thelibran
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Confronting a Gemini
My advice....don't put any or more of your energy into her or the situation. Let it go, so YOU can move on. You give her energy and pay attention to her....you then also give her your power (energy).
*revenge does not taste sweet
*revenge does not taste sweet
it's a waste of time. revenge has its way of kicking your ass no matter what you do.
she'll definately be surprised and she'll always have lies. she can think of lies in a milisecond and you probably wouldn't know if it's a lie or the truth.. again. waste of time. just don't bother trying to see her. proves no point. she's already lied. she already look stupid. what more do u want? waste of time.
i wouldn't play games either. if you're not in her heart, it'll bother her a bit that she may hurt you, but it wouldn't matter the next day. confused? then yea, gems do that well. lol.
she'll definately be surprised and she'll always have lies. she can think of lies in a milisecond and you probably wouldn't know if it's a lie or the truth.. again. waste of time. just don't bother trying to see her. proves no point. she's already lied. she already look stupid. what more do u want? waste of time.
i wouldn't play games either. if you're not in her heart, it'll bother her a bit that she may hurt you, but it wouldn't matter the next day. confused? then yea, gems do that well. lol.
according to me "revenge is for losers" ... so this is not tat type.🙂Gotta meet her face to face bcoz the desire to meet overrides my other thoughts in every possible way.. I cannot free myself up until i see her.
Lies are the part I am trying to negotiate with in advance... trying to solve it even before she is about to lie.... 😢
Lies are the part I am trying to negotiate with in advance... trying to solve it even before she is about to lie.... 😢
libran, though i dont' know you but as a person, i do care to some extent.
Geminis are sweet and caring people. when gems lie, is when they don't care.
the gem that you are talking to is immature and will play games until she finds herself that it isn't cool to play games with people. if you want to meet her then that's fine but to save you the heartache or headache, i say, just write to her and tell her how you feel and cut loose (closure). if she doesn't care about you, no matter what you do, it's not going to bother her. if you want to play a simple game that will bother her... you can "accidently" run into her with her friend. give her that sexiest charming smile ever and be nice and positive. try not to talk about the "lies" until she mentions it. confrontation is a bad thing to a gemini b/c either you get lies.. and will always be lies after lies.. or you will get the truth but not the whole entire truth.
***** but the main thing to keep in mind is that you can't control what others think or will do.
what do you want from a liar? you can't solve other people's problem.. especially a liar's problem... it's not your lies. it's hers that comes from the root of her mouth.
if she tells you she will not lie to you again, how will you know that will be the truth? she's immature.
move on sweetie. she's not worth your precious time. 28 months is a long time but it's not worth negotiating. can't force it upon anyone. she's a liar.
she'll be caught up in her own game, so no worries okay. try to pull your feelings back and retrieve or continue to be lied to and give her decades of time to MAYBE stop lying.
sorry but she must be willing to stop lying herself.
Geminis are sweet and caring people. when gems lie, is when they don't care.
the gem that you are talking to is immature and will play games until she finds herself that it isn't cool to play games with people. if you want to meet her then that's fine but to save you the heartache or headache, i say, just write to her and tell her how you feel and cut loose (closure). if she doesn't care about you, no matter what you do, it's not going to bother her. if you want to play a simple game that will bother her... you can "accidently" run into her with her friend. give her that sexiest charming smile ever and be nice and positive. try not to talk about the "lies" until she mentions it. confrontation is a bad thing to a gemini b/c either you get lies.. and will always be lies after lies.. or you will get the truth but not the whole entire truth.
***** but the main thing to keep in mind is that you can't control what others think or will do.
what do you want from a liar? you can't solve other people's problem.. especially a liar's problem... it's not your lies. it's hers that comes from the root of her mouth.
if she tells you she will not lie to you again, how will you know that will be the truth? she's immature.
move on sweetie. she's not worth your precious time. 28 months is a long time but it's not worth negotiating. can't force it upon anyone. she's a liar.
she'll be caught up in her own game, so no worries okay. try to pull your feelings back and retrieve or continue to be lied to and give her decades of time to MAYBE stop lying.
sorry but she must be willing to stop lying herself.
sorry for the long response. i'm sleepy. so if anything doesn't make sense or repetitive, then that's my excuse. lol
My main target is to remove the mental block she has been facing due to her lies. She did confessed that she lied and played with me but way scared wondering how I might react if we meet in real life. I want her to know that I wont do anything which might trouble her and I dont hate her for whatever she has done so far.
I really want to give her a call and arrange a meeting gemfox but am afraid if she will disappear alltogether. Now it has turned out to be like this girl is sort of having a long distance romance with a scorp guy.
I got her friend and she is ready to rat on this gem so that I can accidenly bump into her somewhere or catch her at her regular hangout at the beach in her hometown. Now I got 2 days in her hometown and want to sort of all these...My brain is running like a engine and I am finding it hard to relax... 😢
Thanks everyone. 🙂
I really want to give her a call and arrange a meeting gemfox but am afraid if she will disappear alltogether. Now it has turned out to be like this girl is sort of having a long distance romance with a scorp guy.
I got her friend and she is ready to rat on this gem so that I can accidenly bump into her somewhere or catch her at her regular hangout at the beach in her hometown. Now I got 2 days in her hometown and want to sort of all these...My brain is running like a engine and I am finding it hard to relax... 😢
Thanks everyone. 🙂
got my mars, uranus and sixth house on scorpio. 😉
To me its all about hunting down truth and facing reality than allowing myself to float any further in an imaginary world.
To me its all about hunting down truth and facing reality than allowing myself to float any further in an imaginary world.
thelibran, online relationships can be good and can be bad. i'm sure you know this. online, there are many tests to be put on the table without doing it intentionally. For example, patience, trust, communication, loyalty, faithfulness, and etc. But of course, online cannot beat real life relationships bc physical doings are possible. 😛
I do wish you well in your confrontation. Kill with kindness okay. I don't have much advices to give you b/c I still need her side of the story. lol. Also keep in mind that a gem reciprocate your behavior by nature until he/she realizes what has been done and either would continue to mirror you or go opposite.
If you confront her and don't want an itch yelling back, then do it with a cool, nice, friendly tone of voice and tell her that you understand (*throw in a small irresistable smile)... afterall, WHEN PEOPLE ARE ONLINE, THEY CAN BE ANYBODY THEY WANT TO BE. tell her that it bothers you. tell her you have feelings for her. throw in a little humour. be nice. be positive. think positive. IF SHE LIKES YOU, HAVE INTEREST OF WANTING TO BE WITH YOU.. YOU DON'T HAVE TO TRY HARD AT ALL AND SHE WILL MAKE WAYS TO BE WITH YOU PHYSICALLY, EMOTIONALLY, MENTALLY, ETC.
anyhow, i do wish you well.
kris, "how does one reach higher and higher levels of intelligence"? Is that a trick question? lol.
KISS (keeping it short and simple): research, study, experience, learn, be curious, be open, be motivated to find your answer that you're looking for and accept the ones that you find along the way, and so on.
either you're born with it or not. if not born with intelligence, then the motivation, the desire, the strive and effort, patience, accepting your capabilities, and so on.. make a person become more enlightened, more wise, smarter, more intelligent.
thelibran, if you want your answer, DON'T GIVE UP and expect the worse scenario so you won't be too disappointed. 🙂
I do wish you well in your confrontation. Kill with kindness okay. I don't have much advices to give you b/c I still need her side of the story. lol. Also keep in mind that a gem reciprocate your behavior by nature until he/she realizes what has been done and either would continue to mirror you or go opposite.
If you confront her and don't want an itch yelling back, then do it with a cool, nice, friendly tone of voice and tell her that you understand (*throw in a small irresistable smile)... afterall, WHEN PEOPLE ARE ONLINE, THEY CAN BE ANYBODY THEY WANT TO BE. tell her that it bothers you. tell her you have feelings for her. throw in a little humour. be nice. be positive. think positive. IF SHE LIKES YOU, HAVE INTEREST OF WANTING TO BE WITH YOU.. YOU DON'T HAVE TO TRY HARD AT ALL AND SHE WILL MAKE WAYS TO BE WITH YOU PHYSICALLY, EMOTIONALLY, MENTALLY, ETC.
anyhow, i do wish you well.
kris, "how does one reach higher and higher levels of intelligence"? Is that a trick question? lol.
KISS (keeping it short and simple): research, study, experience, learn, be curious, be open, be motivated to find your answer that you're looking for and accept the ones that you find along the way, and so on.
either you're born with it or not. if not born with intelligence, then the motivation, the desire, the strive and effort, patience, accepting your capabilities, and so on.. make a person become more enlightened, more wise, smarter, more intelligent.
thelibran, if you want your answer, DON'T GIVE UP and expect the worse scenario so you won't be too disappointed. 🙂
thanks Gemgirl. I am going to make it as sweet as possible. when its evident that 30 months i have already spend on chasing this girl, you can imagine i wont give up easily. 😉 its hard for a libra to give up on a gemini.
her side of story she told me was funny. first she thought tat am some nut case so lied in the best way she could. then when she found me still caring, she got confused and wanted to get out so lied more. still i was interested and she started feeling guilty. so she told me she was lying all the way expecting me to get angry and go away. but then i was expecting all what she told to turn out this way on someday and didnt got angry... so she was stuck. she keeps coming back with new new plans to piss me off but fails and we end up with that online cuddling... then she feels how vulnerable she is when it comes to me, switch to her evil mode and we fight. furious fights, name calling till one of us breakdown crying.. then other person cannot hold on to tat fight anymore, me or she also calm down and make up ... this keeps going... 😄
am waiting... should be knowing by tomm evening... worst case scenario, she might jump on me to beat me up and considering she is bit huge, I guess I will die of a heartattack or something 😢 lolz...
and solitas, I picked her up from a forum to research on gemini girls and got hooked up with her brain. and i keep travelling every other month which makes it impossible for me to build a relationship in real life..
her side of story she told me was funny. first she thought tat am some nut case so lied in the best way she could. then when she found me still caring, she got confused and wanted to get out so lied more. still i was interested and she started feeling guilty. so she told me she was lying all the way expecting me to get angry and go away. but then i was expecting all what she told to turn out this way on someday and didnt got angry... so she was stuck. she keeps coming back with new new plans to piss me off but fails and we end up with that online cuddling... then she feels how vulnerable she is when it comes to me, switch to her evil mode and we fight. furious fights, name calling till one of us breakdown crying.. then other person cannot hold on to tat fight anymore, me or she also calm down and make up ... this keeps going... 😄
am waiting... should be knowing by tomm evening... worst case scenario, she might jump on me to beat me up and considering she is bit huge, I guess I will die of a heartattack or something 😢 lolz...
and solitas, I picked her up from a forum to research on gemini girls and got hooked up with her brain. and i keep travelling every other month which makes it impossible for me to build a relationship in real life..
the libran, i'm glad you're not giving up but last thing any female (or male) wants is a stalker k. i'm sure your not. if i offended you, i'm sorry. 😄
what do you want from a relationship and what do you not want? then ask another yourself another question, what do you want from her? what are some things you want to give and take? what if she's not willing to give up or sacrifice certain things, can you handle that? what will make you happy? it's not like we are changing changing, but if we love someone, then we are easily capable to making adjustments to help better the relationship. BUT PROVE TO US what you can give us and what you're willing to take.
to be in her life (if she allows it) just be nice. know what ticks her off. know what turns her off. know her split personalities. (split personalities sounds worse than what it really is but yeah, know her real personality and it may take some time k.)
what do you want from a relationship and what do you not want? then ask another yourself another question, what do you want from her? what are some things you want to give and take? what if she's not willing to give up or sacrifice certain things, can you handle that? what will make you happy? it's not like we are changing changing, but if we love someone, then we are easily capable to making adjustments to help better the relationship. BUT PROVE TO US what you can give us and what you're willing to take.
to be in her life (if she allows it) just be nice. know what ticks her off. know what turns her off. know her split personalities. (split personalities sounds worse than what it really is but yeah, know her real personality and it may take some time k.)
I say hell nah, confront her, i dare u, trust she's got her own opinion!
hi libran, I have to ask
what made her recognise to you that she lied? To me it seems important. If i were to do that - which I wouldn`t - but for the sake of the argument .. you know... there would be an important reason. In a good way.
what made her recognise to you that she lied? To me it seems important. If i were to do that - which I wouldn`t - but for the sake of the argument .. you know... there would be an important reason. In a good way.
If you really want revenge make her jealous (oldest trick but effective! ), act like you don`t care and don`t adress her when you are with your friend, or if she does adress you act uninterested. All and all.. look very happy and unaffected. That will freak her out guaranteed though she might not show it.
Anyway.. she sounds very immature and you really don`t need her
Anyway.. she sounds very immature and you really don`t need her
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