I'm a gemini female getting bored w/ my man wanti

I'm a true gemini and i have a great hubby who is a libra, but i'm feeling bored lately (i've been with him for 6 years) I have only had two main loves in my life, him and my first love 12 years ago. I've been thinking of my ex lately and i did try to contact him 6 months ago but he did not want to talk to me or any of his old friends( long story) Anyways i'm really dominant and aggressive and i'm not afraid to face people. I had a lot to get off my chest with my 1st love, so i wrote him letters and sent them to his families address ( i now he got them) This first love of mine never had gotten over me for sa long time, even though he dumped me and than tried to get me back (he's a leo), but very stubborn and would never admit he was wrong. So years ago after he held on to me tight i walked away from him, and he got all pissed off all of those years later ( I screwed with his leo ego ) So anyways i feel like i want to face him and hunt him down, i've been thinking of him a lot and fantasizing about the past with him... I have been in some past relationships and i do tend to get bored, i this all typical of a female gemini ? I miss having a really intense sexual hot relationship and i feel like i could juggle a lover on the side, it would be fun. Am i just a total twisted person, is it normal that i never totally got over this first love of mine ?

Im a female gemini getting bored w/ my man wanti ?What?

Wow okay,I didn't want to say that.Older leos can be loyality fiegns too but different story when it comes to them*cough-bill clinton-cough*.I'd be more concerned with spicing things up in the bedroom with the libra,some can be game for that,and boring usually means stable which in the long run is always better than great sex.

I agree with Tiamat you should stay loyal to you Libra. Libra's are very fair minded people and probably won't put up with cheating.

And it is a pretty common thing to not get over your first love. But you don't have to act on it. Tell your husband you are bored so that you both can come up with a solution to the problem.

Well Ava,

I am a cancer but I have my venus in gemini, so I TOTALLY know what you mean about getting bored and wanting that same fire that you feel in the beginning of the relationship.

I can't honestly tell you a viable solution because I don't know one myself but I do understand where you are coming. They are probably right in saying that you two should communicate & work on the spice since you already said he was a great guy.

Cancerlady

ava
I too am a Gemini and have felt that way a few times, but did not act on it. I have been with my soon to be ex husband for six years married for four! My "first love" or the man I thought I was in love with was also a Leo...thats weird I would always wonder what would have happend. I think the deal with my leo was we always....always had amazing sex! wow! and it was exciting!(o.k. snap yourself out of it) anyhoo I would not cheat on your husband. If you are done, if you have tried everything to work on your marriage! Then I would recomend you get out of it! I was in a simular situation and just had to come to the conclusion that no matter how much counceling, talks, negligee, he was not going to change and be what I needed! That does not mean hes a bad man...just not the man for me!!


good luck!

You have it way off, i'm not a slut..but more of a flirt. I do want to stay with the libra, everything is fine, but i can't help it if i feel bored, it's a gemini trait, I'm saying that from the boyfriends i've had i have only deeply loved 2 men, i can't help it if i still care for my 1st love. Was there a book written some where that states that it's so bad to feel for more than one person ? The gemini are the twins and i know i could and would have a lot of fun if i had a side dish on the side, Why can't i have 2 men.. wouldn't that be fun. Also i am never interested in anyone hardly, so sometimes i think about my first love and i would love to kiss him again, what the hells wrong with a deep kiss ?

I get along with the libra fine, i just feel bored , i don't want to leave him for the leo, get it ? I just fantasize all the time about the leo. I want what i can't get..it's the thrill of the chase, it's exciting. Gemini's are the twins, so 2 men would be perfect, the main one and the other once in a great while. So just because we were all raised that were supposed to love one person, etc. that i have to do that, don't you ever have feelings still from someone in the past ?

Also, the leo & i were very in love and sexual(i was a virgin with him), just like the steamy hot scene's in movie's, and yes i felt like that with the libra for quite a while too.. what can i say? You only feel like that very rarely in your life. Even though the leo dumped me ( he was confused and immature), i know it took him many years to get over me, his friends knew my friends and i probably said like only a few words to him in the 6 years i would bump into him because i was sorta pissed off and numb towards him at times. Even when he had a girlfriend of 4 years, he acted embarassed to be with her and his friends would tell me that he wasn't over me and this was 6 years after we broke up. Being a leo he is very stubborn and hid his feelings and could not admit to me or his friends what he did wrong.

ATLANTIC MIST what's wrong ? Are you jealous of me ? Do you have no men in your life at all..are you a fat pig yourself ? Honey, i am not fat at all...but maybe you are and you can't get laid at all !!!

ATLANTIC MIST i think your VERY UNHAPPY with yourself, so go look in the mirror and join a gym. I can't help it if i'm a gorgeous woman and you feel threatened because i'm not afraid to say how i feel...have you been in your closet hiding too much ? You sound like you really need to get laid BADELY to loosen up !!!

Oh my...i give EVERY woman a bad name..oooohhhhh, you sound like your in the closet, Are you gay, maybe you hate men. Hell yeah, if i had a nice wet kiss, i would cry cry cry like a dog in heat !!

Far from an idiot you fucking 23 year old insecure fat ugly bitch...still jealous of me HUH? HAHAHAHAHAHAHAH !!!!!!!!!!!

Trust me you virgin "WISH YOU WERE COULD GET SOME" I could whip your ass and make you cry like the little insecure cu**t you are!!!!!!!!!

WHAAAAAAAAAAA , GO CRY TO YOUR MOMMY YOU LITTLE INSECURE 23 YEAR OLD WHO HAS A PROBLEM EVEN GETTING A DI*K IN YOUR MOUTH, BOO HOO WHAAAAAAA, WHAT'S WRONG ? Can't get any men who even look your way or who would even want to touch you ??

Break it up children.Atlantic mist is just brisk and to the point,you will notice elsewhere.Doesn't mean anything about her.Noone said it's not okay to feel for more than one person a couple even called that out.It's the point that you have a great guy and your worried about sex,it's lust.Libras are generally great people who only ask for what they put out themselves.It's cheating to them in most cases,worth a break up for.The person you should be concerned w/ is him,it's not fair to him and a selfesh way of thinking.At this point im getting the idea you just what to be single because you haven't been w/ other people to know what you truely want,just have the respect for him to break it off so he's not being lied and taken as a fool.It's not fun being in his situation if you were to act on it.

Your a close minded insecure and on the cusp gemini, real gemini's are usually cool. Your bday 's the 19th... right near the cusp. Your UNHAPPY WITH YOURSELF AND PROBABLY A DOG. No, i'm not an airhead , but a tough bit*h who will put you in your place.

Lust, yes that is one hell of a sin ! No, if i kiss someone else i'm not telling, best to keep some secrets. Well, forgive me father for i may sin .

Sorry chick but I hate religion.It's a respect,human moral issue not a religion one.I think your a troll sorry but im not bashing any of those signs.I love libras,half the time leos and there are a couple gems who have surprised me.

Im a scorpio w/ taurus moon and sag rising so it won't be a jealousy or whatever you will come up w/by the way.I bet I could be more of a b-tch if I really wanted to lower myself to your level,but im bored w/ this topic so me go play elsewhere.

"I can't help it if i'm a gorgeous woman and you feel threatened because i'm not afraid to say how i feel" -

You may very well be a "gorgeous woman" - pity your tongue and mind don't match up to the "woman" part!!!

Ave, get your act together and stop the trashy name calling.....you're only new here and already "gorgeous woman" is making so many enemies....you've a lot to learn in my opinion!!! We can be your best friends on this board or your worst enemies - it's up to you now!!
Ciao.
A x

Hmmm.... don't quite know what to say, except that perhaps Ava, you shouldn't have gone to the extreme of trashing other people's opinion, just because they differ from you. It's the variety that makes up life. Some people experience this restless quality about them at any one point in their life, though it may differ in intensity, it certainly touches everyone, sometimes they feel they can always do something more, and sometimes they wonder if they are missing out on anything. It's a sign of growing and also changing - but its a double edge sword. I used to be like that when I was in my teens, wondering what's going to happen, and wonder if I am missing out on anything that would make me happier. You know, the restless question about whether the grass is greener on the other side. Well, let's just say, to cut my story short, that I have been on the other side of the river, and believe you me, that the grass is not greener on the other side of the river. Sometimes you find just a couple of dustball, and a few tufts of grass growing on dry soil. Though sometimes you may be lucky and find a more fertile ground, but it's not greener, its still the same, and even then you realise that you left old ground for the same thing. But the difference is this, the old ground is where your heart is. Your home. Where you have in some way grown connected to it. You water it everyday when you drink for the river, you fertilize it when you take a dump on it, you groom it when you sleep. You never know what you have and until you lose it. But whatever decision you make, do be fair to your libran husband, none of us like to be told we have been cheated on, including you I believe. But if you do go ahead, be prepared for the consequences that comes with it, you must be prepared, and I mean be really prepared to lose your husband of 6 years. Sometimes, we humans need to learn the hard way to understand life lessons. Perhaps this is yours, I don't know. But be prepared for the darkest hour that comes after a midnight tryst. It's a long road sometimes to find contentment. Good luck with whatever your decision may be. 🙂

wow Heal! That was good makes me question even my situation!! Thank you

Ava,

I hope this advice will serve you well although I may be a bit to late since this was posted 2-3 mths ago. Anyhow, there is a bit of information I wanted to share with you relative to your issue at hand. I understand that you are reminising about your past Lover and how Sex was with him or her. I can reassure you that you do not want to go back to your past. If you think that you can get a way with having 2 men in your life you will pay for it now or later. I do not know if you know a statistic that is know out here but the length of sexual interest in this day and age for most couples is 3 years. I am not saying that you can not have good sex with your mate after 3 years I am just saying that lusty spark is wearing off. This is when you have to start looking at other aspects of your relationship that will fill you both or openly speak to your man or woman about what turns you on and if he can start doing it. I am speaking of experience and understand those temptations that everyone goes through. However that does not mean that cheating is healthy. You see human life is based on Energy if you are giving energy to two men or women you are depleting your own self of Energy. The Energy issue is a whole subject in itself so I will not get all into that. The bottom line is if you are going to cheat or want to cheat this will be evident and come back to you in some way (Karma). The best thing to do is be honest and break up with the person if you aregoing to be cheating on them. Remember every cause has an effect everything we do in life will come back whether negative or positive. Just be honest and you will see that you will have what you want, there really is no reason to lie and cheat. We do this because we are afraid to hurt who we love but the ultimate truth is that with cheating and lieing to them you are not only destroying your relationship with that person but you will suffer from a bad conscious that will lead you to a mental or physical disease. Do not be fooled by what you see happening in the world around you think of yourself and your family first. Then and only then will you find true lasting love with all the sex you want. The past should stay in the past we all change and go through different stages. There is nothing wrong with wanting to experience a sexual fantasy just be honest and remain single for awhile until you get the wildness out of you or are ready to settle down. We all have to go through some wildness in our lives before we settle down if not it will come back to haunt us during our mid life relationship. Another question for you is how do you know your husband does not feel the same way you do. Someone either you or him has to be harnessing these feelings of non sexual desire. Remember everything that we think about in our heads whether bad or good will materialize on this astroplane. So if you control your thoughts and think positive all the time you will have a positve outcome in your life if you challenge your thoughts and think negative you will promote negativity. I hope this information was a bit useful and wish you all the success in your relationships moving forward. Oh by the way no need to get mad at other peoples opinions we all deserve our own voice of opinion we all have our goods and bads, however we all deserve to be loved........Take Care and take 2 deep breaths....

Yah, I understand your problem. Discreetly voice your boredom to the libra. They love passion and I am sure would cringe inside at the thought of making you bored. We do our best to please people. If he knows how you feel, he will give you what you want I think. 🙂

Whaaaa eehh,huh. Why should she say anything,he should make it his job to spice it up.BUt i kinda disagree with contactin of ur ex,why should she do so.wwhhhhhyyyyyy,are u really willin to risk ur marriage for a fling? BUt to each their own.I doubt she'll make any comment .