My gem ex

Hola Gems!

Just a few questions about a gem ex in my life. Just some background we were together a year and a half. We've been broken up 6 months. And for the first 4 months he tried daily to get me back but the bull in me wouldn't budge. We don't see eye to eye on a lot and began to argue a lot. He as most men hates to argue which pulled us further apart. I started ending the relationship every other week and he would kind of beg me not to go. The last time it was ended he ended and I walked. So to the present. He wants to try to work out the relationship but wants to be friends and build the friendship. He feels as if we were friends first last time we wouldn't have parted and could have made it through anything. I guess my question is is this typical for a gem? He finally gets me to agree on working on us but doesn't want to make it official he wants to be friends until he feels like the bond is strong. Is that typical gem behavior

> He's giving you what he thinks you want, because you Keep Ending it. Just letting you know from now, if you end it, it won't work out.. and if you show him signs of break up again, HE will most likely End it with You and you will be the one who is Hurt. He wants a relationship with you (Trust Me) He would Not go out of His Way, if he thought otherwise. Chill off of the breaking up thing. The thing with relationships now a days is people think they can break up with somebody just because of a 'Misunderstanding' when that's all it was a *Misunderstanding*............ You don't have the same DNA as me, neither do I share the same DNA with you, our minds, our bodies, our souls are totally different, so I am bound to have my own opinion and you are to have yours. Geminis are VERY Opinionated and they are not to be taken advantage of. We are smart souls and we know what we are saying / speaking. Because he has a different point of view or not seeing Exactly your side or having 'Differences' So freaking what, that's totally okay!! Compromise plays a HUGE role in relationships and instead of taking the easy way out (Breaking Up), you need to learn to compromise and get to know him as a whole and him get to know you as a whole. Why would you want him to have the Exact same point of view as you anyway? That would be boring as shit. Work it out or get lost, believe me.. If you tell him to let it be, he will find somebody in No Time. Us Gems get what we want but we also go for what we want as well, ONLY if Mutual, if not, Set Me Free. If you dislike certain things that he does, tell him without having to break up with him, but don't tell him in a NAGGING way, tell him in a friendship / boyfriend / girlfriend way and very kindly and softly.. we answer to those who Respect and treat us kindly. If your going to break up with him again (which you most likely are) Just leave him be and he will thank you l



Thank you!! Compromise isn't my strong point and is something I'm working on. His thoughts are very different from mine and that is something that we work on trying to see the opposites views. However when you say he's giving me what I want what do you mean? Since we have been broken up for the last few months he has entertained other women and he was up front about it however he always made it very clear he wanted to work on us. I guess my main concern was when I finally gave in he said friendship first. I didn't know if that was a I'm really over it now and letting you down gently. Thanks for the response you actually told me a lot of things I needed to hear

Posted by Lust
You are having issue with your boyfriend now, the capricorn guy you've been dating since you broke up with this gem..and are you trying to get an easy way out once again by...entertaining this gem again on the site..

I thought bull is loyal??

Your temper is pretty bad, you may have a sex appeal to guys, that's why these guys want you..but with your attitudes and temperament..you will never be successful and content with long term relationship. Break up and make up and divorce are written all over you if you keep on doing what you've been doing..

Me and the cap ended for other reasons that had nothing to do with me. I actually did try in that and I stuck it out until it was to the point of no return. Yes I do tend to just shut down when things get difficult but that is something I'm working on. And this bull is very loyal and faithful while in a relationship.

Friendship first is great! That means he really thinks building a firm foundation will solidify your relationship. He really wants to put in the effort and has thought a lot about it. Be grateful.

Well.. it seems like he never wanted to break up with you in the first place and it's All YOU.. Therefore.. (Gems often get what they want, if one way isn't working to get closer to what they want, they have other Routes to try, we are Smart).. So his way



Wow honestly I never looked at it that way. He's kept in contact with me since the day we broke up texting daily no matter if I respond or not. I've often thought about going back just wasn't sure

So his way of getting you 'Back' is saying Friendship First.. It's either that or he has somebody else in store that he might potentially be interested in and he wants to keep things light with you. One or the other. 'Tread Carefully'.


I think that's the thing that bothers me! I've asked if he has someone he sees a future with that he's entertaining his response was no. But I'm sure he also knows if his response was yes I wouldn't have considered coming back. When we first met the relationship moved wayyy too fast and everytime I tried to slow it down he refused. Then we crashed and burned so now his thing is let's build a friendship first because it was way too easy for you to walk away the last time.

Posted by TREADLIGHTLY
So his way of getting you 'Back' is saying Friendship First.. It's either that or he has somebody else in store that he might potentially be interested in and he wants to keep things light with you. One or the other. 'Tread Carefully'.


I think that's the thing that bothers me! I've asked if he has someone he sees a future with that he's entertaining his response was no. But I'm sure he also knows if his response was yes I wouldn't have considered coming back. When we first met the relationship moved wayyy too fast and everytime I tried to slow it down he refused. Then we crashed and burned so now his thing is let's build a friendship first because it was way too easy for you to walk away the last time.

Arrggh, unless you have been broken up awhile, like years it's so hard to revert backwards and start over. How are you be friends once you have been intimate? And does that mean you will now just be fwb? Man I kinda went through this with my Gem... But the sexual chemistry was too strong to be just friends. I dunno, I wish you luck!

Arrggh, unless you have been broken up awhile, like years it's so hard to revert backwards and start over. How are you be friends once you have been intimate? And does that mean you will now just be fwb? Man I kinda went through this with my Gem... But the sexual chemistry was too strong to be just friends. I dunno, I wish you luck!



That's exactly what I tried to explain to him we can't go back to the beginning because there are feelings there now. But he is convinced we need to rebuild the friendship. I think it's more so he wants to make sure we can get along and that I won't walk away. He knows I won't settle for this for long but I am attempting to give him a chance and for the first time try things his way