Help me get over aqua ex of get him back :(

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I dated my Aquarius ex for about 5 months. We both fell fast and fell hard. We ended up moving in an apartment together because of some circumstances .. We bought brand new furniture. Had a housewarming party ... He would talk about marriage and kids with me and about being the one for each other. I initiated the final breakup between us after being sick of the bickering and the stupid lies he'd tell. He agreed with it but then I changed my mind and wanted to work on things and within a week he said his feelings had changed. It's almost been two months since the breakup which was intense and pretty ugly since we had also gotten a car for him that was in my name because he had bad credit which obv I didn't want to leave him with and have to worry about him paying it every month if we weren't going to be together anymore. I've had no contact with him for the last three weeks now which was when i took the car back and it wasnt good ... and I miss him like crazy and can't stop thinking about him. I want to reach out but I don't want to be rejected. But like I said, it's been almost two months and I can't imagine being with anyone else. I thought we were meant to be and could work through everything. I know he's gotten with other girls since then and I'm not sure if he's just hanging out or seeing someone but I haven't and I'm having so much trouble moving on :-/ I wasn't used in the relationship either, the feelings were def mutual, I just think it ended rough because we both had a lot on our plates thrown at us all at once ...
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Aw sweetie....there is not magic potion or spell you can cast on him. What I would suggest you do is read this article:

http://ezinearticles.com/?Ignore-Him-And-Use-The-No-Contact-Rule-To-Get-Him-Back---Great-Tips-To-Bring-Your-Ex-Running-Back&id=5099397

If something or someone is meant to be, you must let them go in order for it to be revealed. Going no contact and disappearing from him 100% is the only way to know.

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Hoplessinlove
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Posted by BigGirlPanties
Aw sweetie....there is not magic potion or spell you can cast on him. What I would suggest you do is read this article:

http://ezinearticles.com/?Ignore-Him-And-Use-The-No-Contact-Rule-To-Get-Him-Back---Great-Tips-To-Bring-Your-Ex-Running-Back&id=5099397

If something or someone is meant to be, you must let them go in order for it to be revealed. Going no contact and disappearing from him 100% is the only way to know.




Thank you 😢 I'm trying hard. Just hoping every day to hear from him and so sad when I don't
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Hoplessinlove
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Posted by tiziani
Easy come, easy go.

You fall that hard for each other, and you fall out of it just as fact.

I think no contact is good advice when your emotions are too strong. However "a few months" isn't really a long time to get to know one another at all. What was missing was friendship. All that material stuff and the sweet nothing promises, they have no foundation to settle upon. Even a shared house crumbles when built on weak foundations.

So maybe in due time you will want to talk to him and get to know him, and hopefully him the same in return. You can fall in love with someone without really knowing them. And talking through your feelings with that one other person and sharing, vice-versa is actually a healthy thing and is advisable.

Because take it from me, if you break up with a man (a strong man) he's not going to white knight for you and try and win you back. Square pegs don't go into round holes and no man should reward rejection by saying "please, can I have some more?" That doesn't make any sense, if he wants a long healthy life. He's obviously mentally stronger than that.

So when you're ready and feel your emotions and in check, maybe pick up the phone and just talk? Only when you're ready.

That's my advice. I totally understand with your emotions being as strong as they are right now, why No Contact is the best thing.




Thank you for your response ! We actually did have an amazing friendship as well. He was my best friend and I was his. That's what hurts the most!
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Posted by WoundedLeo
You're still quite young. I am quite sure that you will find that bond with another. Nevertheless, I *KNOW* how much it hurts to lose a friend who was really dear and special. It's like a hole in your heart.




Yes, it def is. It just breaks me every single day for the last two months. It significantly effects my mood and my motivation. I feel so lost and empty without him. And that is far from my typical behavior and personality.