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Help I''m a gemini girl helplessly in love with an aries man. I have always had this searching feeling for my whole life and for the first time I really feel that I am where I need to be. When I am with him I feel complete. It is like nothing that I have ever felt before. The problem is that he came to me and with tears in his eyes said that he can not deal with such a deep relationship right now. My saddness comes from the fact that I want to give him the time that he needs, but I do not know how to exist without being with him. I feel that I have lost the most important part of me. Can you give me some suggestions on how to continue? I have talked with some telephone readers and they have told me that he is my future but I need to wait. How long do I wait? How do I wait? Thank you.

I am a gemini and have been with an aries for 5 years - don't worry - give him space - but don't play games...he needs to know he is number one, but that you are not a doormat. Aries love strength, passion, and fidelity - they respond beautifully knowing they have "pure love"...and remember, deep down they are the infants of the zodiac - they actually need lot's of babying in a sweet, endearing way.

Love Conquers all - good luck - be true to yourself and your feelings - be true to him and his feelings - all will work out in the end if he truly loves you.

Thank you for such a wonderful response. It really gives me some hope. I think the most pain comes when I see him in town and he does not say anything to me but just smiles this sad smile. It is heart breaking. Every day I pray that I will just see him for a few seconds..at least. Gosh, I sound Helpless, don't I? Thank you again.

I've been in similar situation for past two years...The difference was, that my guy wasn't mature enough to know that the last thing he needs at his stage of life was such a deep passionate emotional thing we started...we both felt deeply in love but I was the one who's life completely changed and I also though its HIM...but I didnt realize how young he is and how much space and freedom he needs, things I couldn't give him at that time!!! How do you want to do that without don't get hurt when he is out with other people?? When he still wanna enjoy his single life?? When he is not ready for you?? I could give him more space now cause almost two years are gone and thats makes a difference...But when you fall in love, the pain is just too much-at least in my case it was.
He left the country I live in at the moment, and is still writing me how much he misses me and thinks about me but even if we would go back together it wouldn't make any difference- he is still not ready!!!!

I dont know the reason why your guy said that, but I am telling you, he was honest and he might save you a lot of suffering. YOu know I am still hoping and waiting, and it is not easy to live like that.
SO it is up to you to decide if you wanna wait. But also remember, if you never tried you will never know!!!!!

your friend M.

Thank you M for your message. My problem is that I fell deeply in love before he decided to do this. When I see him out with other people he always takes the time to let me know that he still thinks of me. I guess that it is almost a game. I find that I really am not jealous of these casual girls because I feel mentally that he is with me and when he needs emotional support he calls me. Maybe I'm wrong but I feel that the times that he needs me are worth the pain that I feel when he doesn't.

I totally understand you because it was already late for me too, to realize, I will not get what I want, and I was already deeply in love- I must say he was too, but the other things were stronger...to go out with guys and girls and have fun!!!
I think there is no specific advice for you from my point of view cause you are in love now...I would just say, use the help of your friends when times are getting worst and everything is painfull and enjoy the times when he is there and needs you...and you will see. I think you more wise then I used to be, I hurt my guy back everytime he didnt behaviour the way I would like him too...please, dont do that...

yours, M.

I just thought that I would update on my situation with the Aries man. He is haunting my life and my dreams. I have done absolutely everything in my power to get him out of my system. I date other guys and then I have a stupid dream about him with him asking me what I'm doing and why am I hurting him. Dumb huh? I'm lost. It has almost become an obsession and it makes me ill just thinking about it. Anyway thanks for the responses and who knows maybe time will help. L