Sagittarius and Gemini female

To all gemini women out there, I need help. I'm a Sagg and I like a Gemini woman so much. She has been talking to me for a little while she even initiated a conversation once but most of the time I message her first which shes also replying. She knows my feelings for her already and shes still continues talk to me. Most of the times she's giving me passive answers or ignoring some of my questions but there are times she's trying to open up and giving out info about her. I tried asking her out but she said she's busy. What can you make of this? Please help! I'm having problems understanding here.

Posted by blackphase
So she is aware you have feelings for her.. But did not say one way or another if she has any feelings back?

What sort of things are you asking her when she plays off that she is busy? Does she talk to you everyday or ignore you for periods? And does she ask you personal questions about yourself to get to know you better?

Yes, she is aware we only talk in our workplace and she's busy alright pretty busy but she responds to me somehow even with just a very short message. Like today she told me she bought a nice pair of earings. She dont really ask me a lot of questions because i give her voluntary information about myself always. She seldomly ask questions and avoid serious ones. I asked her today why she continue talking to me because I want to know her side on that I wanted to know if there's any hint that she likes me too. It was a stupid question she snapped a little and told me what kind of question is that. We talk everyday she entertains some of my question some she ignored. I asked her out but not getting any reply to it yet. I'm going crazy understanding her but im patient just want to understand her more.

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Posted by blackphase
So she is aware you have feelings for her.. But did not say one way or another if she has any feelings back?

What sort of things are you asking her when she plays off that she is busy? Does she talk to you everyday or ignore you for periods? And does she ask you personal questions about yourself to get to know you better?

Yes, she is aware we only talk in our workplace and she's busy alright pretty busy but she responds to me somehow even with just a very short message. Like today she told me she bought a nice pair of earings. She dont really ask me a lot of questions because i give her voluntary information about myself always. She seldomly ask questions and avoid serious ones. I asked her today why she continue talking to me because I want to know her side on that I wanted to know if there's any hint that she likes me too. It was a stupid question she snapped a little and told me what kind of question is that. We talk everyday she entertains some of my question some she ignored. I asked her out but not getting any reply to it yet. I'm going crazy understanding her but im patient just want to understand her more.

I'm sorry to have to break it to you, but I just really do not think she is interested.

I'd ease off talking to her so much, just start to pay less attention to her and see how she reacts. That's really the only way to find out now if she did have any sort of interest at all. But it's also not a surefire way to find out as some females just enjoy the attention and will throw a little fit when they stop getting it regardless who it is, whether they are interested or not. So that can be confusing, comes off as mixed signals, and will entice you to chase again. When in reality she just enjoyed the attention.. So also, this is not great way to really find out unless you are good at reading people.. but I sort of don't think that's your strong suit, haha. I'm sorry 😢

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I agree with blackphase on this.

Given what info you gave, shes not interested.

If you tell me you like me and I don't show the same amount of interest or seem apathetic one way or another, I am not interested.

We are very straight forward...blunt people. You ask a question, we give an answer and it may seem unintentionally hurtful but it will be honest.

I'm sorry mate, I don't think she's interested. If she really liked you she would have given you a straightforward answer instead of beating around the bush. I'm a gemini woman and if someone asked me out and I liked them, I would say yes and not avoid the question. How many times have you asked her out? If it's many times, then I'd back off a tiny bit., she might just want you as a friend.

Posted by GeminiMoni
Given what info you gave, shes not interested.

If you tell me you like me and I don't show the same amount of interest or seem apathetic one way or another, I am not interested.

We are very straight forward...blunt people. You ask a question, we give an answer and it may seem unintentionally hurtful but it will be honest.

Well honestly, she doesn't know what she wants but mentioned she is not looking into changing status yet which is fine with me. Now I think I drained her and she's ignoring me. I'm not really pushing her to be something more than friends but you see Sags are more outgoing and I was expecting her to be more straightforward I asked her a lot of times on what she wants she cannot answer me directly coz if she wanted me out I will give it to her.

Posted by nanobyte
She is trying to be polite by responding to you, but also making it clear that she is not interested in pursuing anything with you.

I love sag's, but they are better left as friends imo.

Is it really normal for Gemini's to be really "polite" even if we are already asking them what they really wanted? I mean she could have just said it straight to my face lets be friends ONLY but she didn't. It seems like to me she's trying to weight things but she cannot decide or I was actually thinking maybe she has a partner or something. I'm always good at my instincts but now I'm being doubting myself. It feels like she's not into me but it feels like she's also giving me something to hold on.

Posted by ElizaB
I'm sorry mate, I don't think she's interested. If she really liked you she would have given you a straightforward answer instead of beating around the bush. I'm a gemini woman and if someone asked me out and I liked them, I would say yes and not avoid the question. How many times have you asked her out? If it's many times, then I'd back off a tiny bit., she might just want you as a friend.

Eliza, that's my problem I'm not really getting a straightforward answer because if she did I would totally respect it. I feel like she's giving me riddles especially in IG she would post things that would somehow do something about me or do something about our past conversations. She doesn't want dramas but how can we know each other if we can't even be true to each other. Now she's drained I know it's because of me but she could have just told me straight away too but she didn't instead ignores me. We were doing ok, until 1 day I didn't message her for 3 days not to make an issue of anything I'm giving her space when I get back she didn't respond to my messages not even saying I'm busy but I feel like she was feeling bad about it I confronted her but instead she said she doesn't want dramas because she's busy. I was like you could have told me so right from the start then we wouldn't be here. I've said things like what are your plans about me?not sure what you're going to do with me yet? I want her to be brutally honest but she can't for some reason. We talk everyday before that, she even was the one who said we should meet but then she changed her mind. I invited her to go to beach so she can relax at first she was like ok maybe next month then I was like next month is not good maybe summer then I realize I blew my chance so I asked her again and got a different response again. I'm not assuming anything but I'm wishing she'll be more open to me.

Posted by ElizaB
I'm sorry mate, I don't think she's interested. If she really liked you she would have given you a straightforward answer instead of beating around the bush. I'm a gemini woman and if someone asked me out and I liked them, I would say yes and not avoid the question. How many times have you asked her out? If it's many times, then I'd back off a tiny bit., she might just want you as a friend.

Eliza, that's my problem I'm not really getting a straightforward answer because if she did I would totally respect it. I feel like she's giving me riddles especially in IG she would post things that would somehow do something about me or do something about our past conversations. She doesn't want dramas but how can we know each other if we can't even be true to each other. Now she's drained I know it's because of me but she could have just told me straight away too but she didn't instead ignores me. We were doing ok, until 1 day I didn't message her for 3 days not to make an issue of anything I'm giving her space when I get back she didn't respond to my messages not even saying I'm busy but I feel like she was feeling bad about it I confronted her but instead she said she doesn't want dramas because she's busy. I was like you could have told me so right from the start then we wouldn't be here. I've said things like what are your plans about me?not sure what you're going to do with me yet? I want her to be brutally honest but she can't for some reason. We talk everyday before that, she even was the one who said we should meet but then she changed her mind. I invited her to go to beach so she can relax at first she was like ok maybe next month then I was like next month is not good maybe summer then I realize I blew my chance so I asked her again and got a different response again. I'm not assuming anything but I'm wishing she'll be more open to me.

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Posted by blackphase
So she is aware you have feelings for her.. But did not say one way or another if she has any feelings back?

What sort of things are you asking her when she plays off that she is busy? Does she talk to you everyday or ignore you for periods? And does she ask you personal questions about yourself to get to know you better?

Yes, she is aware we only talk in our workplace and she's busy alright pretty busy but she responds to me somehow even with just a very short message. Like today she told me she bought a nice pair of earings. She dont really ask me a lot of questions because i give her voluntary information about myself always. She seldomly ask questions and avoid serious ones. I asked her today why she continue talking to me because I want to know her side on that I wanted to know if there's any hint that she likes me too. It was a stupid question she snapped a little and told me what kind of question is that. We talk everyday she entertains some of my question some she ignored. I asked her out but not getting any reply to it yet. I'm going crazy understanding her but im patient just want to understand her more.

I'm sorry to have to break it to you, but I just really do not think she is interested.

I'd ease off talking to her so much, just start to pay less attention to her and see how she reacts. That's really the only way to find out now if she did have any sort of interest at all. But it's also not a surefire way to find out as some females just enjoy the attention and will throw a little fit when they stop getting it regardless who it is, whether they are interested or not. So that can be confusing, comes off as mixed signals, and will entice you to chase again. When in reality she just enjoyed the attention.. So also, this is not great way to really find out unless you are good at reading people.. but I sort of don't think that's your strong suit, haha. I'm sorry 😢

I agree with blackphase on this.

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Yep, I think I agree on you on that too. I'm actually trying to wrap my head on different angles. I wanted to give it up but I really like her and I'm like so confuse myself on what would be the best move. I don't want to push something that she doesn't want. It's just sad because I'm ok with friendship but it seems like she's just having fun.

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Posted by blackphase
So she is aware you have feelings for her.. But did not say one way or another if she has any feelings back?

What sort of things are you asking her when she plays off that she is busy? Does she talk to you everyday or ignore you for periods? And does she ask you personal questions about yourself to get to know you better?

Yes, she is aware we only talk in our workplace and she's busy alright pretty busy but she responds to me somehow even with just a very short message. Like today she told me she bought a nice pair of earings. She dont really ask me a lot of questions because i give her voluntary information about myself always. She seldomly ask questions and avoid serious ones. I asked her today why she continue talking to me because I want to know her side on that I wanted to know if there's any hint that she likes me too. It was a stupid question she snapped a little and told me what kind of question is that. We talk everyday she entertains some of my question some she ignored. I asked her out but not getting any reply to it yet. I'm going crazy understanding her but im patient just want to understand her more.

I'm sorry to have to break it to you, but I just really do not think she is interested.

I'd ease off talking to her so much, just start to pay less attention to her and see how she reacts. That's really the only way to find out now if she did have any sort of interest at all. But it's also not a surefire way to find out as some females just enjoy the attention and will throw a little fit when they stop getting it regardless who it is, whether they are interested or not. So that can be confusing, comes off as mixed signals, and will entice you to chase again. When in reality she just enjoyed the attention.. So also, this is not great way to really find out unless you are good at reading people.. but I sort of don't think that's your strong suit, haha. I'm sorry 😢

I agree with blackphase on this.

Yep, I think I agree on you on that too. I'm actually trying to wrap my head on different angles. I wanted to give it up but I really like her and I'm like so confuse myself on what would be the best move. I don't want to push something that she doesn't want. It's just sad because I'm ok with friendship but it seems like she's just having fun.

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if you dont want to be confuse just straight up ask her then. i am sure she will let you know where she stands. then you can go from there.

"I'm not really pushing her to be something more than friends"



LOL. You shouldn't push anyone to be your friend either. It's either happen naturally or it doesn't.

You seem to have done enough to attract her attention and she's not having it. Learn to read the signals and next time you will be successful with another girl.

Ummmm.... zhee, I honestly don't know what to say. All I can really say is that it takes a very long time for me to open up to someone it took me about 3 years for me to tell my best friend about my life problems and everything else. I guess it's just because I don't want to down the mood and burden my friend with my problems. But I guess that's essentially what's happening to the girl your talking about.I'm sorry to say this but, if she's getting distant with you I would just leave her alone. However, I wouldn't use the words what are your plans with me? As one thing I know is that this would make me feel a bit weird as it makes me think that you have plans, if I were you I would just ask her to be your girlfriend don't ask about plans. This is just my opinion, I don't know what other gemini women are like but this is how I feel.