When cap is betrayed...

When a cap is betrayed by his/her partner and he/she knows this, will he/she ever go back to him/her emotionally and perhaps give the relationship an

...another chance?

Well, in my opion it depends on who did the betraying. The women are a little more forgiving than the men. But Caps in general are VERY forgiving people. It has been my experience that when Cap MEN are scorned, they don't go back. Especially if the woman slept with another man. I think a lot of it is also dependent upon how long you've been with the person. Case and point, I dated a (divorced) Cap and he is still bitter to this day about his ex-wife leaving him. Even though she cheated on him and married the man she cheated on him with. He says he is over it, but they NEVER really get over that first heartbreak. While I think they heal and get over it, many Cap men do not marry again when they've been hurt. Something else, i've noticed with Cap men, is that if you are the woman they desire, they will take you through the ringer just to see how much you love them. This is there way of working out through the pain, using you as a punching bag!

So if you cheated on a Cap. YOu 've got to give him/her time to sort through things. If he or she loves you geniuely, then they will be back. Do not call the person, listen to them as much as possible whe they do return and understand that he or she may throw it back in your face from time to time, but again, that's there way of working through the pain. I do know this, it's very difficult to win a Cap man's trust and once they trust U, you've got them for life, but if they lose trust, they lose respect and TRUST ME it is no fun convincing them that you will never hurt them again. They will test you to the inth degree. I hope this helps. Stay prayerful.

God Bless You!

Another Taurus woman who knows her stuff! 😉

My experience has been one of forgiveness... however, I did not technically cheat on him but did hurt him or make him look and feel foolish at a minimum. I explained my behavior and apologized a few times, and it took a few weeks for him to come around and respond. I do think he's been on guard and mistrustful of me since though. And I definitely agree with what T36 said about "punching bag" and testing!!!

Thanks both! I did not cheat on a cap but I love a cap who was cheated on (of the sleeping variety). I know it hurt him a lot - he told me so, I was just wondering what the knock on effect is for a person in my position. And yes I am being tested, to hell and back. (Not together anymore.)

Would someone like to elaborate on these "tests" any examples would be useful.

Also would like to know how best to behave (me). Should I be sticky and commuciate stuff like 'I miss you', or keep it cool but be consistent/persistent in attention? Or just nothing. This cap is pretty insecure.

WW~ yours sounds like mine... He also had an ex-wife who cheated on him and is insecure. I don't know what the perfect answer/ approach is... don't get too heavy or emotional... They (this type- not Cap. men in general) are basically "commitmentphobes" in the sense that they're now extremely gun-shy and reluctant to trust and give themselves over again. I preach it all the time I know... but get the book, "He's Scared, She's Scared" by Steve Carter- it will spell it all out step by step. I need to get that darn book back from my friend!!

Febby~~ I think the biggest "test" is how you react/respond when they "spring back" from the rubberband pulling away. You know, when they come out of the cave... How cool, understanding, non-emotional and reactionary you are... They aren't necessarily caving it as a purposeful "test" to see how you'll respond- they are running/caving bc. of their issues but how you treat them when they reappear is the end resulting "test."

Hmmm, I agree Capgirl.
I say patience is going to pull you through, that is if you truly believe in your heart that this man wants to be with you. Remember that depending on the length of time between the time he was cheated on and when you met it critical. If it's recent, he may be rebounding. So give him some space and focus on other things for the moment. Let him come to you and observe his behavior. Please be real about the situation and don't get lost in the "what if", stay in the moment. PLEASE DON:T TRY TO BE HIS HEALER. It will come back to bite you in the butt. TRUST ME!! Hope this helps

God Bless.

if somebody cheats even you are truly committed to your partner and he/she knows.. then there is NO point in letting him/her in .. whats the guarantee you will not suffer the same again.. then will you be able to handle it.. when my partner did.. i never did .. even when she pleaded to come back.. sorry mate i am not game for these kind of games
its better to forget them and move on.. erase them from memory as if they never existed