Leo Man Left Me Abruptly! What Should I do now?

Met a Leo guy several months ago and he expressed interest in dating me. After that, he never called. We kept seeing each other weekly at bar however and he explained he only dates one girl at a time. I kept it moving but whenever he saw me he would express interest. I became increasingly more distant because I wasn't sure if I could believe him or not and wasn't sure if he was just a player (he's extremely handsome). Last month we bumped in to each other and we started dating. Things were blissfully amazing, he asked me to be exclusive, left a toothbrush at my house, had me speak to his dad on his birthday. On Valentine's day I went over to his house in lingerie to find him in a horrible mood (which I'd never seen before). I was shocked (it was also my first time at his place) and a few cocktails in. It didnt take long before I felt completely uncomfortable, nervous and embarrassed. The night rapidly deteriorated in to a horrible mess. The next morning my Leo had completely checked out. We spoke about the night and despite him seeming to understand all of the factors at play he never seemed more distant. He told me he just "needed to think" and sent me on my way with a hug and several kisses, apologizing for his mood and telling me that I looked beautiful the night before, etc. After letting it all cool for 24 hours (and beating myself up for my behavior) I sent him a very sincere apology, explaining that I was terribly sorry for my unacceptable behavior and had gotten worked up over Vday, also that had I not been so in my own head I would have been more sensitive to his mood and been there to listen to him and asked him to let me make it up to him. 5 hours later he responded, "i think you're a great woman, and i hope we can remain friends, it's just the space i'm in." I haven't heard from him since and I haven't reached out. I was shocked and hurt that he could about face so quickly. Now I don't know what to do or how to feel. I thought we were sharing something really special, but now I don't trust my feelings. Not sure if he was just playing game to get in to my pants or if I just really hurt his pride/ego and scared him.

Will I hear from him again, and if so, does it even matter? Is it worthwhile to pursue?

Is it worthwhile to pursue? - No

Did he know you were going to come over to his house on Valentines day or did you turn up as a surprise (which is a nice thing to do in a committed relationship btw)

He knew I was coming over, it was his idea. The lingerie was a surprise.

Thanks Seraph. Funny you mentioned it, but I even said to him one day, how many more tests should I expect from you? Because I was feeling that he was doing so. Hurts only that I didn't think after the amount of intimate time and conversation shared he would about-face so quickly. But I clearly failed that test.

I'm moving forward just sucks to make a mistake and that's all it takes for someone to flip it completely. I thought he was different, but I think he for sure bit off more than he could chew.

yeah, seraph speaks true unfortunately. it feels like shit to be on the receiving end for sure.

what i don't get is what you actually did that you felt the need to apologise sincerely for cos that part of your post i found a little disappointing. from what you described you did nothing wrong. i remember a similar situation occuring with an aries ex but i about-faced and left on sight of the mood...you turn up in lingerie and he says NOTHING—? that's pretty indefensable imo, lol!

i'm not sure this is all astrological anyway. a lot of guys want to establish you as their girlfriend after a couple of dates...like marking their territory, which is bullshit.

Well I apologized for acting like a spoiled brat and throwing a tantrum, which is just behavior I don't want to display. I wasn't apologizing for my sincere intentions.

I definitely regret accepting the "exclusive" offer. I was just completely caught up in his charm.

yeah, i wanted details of the trantrum...what kinda things were you saying at him, etc....

it's just that i think there may contain a CLUE in this information?

Um to be honest I don't remember it all. But from his recap, I was just being emo, saying that I liked him and that he felt distant--I don't know. That part of it sucks, cause I don't know exactly what I said. We had a very rational discussion about it in the morning. It wasn't like I threw something at him or anything. I can only go on what he told me and from what I remember I mostly just wanted to go home. I'd be more prone to think it was super bad, but based on the convo we had that morning I was just sensitive and embarrassed. Not that this justifies it, but no man I know or have every told the story too was even remotely moved. I even told my ex who has seen my tantrum at it's worse and even he was like, no way does he stop talking to you.

i dunno though. you've only been dating a month and you throw a tantrum basically about how he feels about you? it doesn't really matter about the delivery, it would scare the bejeezus out of me and i'm not a guy! also, perhaps he found it a little undignified that you were obviously very drunk to have forgotten what you said?

there was obviously something that happened that was a red flag to him.

I agree completely. Drunken tantrums aren't cool, hence my apology. And agree probably scary and whatevs, whatevs. Also just never seen a guy react that way ever.

but have you ever thrown a drunken tantrum so early on with another guy before now?

i think it's pretty safe to say you blew it sweetie 😢

Interesting how men and women react to this story. EVERY SINGLE MAN echoes Seraph and every woman echoes you. I'm going with the men on this one, drunk in lingerie should be a win. Understandable though highly unattractive tantrum sucks, but shouldn't be a deal breaker. Also, the guys keep pointing out, he was in a bad mood when I got there. There's something to that. Either way, ce la vie. I messed up for sure, but his bailing is equally messed up to me.

agreed....it will save you grief in the long run.

if you choose to believe the men btw, look at how seraph says it's 'usually not a bad thing'....but we're talking about a guy you've been dating one month and on the commercialised love day of the year, you do the drunken lingerie thing which i just think may have been a little 'out there'. it was the first time at his house too. i dunno. i'm just trying to answer your OP really.

The drunken lingerie thing was fine.. it was the Libran clingyness that wasn't! He musta been like wtf! She moving way too fast wanting to extract emotions from me... And well you were drunk, I'm sure you weren't thinking about a strategy and just went all gears ahead... Now that must have been uncomfortable for him :/