More serious = Less lovey dovey?

I noticed something with my Gemini boyfriend. At the beginning, it was very flirty and he called me cute names often. We also talked or text all the time. As we got more serious, things got less flirty and we text less everyday. His "Hey babe" turned into "Hey" ...

He's also good friend with one of my co-worker, a female. Sometimes he will read my message and ignore it for a little while, maybe 30 minutes before replying, but he will talk to my co-worker and good friend. While I wait for him to respond.
Before, if I had a sex dream about him, he wanted to hear about it right away, now not so much. We were both very sexual at the beginning, part of us flirting. Now: not so much. We have sex like before, but sexy texts are left unanswered.

I feel more like a good friend than a lover or a girlfriend.

Is that normal when you're in a serious relationship with a Gem?
Do they change, is that part of them settling?

Posted by PrincessOfLight
I noticed something with my Gemini boyfriend. At the beginning, it was very flirty and he called me cute names often. We also talked or text all the time. As we got more serious, things got less flirty and we text less everyday. His "Hey babe" turned into "Hey" ...

He's also good friend with one of my co-worker, a female. Sometimes he will read my message and ignore it for a little while, maybe 30 minutes before replying, but he will talk to my co-worker and good friend. While I wait for him to respond.
Before, if I had a sex dream about him, he wanted to hear about it right away, now not so much. We were both very sexual at the beginning, part of us flirting. Now: not so much. We have sex like before, but sexy texts are left unanswered.

I feel more like a good friend than a lover or a girlfriend.

Is that normal when you're in a serious relationship with a Gem?
Do they change, is that part of them settling?

It doesn't have anything to do with him being a Gem as much as it has everything to do with the fact that you gave him the goods before you had a REAL lasting relationship. You called it "serious"....do you think it was just as serious to him or did you simply assume it was because of how you felt?

Bottom line; he got want he wanted from you; SEX, and now he's moving onto his next challenge. It's in a guy's DNA to desire this challenge and pursue other women.

Guys do this all the time, yet how many posts on this board are from women who can't understand why their BF, whom they've had sexual relations with before they were in a REAL COMMITTED relationship, is now bored with them and moving onto the next women in line? It's not rocket science.

Why do you think guys do the push pull thing all the time? ALL men do this not just one sign. It's about desire, pulling you in, giving him what he wants, and then pushing you away in order to regain his independence.

There's an old adage: "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?"

@ Gemini64 "Guys do this all the time, yet how many posts on this board are from women who can't understand why their BF, whom they've had sexual relations with before they were in a REAL COMMITTED relationship, is now bored with them and moving onto the next women in line? It's not rocket science."



No, definitely not science, but some useless preach. Is there any woman, in this day and age, who commits to a relationship BEFORE having had sex with the candidate?

Besides, even "commitment" can only last a few years. Perhaps only months, if they don't like "the goods". After all, nothing more annoying than discovering you bought a cow for the milk, when what you actually like, is beer!

Posted by PrincessOfLight
I noticed something with my Gemini boyfriend. At the beginning, it was very flirty and he called me cute names often. We also talked or text all the time. As we got more serious, things got less flirty and we text less everyday. His "Hey babe" turned into "Hey" ...

He's also good friend with one of my co-worker, a female. Sometimes he will read my message and ignore it for a little while, maybe 30 minutes before replying, but he will talk to my co-worker and good friend. While I wait for him to respond.
Before, if I had a sex dream about him, he wanted to hear about it right away, now not so much. We were both very sexual at the beginning, part of us flirting. Now: not so much. We have sex like before, but sexy texts are left unanswered.

I feel more like a good friend than a lover or a girlfriend.

Is that normal when you're in a serious relationship with a Gem?
Do they change, is that part of them settling?

You've got competition, at least for his interest! Detach for a few days, and then talk to him about your concerns, without nagging.

If you stay together, spice up your game. Do not use the same trick all the time, they get old. Invent new ones, and make sure he does the same for you and your relationship.

Also...let him initiate texts and sex talks...

Since you are leading the game, he could feel a bit emasculated...some guys are pussies, so prove you've got a vagina! Lead him, but less "up-front" 🙂.

Posted by Lust
One more thing: gemini guys don't settle.

Some gemini woman don't settle either.

Women*

Posted by Undine
@ Gemini64 "Guys do this all the time, yet how many posts on this board are from women who can't understand why their BF, whom they've had sexual relations with before they were in a REAL COMMITTED relationship, is now bored with them and moving onto the next women in line? It's not rocket science."



No, definitely not science, but some useless preach. Is there any woman, in this day and age, who commits to a relationship BEFORE having had sex with the candidate?

Besides, even "commitment" can only last a few years. Perhaps only months, if they don't like "the goods". After all, nothing more annoying than discovering you bought a cow for the milk, when what you actually like, is beer!

Useless preach—? I come from a generation where morals and self respect were valued. guess what? we didn't have thousands of abortions, babies born out of wedlock and women who had to raise their child without a husband.

Is it any wonder so many on this board can't deal with relationships in a healthy and respectful manner?

FTR, one of the most noted experts on relationships, Dr. John Gray, supports what I wrote in regards to women giving up the goods prior to having a commitment relationship. It's about how men are wired. You can't fight nature. But you can stand up for yourself and not be controlled by bad decisions based upon emotions/controlling men.

Yes, we all love sex. That's not the point. The point is when and who you share that most intimate aspect of your life with. I dated my husband for 2.5 years prior to getting engaged. We knew we were going to take the next step and seal the deal with marriage. That's what I'm referring to as a "committed" relationship. Not something that lasts a few months and you've hooked up numerous times; especially when he's the one engaging you to sleep with him.

Don't you realise that withholding sex is nothing but a mind game, and that it gets one nowhere ? Except maybe in the arms of a player who promises anything to get what he wants?

You wasted what could have been the most passionate time of your relationship. Why? What did you have to hide...that you suck in bed? Anyway, what you have wasted, is not coming back.

Oh, and this:

http://www.adowp.com/health-and-fitness/diseases-and-conditions/impotence-affects-up-to-60-of-men-over-50-years-old/<BR>
......The real reason why he didn't try harder?