how to life gemini man's mood?

My gemini ascendant and venus man is going through a tough time and I really want to cheer him up. Thing is, I basically at talking or finding interesting things to talk about since I don't watch a lot of tv. Sure, interesting things happen, but basically I'm a boring person. Why does he like me? Idk, but anyway, my love nature being that is fierce, passionate, loyal and very Scorpio wants to climb hills in order to make someone they like happy. So.. blah, I don't know where to start. He's kind of awkward in conversation too. I'm this close to hiring a Cyrano de Bergerac in order to keep this going. Help. And any tips on making gems happy in general. 🙂

jeez, can my typos get any worse?

Posted by RollergirlOrc
jeez, can my typos get any worse?

Don't text him! I repeat, DON'T text him 🙂!

But...he's not a Gemini, isn't he?

I can't get my Gem bf to shut up!

Hm... I guess I'm asking because I'm trying to peek into his emotional nature (scorpios are naturally emotional). But yes, he is very much Gem-like we argue about that even though he's a Taurus. The darting eyes, the flirtiness, articulate, logical, disappears for days and forgets to keep in touch. Then tells me I've been dodging him (hey, he started it!). but yeah, we're sort of in a communication breakdown, half due probably to things on his mind bothering him, half due to sporadic communication in general. And I really want to know what he's thinking in terms of a relationship. I get the, "I like you but I don't know where I stand). That could mean anything. The non-verbal actions don't help either, like not keeping in touch. so, went off on a tangent but there it is. Nevertheless, I do want to say something to help.

Posted by TokerX

If that's how he feels then that's how he feels. You probably confused him in some way without realising it. Scorpios are very confusing to others. Keep in mind that people can't read minds. Not even you, Scorpio. We can only make educated guesses based on what we know about someone. If he thinks like a Gem, he's probably found a billion reasons for why you could be dodging him (keep in mind that this is how he feels). Did you make any attempt to contact him when he disappeared? Or did you just let him disappear waiting for him to return? Maybe he just wanted for you to contact him and if you haven't contacted him he might be wondering why you've not contacted him. Even if you contacted him after some time he might still be wondering why you took so long to contact him. Always be very clear about what you feel for him, reassure him, to away any doubts he has.

I tried contacting him repeatedly through Skype. Turns out, he was even on Skype. So there I was thinking that he was ignoring every one of my messages. Though after we found that out, I'd text him, he would want to talk but I had a legitimate reason for not being able to talk. And thus the "you've been dodgy" came out. I wasn't dodging him through all those messages, again another unfortunate miscommunication.

Posted by TokerX

Just tell and SHOW him you really care. Do what you yourself would want a person to do to show they care. Do not pressure him. Don't confuse him even more with difficult questions like "How do you feel (about anything)" or "(Why) Do you love me?" (yes, even without the "why" that's a difficult question if you look at it logically). Make him feel secure and he'll open up to you if and when he wants to. If he feels anything for you he's just as afraid to get hurt by expressing his feelings as you are.

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Oh my. As a water sign love nature, we need to hear and to be reassured on why, how, if our partner likes us or not. It's our language of love. Just a question (and don't be offended) but is it really that confusing to as why do we love someone? In a way, to the ones who ask, it's their way of saying, "Please tell me you like something about me in order to feel secure in this relationship." He definitely answers, but the answer are very short. As water signs (or watery natur

Posted by TokerX

Oh yes, the famous Scorpio-Gemini miscommunication. Did you tell him your legitimate reason? Was it really that legitimate, or just one of those Scorpio things he might have a hard time understanding? :p (To a Gem there are no real legitimate reasons not to talk.

Yes, there were legitimate reasons. It is actually a long-distance relationship so we communicate by text, skype or calling. BUT the reasons were that I had a hangout with friend (therefore making chatting with him by text quite tedious). And the other one, I had a wedding to go. I offered to talk later, but again, no response or messages. (then tells me I'm dodgy. ;P such was the turn of events). lol

Posted by TokerX

Loving someone is a feeling, there are no words to explain for what you feel. Well at least not for a Gemini. Well, there are enough words, but they usually don't capture the feeling. I can tell you what I like about you, but those are superficial niceties, not the reason why I love you. If you ask a question like that we start to think and there are so many things racing through our minds that we can't come up with anything to say. 😉 So whatever you do, don't pressure him itno answering such a question, cause you'll drive him insane. 😉

How much does he usually talk to you? Does he have a lot of things to share? If, like you say, he acts like a true Gemini then the more he talks to you the more he likes you. 😉 And being silent for a while doesn't make him like you any less, just insecure.

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While I agree that feelings are hard to put into words, those superficial niceties mean a LOT to hear to a Water sign. Though I beg to differ, there are words to express to someone how you feel, ! It may not be direct, it's usually indirect as in the form of implying affection/caring. like, "I've been thinking about you." "how've you been?" yada yada. You know, some kind of communication from someone else, wanting to talk to you. Hence why I'm worried about this silence. Or should I dare confuse him with the question "How am I attractive?" it's more like I want to hear, "I think you're great. kind, smart." All this questioning just to get a sense of how he FEELs (unless he doesn't feel, which would honestly be crushing). So you see the difference or where I'm coming from? I know th

Edit: I know that question seems all logical and dry. You are attractive in this sense, but sensing his feelings from dry facts is proving difficult. Unless you can point me to some questions/ways to figure out how he feels without actually asking directly? ;P sneaky sneaky.

There is that poem "How do I love thee" by Emily Browining. She then goes on to say, Let me count the ways. I'm just wanting him to count the wayss!!! Very desperately obviously, as I too fear rejection and all that comes with it. Am I needy? In short, yes. Ha well, thanks for playing along and answering questions.

Posted by TokerX

You could try sarcasm or sexual innuendos.

Sarcasm how? I'm really not that bright or witty or perceptive. Thing is.. maybe we're just drifting apart. Or he's drifting and I'm staying. Still doesn't say much. I told him I was feeling crummy the other day, hasn't responded yet. And you know, he's the very caring kind, I guess when he wants to be.