Taurus/Gemini

I'm kind of dating a Gemini at the moment. When I say kind of, I mean we both see other people, but because we work with each we see each other every day, which makes it a bit more complicated! As you can my imagine, my taurus hang-ups mean I'm kind of wondering when to bring up the topic of being exclusive, cos it bugs me thinking about him with other girls, even though I don't find it a problem to see other men 🙂 I don't want to scare him off because he really fascinates me and I love being with him, so I don't know whether to just leave it and see how things go or initiate 'the' conversation and risk ruining everything. Any Gemini opinions would be really helpful. He has his moon in Sag, venus in cancer and ascendant in virgo, and I have moon in gemini, venus in taurus and ascendant in sag.

I kinda know how you feel. I dated a Gemini guy, Ascendent was Aries and Moon In Leo--woah, he was tough to figure out. Like you, I worried about him being with other gurls, but he told me that I was the ONLY gurl that was in his life. Out relationship ended because of a decision I'VE made. I just couldn't take it anymore---being with someone who didn't want an exclusive relationship(thank goodness I didn't sleep with him). My Taurean ways wouldn't let me, not matter how much I was attracted to him. I also think that I was a bit controlling (rising sign: Capricorn), but I have a Moon in Gemini, so I am a LITTLE 'out there' and can carry a conversation--which is weird, because he was VERY QUIET. I couldn't stand that!!! It was very hard for me emotionally to get close to him because he wouldn't tell me anything (relationship-wise). He sure was affectionate though...............
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Sorry. Kinda rambled on there.
BTW, I'm new here.

I kinda know how you feel. I dated a Gemini guy, Ascendent was Aries and Moon In Leo--woah, he was tough to figure out. Like you, I worried about him being with other gurls, but he told me that I was the ONLY gurl that was in his life. Out relationship ended because of a decision I'VE made. I just couldn't take it anymore---being with someone who didn't want an exclusive relationship(thank goodness I didn't sleep with him). My Taurean ways wouldn't let me, no matter how much I was attracted to him. I also think that I was a bit controlling (rising sign: Capricorn), but I have a Moon in Gemini, so I am a LITTLE 'out there' and can carry a conversation--which is weird, because he was VERY QUIET. I couldn't stand that!!! It was very hard for me emotionally to get close to him because he wouldn't tell me anything (relationship-wise). He sure was affectionate though...............
*sighs*
Sorry. Kinda rambled on there.
BTW, I'm new here.

Sorry, sorry, sorry! I didn't know it posted twice!!!

Are you sure you don't want to move it to a commitment due to only the other girls(or in otherwords jealousy)?Cause it'd only be fair for you to stop seeing other dudes if he was to stop seeing other people too.

I kind of would like to commit to him, but last time I brought it up he said he couldn't stay faithful. I appreciated his honesty, so I decided to get out there and date other men too. We went out the other night and he started psycho-analysing my motives for bothering with him, and decided I only wanted him cos I can't have him. Well thank you Dr Freud!! I act pretty cool with him cos I don't see the point of being all over him if he doesn't want commitment. Not sure if this is the best approach really. So moon in Sag is pretty bad then?! He is very flirty but this doesn't bother me cos I am the same, it's just frustrating to know I can't have him all to myself. And obviously if I did then I wouldn't see other people, that wouldn't be a problem.

I think she said her moons a cap/sag moon cusp,you'd have to ask her.All I have is sag venus for a "love" planet,I gots a taurus moon,scorp sun and leo mars so the commitment thing is what I prefer so can't really relate to him really except for I don't like to be forced or played "games" with when it comes to commitment.It has to happen naturally and completely honest otherwise i'd have issues knowing whether I really cared about this person or if it was just the "game" they were playing so not good.I also tend to not like baggage that I had nothing to do with so don't like past stuff taken out on me when I didn't do anything.Uncomplicated to an extent but still likes traditional relationships over flinges I guess you could say.Maybe also because im female too though.:/

Oh yeah,I could give you some things from just having the sag venus I guess.Okay,my charts say that I like someone who loves life-it's true to an extent but not as bad as it sounds,basically for me it means they can't have baggage and will come to me because they want to not because they "need" to be in a relationship or anything dependancy related(low self esteem,no back bone,etc.)Unessecary possesiveness and jealousy is a bad thing because it says that this person doesn't trust me and may end up cheating themselves due to thier insecurities,so no baggage in short or at least they have to be willing to let the baggage die when they know they can trust me.If I came home with a condom sticking to the back of my shirt THEN that person can worry otherwise it's just like shut up cause if im going to get accused of doing stuff im not I may as well do it so I am taking the "punishment(which is exactly what it is)" for something I did do.Call it spite I guess in that way lol.

Ha ha!! Like the way you think Tiamat!! I'm just playing it cool with him, cos that always makes him come running back! Plus he sends me emails saying how nice I look at work, but don't think he realises the IT people screen all emails! Haven't had the heart to tell him, too much fun!! That's pretty cruel, but I can't help it! He must bring out that nice side of me! I'll keep you posted on what exactly happens GeminiLover, am actually thinking of asking him out for a change, but not sure if that will spoil the chase for him! Always thinking of others, that's me!!

This is my first time in the Gemini post, but I sympathize with you, copperhead. Please excuse me while I burst your bubble...

I have a dangerous attraction to Geminis, as I've read is the case with most Taureans. They are absolutely delicious, but only at arm's length. If/when you're able to lasso him in, you will learn how unfit he is for a relationship. Gemini men cannot and will not stop flirting. They love women, but not as much as they love flirting. Sure, he may write riveting poetry for you, or send you extremely kinky e-mails at work, or whisper sweet nothings in your ear when you do have his attention... but that's him at his best. If you hook him, he will begin to sour. Trust me. I was with a Gemini man for 2.5 years - he was my first love, and the heartbreak I endured through my attempts to hang onto him proved to be the most painful period in my life.

I tried what you're doing, I played his games and it always worked. He couldn't watch me getting attention from other men, it drove him crazy. So he would come onto me more forcefully, and I would stop playing games when I thought I'd won. Haha... big mistake. As soon as I started to settle, he'd go back to his flirting , ten fold. It would only get worse.

You're making a mistake if you think that his flirting means he cares about you. It means nothing more than that he finds you interesting to banter with. If you want to continue what little you have with him, you should not approach him about becoming exclusive... wait for him to it. He probably never will, but at least that way you'll save yourself a lot of heartache. If he does want you exclusively, he'll tell you. It would be better that way. You should continue to flirt with other men and keep this gemini guy at a safe distance.

Thanks TaurusRules, I think you're totally right!! I have been keeping him at a safe distance and will keep him there!! And I know you're right about approaching him about exclusivity, so I'm not going to bother, will just enjoy this liasion while it lasts!! I'm not too bothered about the flirting cos I love to flirt, it's a great pasttime and it doesn't seem to bother him either!

I don't know this guys being honest that he doesn't want commitment so yeah,i'd agree that it's not likely to happen but yeah,not all gems fall into that catagory still though.My boss has a wandering eye and is a flirt but he wouldn't cheat and is married with a daughter,he knows the difference between love and lust so not an issue for his wife.He still doesn't like "clingy" though,if I had to guess what her sign is by personality(obviously I don't know what it is)i'd have to say a quieter gem or aquarius.