Help me TAME me

I'm a girl with...

Sun/ Moon/ Venus Leo
Mars Taurus
Asc Libra (not sure though)

other stars... Merc Virgo, Jup Leo, Ur/ Sat/ Nep Cappy, Pluto Scorp

I love love and attracted to this man..

he's sun scorp, moon virgo, venus sagi, mars libra

but then perhaps I come out too strong esp in our conservative society (ya know, girls should be lady-like silently waiting in vain for their knight) -___-
Any advice in taming this fire-earthiness? Or I just need to try and hope people would understand and keep me as is??

I'm confident with myself but somehow, it's like I'm doing something wrong that I have to change it. HELP!