When Geminis Hurt...

Posted by Joanie675
Here's the thing. I noticed that Gems are rarely classified as the underdog because nothing seems to faze us. But we do get hurt and although we bounce back pretty quickly, that doesn't negate the fact that we have been hurt and that it also cuts us deep.

I guess I'm just ranting at how other signs seem to monopolize the hurt implying that because of how resilient we are, we could never possibly imagine the pain that they've gone through. It's like they trivialize whatever it is that's broken our heart just because we don't tend to wear our hearts on our sleeves.

I know that there are two sides of us and those who are non-Gemini will rarely understand this. They can choose to embrace it but unless they're there, they will never understand it fully. There's the light and bubbly and sociable side to us and then, there's the dark and lonely place that we often choose to experience alone mostly because most people seem to like the other side of us more. They (others) don't see it very often but it exists.

In fact -- and this is just a theory -- Gems might have more cumulative hurt, if you come to think of it because unlike other signs, despite being hurt, we will have the courage to get back in the ring and try again. Just because we're brave enough to do that doesn't mean we didn't hurt tremendously though.

Posted by Ccdarling

Posted by Joanie675
Here's the thing. I noticed that Gems are rarely classified as the underdog because nothing seems to faze us. But we do get hurt and although we bounce back pretty quickly, that doesn't negate the fact that we have been hurt and that it also cuts us deep.

I guess I'm just ranting at how other signs seem to monopolize the hurt implying that because of how resilient we are, we could never possibly imagine the pain that they've gone through. It's like they trivialize whatever it is that's broken our heart just because we don't tend to wear our hearts on our sleeves.

I know that there are two sides of us and those who are non-Gemini will rarely understand this. They can choose to embrace it but unless they're there, they will never understand it fully. There's the light and bubbly and sociable side to us and then, there's the dark and lonely place that we often choose to experience alone mostly because most people seem to like the other side of us more. They (others) don't see it very often but it exists.

In fact -- and this is just a theory -- Gems might have more cumulative hurt, if you come to think of it because unlike other signs, despite being hurt, we will have the courage to get back in the ring and try again. Just because we're brave enough to do that doesn't mean we didn't hurt tremendously though.

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You are exactly right. We do feel emotional pain just like everyone else, we just have a totally different way of dealing with it. Which is never understood by others, but we Gems always understand each other. Probably why so many Gems marry other Gems. We can be in pain and still feel the need to make others laugh and have a good time. Our dark and lonely place never allows anyone else in, not even to get a glimpse of our pain and anguish. It is our secret and we never tell others or show them that it exists. Most people will lay in bed or pout, but we somehow find a way to pull ourselves together and go on about our business as if nothing ever happened, maybe this is why so many Gems are great Actors and Actresses it is an everyday thing for us to put on a rose colored mirage for everyone else, even if we are really dying inside. Which is why they find us cold and heartless. However for us, the world is going on around us and we feel like

Posted by Ccdarling

You are exactly right. We do feel emotional pain just like everyone else, we just have a totally different way of dealing with it. Which is never understood by others, but we Gems always understand each other. Probably why so many Gems marry other Gems.

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That's one reason why I am super glad I found this forum.

Yeah, I've read other posts saying that Gems are good with Gems so... maybe I should give up that Virgo who is in perpetual emotional denial and just go look for a Gem, LOL.

Actually, one of my best guy friends is a Gem. I know he loves me and I love him too but we're too much like an old couple for there to be anything romantic (at least on my part). I need to smell testosterone on him and I don't. Gaws, I wish I did. Life would be so much simpler if we ended up together.

Posted by gemtaur
Laughing at our own pain; crying for another's. That's the way we roll.

Posted by mr.crabby
When Geminis Hurt...

Mr.Crabby is happy. 🙂

Posted by leilaxxlovez
Wow...U gys r awesom3. I had a gem frnd,who went thru a break up. Al i wantd ws 2 b there 4 her. Bt she kept on brushing it off. And she would go on smiling lyk nothing hapend. I didnt undrstand her at all! To me,it ws lyk she didnt get hurt. Bt the one thing she didnt undrstand is that i wsnt gna luk at her in a weird way if she cried. Im her frnd. And i wantd 2 b ther 4 her. Cz she had bn ther 4 me. Bt nw i get it. Thanx yallz

Posted by Joanie675

Posted by leilaxxlovez
Wow...U gys r awesom3. I had a gem frnd,who went thru a break up. Al i wantd ws 2 b there 4 her. Bt she kept on brushing it off. And she would go on smiling lyk nothing hapend. I didnt undrstand her at all! To me,it ws lyk she didnt get hurt. Bt the one thing she didnt undrstand is that i wsnt gna luk at her in a weird way if she cried. Im her frnd. And i wantd 2 b ther 4 her. Cz she had bn ther 4 me. Bt nw i get it. Thanx yallz

Awww.... you are sweet. =) You know, even if your friend kept brushing off your fussing over her, I'm pretty sure that she appreciated it a lot. Most of the time, when we're in this place, someone noticing that we are helps a lot. It makes us come out of this cave faster. Although we may prefer finding our balance by ourselves (as opposed to someone holding our hands while we do it), your presence and moral support keeps us going. You're an awesome friend. Just wanted to tell you that.

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Posted by gemtaur
Sweetie, SPELL

otherwise i can't answer if you've got Qs bc it's too frustrating to read 🙂

Posted by leilaxxlovez
Wow...U gys r awesom3. I had a gem frnd,who went thru a break up. Al i wantd ws 2 b there 4 her. Bt she kept on brushing it off. And she would go on smiling lyk nothing hapend. I didnt undrstand her at all! To me,it ws lyk she didnt get hurt. Bt the one thing she didnt undrstand is that i wsnt gna luk at her in a weird way if she cried. Im her frnd. And i wantd 2 b ther 4 her. Cz she had bn ther 4 me. Bt nw i get it. Thanx yallz