Leo has disappeared

Hi leos,

Since we met each other Leo has been showing alot of interest while it was I who wanted to hold back and take things slow. Our conversations have been veeeery good and we've enjoyed each other's company. The puzzling thing is that last week we went out for a day in the country--we were together all day and he took great care of me, he was very attentive and sweet. At the end of the day he leaned in for a kiss which i took as a positive sign. The next day no contact. I waited for him to initiate because i didnt want to be all clingy. I am unsure if he took that to mean that i was not interested or he felt somewhat rejected but later in the night he messaged me and i didnt see the message til an hour later to which i promptly responded. He replied 4 hrs later and i could tell something was wrong because he blew me off saying he was tired and was going to bed. Strange because usually even if he's dead tired he would still talk to me. The next day--nothing. The following day i messaged him saying moorning honey to which he responded and then after which started becoming cold. I asked him upfront why he was being different with me and if something was off just tell me. The NEXT day he responds saying he;s sorry he's bn having a hard time and proceeded to act like everything was fine. so i asked about what happened and he said i didnt even ask what was wrong because obviously something was wrong and that all i was thinking about was myself. So when i did ask he said let's leave that alone babe and i told him that i feel like caling this a night because i cannot open myself up to someone who's being secretive from the get go. He said he's ok it's cool call it a night it i want it's cool. I said ok, and i asked him if he lost interest why he wouldn't just tell me. He asked to talk about it tomoroow and i said i didnt know because i was hurt. he responded that he was hurt too. That was 3 days ago. He has not said a word to me. this morning i messaged him asking if he was ok--no response.


Leos, what would make you behave this way? Should I take it that he's gone for good— We've only met 2 weeks ago so it's pretty strange that he disappeared so soon.

Hi Samia no not at all I don't mind that you commented. I'm very happy I need all the advice i can get! I remember you asking in another post what sign I am---I'm a gemini--well a taurus -gemini cusp to be exact and this leo is supposedly a leo-virgo cusp--birthdate aug 23 although some say Aug 23 is Leo. In any case he probably has mostly Leo characteristics. ^_^

Ok soo, I feel that you are right in the respect that he probably feels rejected and badly wants my attention and affection. However the stubborn part of me refuses to blindly pour it on without at least having a conversation with him first. I have tried, albeit with my gemini self it probably appears aloof to him especially if he's emotionally invested. My point is that I am not one to throw myself into the deep end this quickly. I am all for it and when I am with you I can be the most attentive and I tend to make you feel like the center of the world. However I am disappointed in Leo man because I really think he is overdoing it. In response to my message this morning HOURS later he finally responds saying he'll call me soon. It has been over 2 and a half hours. Now one may argue again that he's feeling neglected because I simply responded with a non commital "kk". But in view of the coldness he's dishing out to me is it a wonder that I am not warming up to him? I have resigned the fact that he'll call me tonight and at the moment I'm just so over it. (That's not to say tomorrow won't be a different story ^_^) But seriously, what in heaven's name?? I am not going to chase him! And with me it's cut and dry--it's been hell for me the past few days and i don't take it lightly to be ignored. So for me I'm on my way out. As much as I'll speculate about him feeling neglected or wanting attention will I ever truly know because I get the feeling that he will never lower his proud mane to tell me that I hurt him by not showing him attention.

I just cannot get it though---doesn't he think this is ruining his chances?? and that i'll think the worst--that he's moved on and his feelings have changed— What does he think that he made a lasting connection enough to secure me--when in reality it's only been 2 weeks! Forgive my caustic mood--I'm just really not believing this!

Ahh Samia Samia, you give me such hope! ^_^ I kneeew that my off handed "kk" would have made him irritated---although still speculating here! but i suppose that's his reason for not calling. He's also younger than me and he told me he likes to be "babied" I guess that means the whole being attentive and fawning all over him. Which is not a problem--provided you've earned it!!! He has not even thought of having a decent conversation with me since he disappeared a week ago. I have to give it to you water signs--you surely know how to lower your pride and pour on the love non stop. I'm a mix between earth and air and although we can be romantics, the earth part tends to be slow moving and you have to earn it while the air part doesnt want to be weighted down so soon will all this display of emotion and attention! I still have him in my mind, but as for contacting him I think I'm leaving him alone. As a man, he should do the chasing. Does he know how many times for the day I think about his cute self and look at his picture! But I will not be romantic to thin air..when he can be present in my life then he will get the adoration. But he's expecting me to come find him and chase I will not. I must admit though, my manner and air is often quite aloof but if you look close enough you'll see how affected I truly am. Swallowing my pride is certainly a must, but it is so painful when i have already been rejected by him. I suppose he thinks my advances have not been grand enough. which leads me to believe that he's moved on, or just not interested anymore. You don't think so?

Wow, you guys certainly moved fast. I would have been a little suspicious. I can't help but wonder though if I do go to him that it won't be seen as needy? Distancing himself on purpose is so true but if he really liked me, how is it so easy to impose this distance? As much as I appear aloof, I would never be able to bear a separation especially one of my own doing. Whatever makes u feel so positive about this situation that he hasn't given up yet? It's been a week, I know if i haven't had contact with a person i preseumably like for that long--i knoooow it's over.

Thanks Samia for all you advice. The Leo did not call me that night. For the sake of showing him that I was interested in hearing from him, i messaged him saying I really wanted to hear from you tonight but I don't know what's up with the say you'll call and not acting on it, night night. well no response to that neither has he called and that was 3 days ago. So i'm taking this at face value and for whatever reason he's not longer interested in pursuing me. I feel like he really did like me and my theories based on what's he's told me and from what i've seen is that he probably got scared and retreated. If that's the case, then I know pursuing anything with him would be pointless.

Samia, does you leo's past loves or gfs ever become an issue? I was thinking the other day that while Leo and i were talking he did mention her a couple times--just to say that he's not attracted to her anymore but loves her as a friend and then he'll mention bits and pieces about her--not anything big but it occurred to me that he may be hurting over what she did to him and/or is scared to get into another relationship because of that.

Hi Samia, I hid the messages about our locations and dates of birth because of privacy issues. I thought you had seen them sorry! In any event, I have let this Leo go. I did happen to see him by chance a couple days ago and I didn't approach him and he didn't seem as if he was going to approach me either, but well circumstances got the better of him and I figure he thought it would be impolite not to say anything to me. So he comes over to where I'm sitting and gives me a hug and then proceeds to launch into a spiel about how sorry he was, but he's been going through alot and he just lost it and it's not that he didn't want to talk but as he told me before he has trust issues, that he's been stressed he even had to go see his psychologist for advice and to talk things through. Then we were interrupted because he was actually supposed to be working when he came over to me. I was very pleasant in fact I couldn't believe how cool I was, very fun and flirty. But my thing is this: if we hadn't seen each other by chance he never would have called or contacted me. Also, the signs seem to point in the direction of him losing interest for some reason or the other because not ONCE did he try to message me during the whole time, AND after seeing me he hasn't tried either. So I'll take it for what it is and move on. I still love Leos! 🙂

Thanks Samia! Best of luck to you as well. I'm actually excited at the prospect of meeting another Leo! Even though this one may not have worked out for a number of intervening factors, I still do have a tiny soft spot for him just because of his Leonine personality ^_^