Gemini Venus

After analyzing the placements of the men I've had/in my life. I notice alot of Venus in Gemini fellows! The guy I'm talking to currently has this. A good chunk of my exes were Venus in Gemini men also.

Do people really think that this is one the worst Venus for men? Or at least the hardest?

Any thoughts on this Venus in general?

I've heard people say they are big time flirts and cheaters. Get bored move on fast and around alot.
Unless I'm just spending too much time on Lindaland, because I just don't see this at all so where do they get such a bad rep?

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Posted by LeoAquaRuler
we be hated on

That sucks you guys are usually very sweet

Posted by littlemegabyte
Shit starters on DXP who were cheated on by a Gemini Venus person because they happened to be boring AF. That's all it boils down to tbh.

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True in my experience they've always been pretty loyal and even a bit clingy after a while.

Posted by scorpx3
The bull I'm with has venus in Gemini, and my sister has venus in Gemini - two of the closest people in my life.

This venus gets put into a negative light, where people think Gemini venus is flirtatious and has a tendency to cheat. I HIGHLY disagree with that claim after years of observing both. Venus in Gemini is best friends with their lovers. They need open communication and a sense of freedom. They are social butterflies and are very generous with friends and lovers, which is often mistaken for flirtatious nature/emotional infidelity, etc. It's not. They're simply interactive, very involved in the lives of the ones they love and care about. They can be flighty if you suffocate them with clinginess, but if you give them enough space you'll find they're always flowing back to you. I came to love this placement, as it allows me to feel freer and more open in my communication with them - it's the unique case where, when you're involved with them, your minds and hearts are sort of on the same wavelength. Hard to believe this is a mutable air sign when you do get involved with them! They're good people, and very loyal - considering you are a friend to them just as you are a lover to them when involved.

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See this makes alot more sense to me. They do care deeply and are very fun to talk to, also there when things are rough a good shoulder to cry on.. When they fall in love they are really loyal, and the problems I had with this Venus is I found it hard to understand them, I felt they were too good to be true which is why it didn't work in the past... Stupid reason I know. But I really like this guy I'm talking to now and I want to really understand this Venus so I don't make the mistake of misjudging them just because we express love differently you know?

Posted by LittleStar
We are hated on because while we feel things the same as everyone else we don't make decisions based solely on those. When we love we love just as deep but we will always show it in playful ways. Maybe a few moments of tenderness here or there. To someone who doesn't understand that might think we don't take them seriously. On the flip side they might think we are serious when we are simply being friendly.

I can play the field when single and I don't really care. But when I'm with someone I truly love I barely notice others beyond "he's good looking" or "he's funny" and then they are out of my mind. I wouldn't cheat because I would rather just be single than be with someone half heartedly.

Thank you for that description!
This helps me get a better understanding..

This title made me cringe at first. Finally a VIG love thread!

Posted by scorpx3
OP,

Of course, I completely understand what you're saying. I mean, you seem to attract a lot of VIG (I have as well, and this venus has worked out well for me, they provide the most fulfilling sense of understanding when we're involved in each other's lives), so that means you've got what it takes to get VIG to come to you. Just don't let your worrisome nature about keeping them around or how to get them to stay, get in your way. You're great as you are, and your VIG lover clearly thinks that if they keep coming back to you. Don't mess that up by overthinking what's going on in the relationship. Again, communication is H U G E to them, so just communicate your thoughts when you aren't understanding something that's going on.

Example: my VIG sister communicates with me more than anyone else in the family, yet she's always hanging around other members. Why? Because I allow her to feel safe and voice everything it is that she needs to say without ever verbally attacking her back, unlike other people she's hanging around.
Given, it's just in my nature not to be harsh with words because I HATE hurting someone else's feelings with my words, but for people who have a tendency to be harsh or insensitive I give them this advice: with VIG I feel it's beneficial to be cautious of what you say/what you mean. Don't lie to them, don't be harsh to them with your words. They rely on communication for understanding and even emotional exchange, so if you burn that bridge by being harsh with them, you're basically throwing away your chances for reaching a mutual level of understanding.
By all means, be real with them, they value that (as I believe should anyone else), but with VIG especially there's a way to say things/express yourself. It's all about safety, and by respecting them and their thoughts you are providing them that safety.

About the misjudging thing you mentioned... yes, everyone loves differently. It doesn't mean they aren't loving you in the best way that they know how. For some people, giving love means being clingy; for others, giving love means being mindful of respecting the other person's space. People are different. That depends on you and your partner as to how you're going to go about being respectful and loving towards one another.

Ask him what he likes/doesn't like 🙂 just be open with him.

Thanks this was interesting I myself have ViS so it's different but at least I know not to take his love or feelings for granted if he comes forth with it. I checked and we also have his Venus conjunct my Ascendant, he does like me and is open about it that makes me feel more reassured with him.. While I normally like drama, I'm enjoying how easy going he is.. Sometimes I'm quick to call him clingy which he is, but it's in a cute way. He's still a man but he cares about me alot

I am currently dating one. He has moon in Leo, venus in Gemini. He is a very affectionate person. He could kiss me like 50 times in 1 shot, he is very protective and yes he talks a lot, lol. He is very child like in the relationship, behaving like a baby, sometimes too much to the point I need to remind him to man up. He likes fluffy panda or bear, is something I realize in other that have venus gemini likes soft toys even a guy, haha. So far, I didnt see any sign of him would go cheating. He looks very loyal to me. There is nothing much aspecting his venus in his natal chart too. So yeah, I think venus in gemini is not like what other people say about them like prone of cheating 🙂

Posted by BitterSweetSour
I am currently dating one. He has moon in Leo, venus in Gemini. He is a very affectionate person. He could kiss me like 50 times in 1 shot, he is very protective and yes he talks a lot, lol. He is very child like in the relationship, behaving like a baby, sometimes too much to the point I need to remind him to man up. He likes fluffy panda or bear, is something I realize in other that have venus gemini likes soft toys even a guy, haha. So far, I didnt see any sign of him would go cheating. He looks very loyal to me. There is nothing much aspecting his venus in his natal chart too. So yeah, I think venus in gemini is not like what other people say about them like prone of cheating 🙂

That is so cute that he had a childlike side.
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The more I'm learning to understand this Venus the more I love it.