean to pry)! I lived a life with my ex-husband where I had gradually drifted out of love and for years hadnt ever realised it. To my scorpio I say a big thank you for he made me feel again (although it hurts like hell!) but one day I know I will met someone and fall in love over again. You know for years I got up in the morning and done what had to be done that day but I wasnt living, I was a robot. After meeting my scorpio guy I woke in the morning happy, singing, full of life and love. I wanted to and did to total strangers give love, I wanted everyone to feel as good as I did, I wanted to see people smile and happy. If thats what love makes me feel then I never ever want to be without it again. 205 love will find you again!