Out of sight, out of mind: Gemini males losing interest when away for too long - why?

Hi,
I just realised that every gemini male I've known, seem super keen during the time we're able to meet up face to face (and for several days after where they would keep asking when we would meet up again, if you got home safe, how enjoyable it was etc) BUT if it so happens that we are not able to meet up for ages e.g. due to one of us being abroad or at the other side of the country for some reason, etc., it's almost like they're memory of what you look like, how fun it was etc. FADES to nothing and even from texts, you can just tell they're answering out of obligation and not like before and often even leads to break-ups or complete silence eventually... and with the ones that go completely silent, if I bump into them somewhere again e.g in the street, etc. they again get all interested and start initiating contact again..

They say "absence makes the heart grow fonder" but I've definitely experienced the opposite.

Does this typically mean that they were ONLY "physically" attracted to me so when we don't see each other for a while, their memory of what I looked like fades and so does their interest as they weren't interested due to my conversation skills nor emotionally?

or

They'd feel bad showing loss of interest straight after meeting up (might cause people to become insecure probably?) so they do initially compliment you endlessly, initiate interest in meeting up again out of politeness and then slowly over a period of many weeks, pull away and eventually leave so it looks as if them leaving had nothing to do with you?

or

does the absence make them step back and properly analyse the dates, etc and realise that you're just not worth it?

I have noticed this with gemini males only so would be helpful if they could offer insight into why this might be (although I know the exact reason is likely to differ for each specific situation and each person but it would be nice to get a general idea) but obviously answers from anyone else are also welcome 🙂

I'm dating a Gemini male and I'm having the opposite problem. I see him almost too often, 5+ days a week. And while I enjoy his company I feel like all I've been doing for the last 2ish months is work, see him, sleep, work, see him, etc.

I actually insisted that we see each other every other day or every few days, especially during the work week, so I can have some time to myself. He needs the extra time as well. He commutes in to see me almost 2hrs round trip and is functioning on very little sleep. I love falling to sleep in his arms and want to be able to miss him inbetween.

I think if the guy is really into you, irregardless of sun sign, he'll make an effort.

Great post, ill be watching this to see the comments.
The guy im talkin to is a gem and i can totally relate to where your coming from.

Yeah this is something I'm interested in too and that I have noticed. I do feel like if you aren't around you can't hold their interest unless they fell in love with you then they still only contact you every once in a while on some bullshit like I had one ex who would try to get me mad so I would talk to him because I pretended like he didn't exist and another who wasn't my boyfriend who would always bring up thinking about us hooking up. So I really think they just go about their business and if they happen to think about you they might pop up but unless your doing something interesting that keeps their attention going they don't give a damn. Just my opinion.

Doesn't it make all your brains hurt thinking and pining after guys who make little to no effort to show that they care?

Geeze.

If they like you, you'll know. It IS indeed universal and it does take a while to completely understand this, but by focusing on yourself and becoming a bit more selfish with your time will make you more interesting to men, especially Gem men.

Yes. Absence doesn't make our hearts grow fonder for you. We begin to wonder what you're up to, who you've met, what new stories you have to tell us, if you've missed us at all.

We get busy, become forgetful, and can be quite selfish. However when we're with you we're THERE in the moment and give you our full attention. This can be exhausting sometimes so we tend to drift away from people, eventually coming back... Or not at all. Depends on how interesting you are and how much we care about you.

OP.....go with your gut and/or just ask. Strangers can only give so much advice seeing how they don't know the full story. Also, from what I've seen most people on here are single OR too young to really have any real experience on the subject of men and love. I dated a gemini once who hardly ever called me, and we would see each other 2-4 times a month. Nothing big and grand. I guarantee had I come on here with that story asking what to do, everyone would've been like "he's not into you", "your wasting your time", etc. Comes to find out he was REALLY into me, but I unfortunately didn't feel the same way. Take everything here with a grain of salt.

I see this behavior from all Gems that I know. It is just that I know them very well that it doesn't me. Plus, I understand that as I am pretty detached as well being an Aqua.

As long as you know them well and they know you equally well, then I don't see a problem.