Aquarius Woman with Gemini Man. give me insight!

Hi everyone! this is my first post and i will keep it sweet and to the point.

I've met a great gemini man we hit it off. Met through mutual friends. Been talking for 3 weeks now or so...im at a point where im freaking out. I have thoughts of one minute not wanting to ever see him again and the next want to stick around. I feel so fickle and terrified of what is to come with a relationship between our sign. I'm just terrified that this happiness is going to wane and vanish...WHen i dont think about these negative thoughts, we just work...im sometimes moody out of nowhere, the next minute back to chill mode. then back to indifferent.

I accidently was on his facebook, thinking i was logged into mine, and i noticed all the messages he was sending to other girls. "it was great seeing you again, you looked very pretty made me reminisce" or "suck my dick in (shuai la ba)" (taught him that in chinese and he said it to another girl). Now these girls he knew them more than a year. I just met him in mid september. These girls are not as good looking either (im not being overly snooty or arrogant) i will gladly admit but they were lets just say....look wise not in the same level as me. I felt taken back..but he would spend most of his days with me. during the weekends. Drives up 45 minutes jsut to see me. He would look at me and say "i want to take things slow with you i have a crush on you" then as the weeks go by his words changed from crush to like. Cute to beautiful.

He drunk called me twice this past week, one i thought was a booty call, the second time he left a message, then messaged me on facebook 2x in a row. saying "your so hot...i miss you....please stay a little longer..dont leave yet". He always states "is that one of your boyfriends—" "man your phone is going off, is your boyfriend texting you?"

i feel so confused. I mean my feelings guide me to the "he digs you" despite his messages to other girls i feel it doesnt reflect his feelings or thoughts of me rather a reflection of my relationship to him. I mean i have other guys around that i just mentally play with. Fun to just flirt. but i really like him. I feel we are similar where we both dont want to give out anything until we both figure the other person out. In fear of losing out, i'll have back up or something. does he feel the same too?

Now i fear that once i breath and think its cool i can not think so hard...he wil lose interest.

I'm also an aqua F and I once dated a gemini M but it didn't work out also because he couldn't stop flirting with girls.And yea,he did look at me with love in his eyes,but then this other girl who hated me tried to flirt with my boyfriends most of the time and eventually she broke me apart from my gemini.Eh,all good things come to an end :p I hope you'll work out with him.

btw,I agree,you for sure are prettier then the other girls he's dating with 😄 ,You're pretty,you're an aqua,aka : you're cool.The guy for sure can't rezist you. So...try to maybe get closer to him slowly,but never forget that yeah,he's a gemini,and he will also need his space,which is okay for both of you 🙂 it can work out

thanks! i've dated another gemini before and that didnt work out. I mean he keeps saying "im so suprised you met with me today" i was near his work and decided to hit him up. We had a great time and a quick meeting and pinkberry. I just feel so much pressure to have to "suprise" "be mysterious" "be unpredictable" i can't breathe..im losing interest already. im tired lol

any gemini out there to give me some input—?

today he wants to make fondu for me and movie night....im excited yet terrified -_-)*

honestly i dont think you need to try too hard to be mysterious, unpredictable or surprise him. From the aquas i know, you guys are already naturally like that!.

Just seriously BE YOURSELF. Aquas and gems are usually pretty attracted to each other from what i've seen and experienced. Just dont give yourself too much or always be at his every beck and call. Let him miss you and wonder & think about you and you might have the cat in the bag!

ahh i see thank you 🙂

lol yeah what nats said. be yourself & have fun. 🙂

so shit hit the fan today short lived haha

so he ended up making me fondu (no sex of course he refused) took a lot of effort . suprised me with cute little chinese lanterns for ambiance in his crappy apartment which made it even more adorable. then as we were watching our movies..someone outside is calling his name. He goes out to check and it is a girl..one of the girls he wrote a email to saying "you were really pretty today made me reminisce" which is seriously his ex girlfriend.

He tells me to give him 5 mins...telling me everything that is happening with him and her. How shes in love with him still blah blah blah (not knowing i accidently went to his inbox thinking it was mine..and discovering that message) So i wait 5 mins. 6 mins comes along i decide im to anxious...gonna gohome. I mean if a guy has baggage im not gonna waste my time 🙂

Anyways, i end up going out my car they are no where in site (which at that time i thought shit..thank god! dont wanna get caught up in the middle of it). right when i start the car...that whore of his comes driving up the street blocking me to get out. mad dawing me LOL shit what a turn of events. so taken back!

to be honest i agree with nats. ive seen a bunch of aqua and gem couples, recently just got out of one, but i have to admit that aquas, you just tend to blend with us well. i say just be yourself and let it just happen. dont worry to much about the flirting, eventually if he starts to focus more on you, the others will fade away. just be his friend and focus on you two and let it happen

Honestly, your story reminds me exactly of my relationship! I am an aquarius cusp pisces and I've been dating a gemini guy for a few months. We even went to Pinkberry for a quick date haha but I have doubted this relationship since it started. Gemini's are unreliable, childish, and unrealistic but they are also the most loving, hilarious, and care-free people you'll ever meet! As aquarians, we love and appreciate our space and independence. A gemini also loves their freedom so the match usually works great in that area. An aquarian can tell the gemini how they feel without judgement; in fact gemini's love a good interesting conversation. I wouldn't give up on this guy yet, he sounds like he's trying to fix the "ex" situation and I'm sure he just doesn't want to involve you in it. It took me and my boyfriend three months just to finally make a move with our relationship, gemini's and aquarians tend to take things slow which is good because then it lasts longer. Once the gemini loves you (it might take forever but its worth it) he will do anything to make you happy. Just be happy and confident with yourself and he will want to spend every minute with you.

Gemini men can be a challenge. Good vibes to you.