SERIOUS need of advice from a leo man!!!! confused

sooo basically i found this leo guy at the gym super attractive...i added him on facebook and we hit it off chatting etc and exchanged numbers...became relatively close in that we spoke for hours via phone and whatsapp.

We went out about a week after chatting like thursday (quick dinner) friday(jus met for a few mins cuz he wanted to see me) saturday (invited him to a bday party at my friends house) and sunday(to the movies). One of the nights we had a hot and heavy make out session. He kissed me as well on sunday. I see him at the gym almost everyday and he asks me if i am coming all the time to the gym. So two weeks into chatting he asks me to wake him up every moring so he gets up in time for work. SO we have been talking every morning as well. now over the past week the calls at night stopped but he whatsapps sometimes if i msg or he msgs n we wud chat for hours.

So basically he tells me he has gotten close to me and doesnt want to lose me as friend etc n he is very close to me and cares about me etc. and then proceeds in the same breath to say there is a girl that likes him and he kinda likes her too....and he doesnt want us lose the closeness we have....what do i do? what does this mean? And i mean there is alot of sexual tension between us....help

oh also we've gone out every weekend so far and had really steamy make out sessions and its usually alot of fun hanging out together.....so im a tad bit confused or rather jus dunno wth to think

I am not a Leo Male but I have many years of experience with them. I was married to one for 14 years, main sign that comes at me are Leo Sun or Leo Moons and my current boyfriend (god I hate that word) is a Leo. In my experience, if a Leo man is really into you....there are NO AND IFs or BUTs about it. You will know.

Now at first I was going to say the falling of communication may just be a busy life...but than the bomb...he has an interest in another woman. It sounds like he is making you second choice. I agree with JAL in all his questions.

Now coming from a Leo woman, how I would handle that situation: Go decide what you want to do with other woman and leave me alone. I deserve the one person who will want just me and all of me...nothing more. Keep it moving.

I'm not a Leo man, or even a man or even a Leo. I do have little bit experience with a Leo man if that counts for anything.

I am confused, what exactly are you confused about? Are you confused about what you should do? Or are you confused about what this Leo guy really wants from you?

Because if it's the first that is up to you to decide. Like JustALeo said you need ask yourself what you would comfortable with in this situation and in the long run.

If it's the second, your Leo guy said it himself, he's interested in some other girl. He isn't considering about dating you and he probably never will consider dating you. If he wanted to date you, you would have already been dating. All the fun you have together, all the sexy makeouts, all the long conversations you have on whatsapp don't mean there's anything more to it.

Lol, seraph. Do you have a problem with people being in denial?

im not confused abt what i shud do but more confused abt what it is he really wants....like he msgs me all the time almost all day we talk abt alot of things personal etc....he n i idk if u wud call it dating but he takes me out alot....like in the past few weeks we have gotten to know eachother...so like its a bunch of mixed signals....in the beginnning he said he doesnt wnt a rel (honestly i dont eother i got out of long rel abt 4 mths ago) but this dude is confusing the hell out of me with his mixed signals...he jus said he cares for me more than a friend but loves the friendship we have and doesnt want us to lose the closeness we developed in the past few weeks....like really...what the actual eff....grrrr

oh and additionally he takes it to heart if my responses are sort of short with him and he constantly asks if im ok or if im busy or if i dont wanna talk at all...n he always seems to show concern if there is something goin on in my life like he wud call me stupid pet names and talk n talk for hours so idk if im nuts but isnt that like really mixed signals as to mr leo not knowing what he wants?

Okay, I'll admit those sound like some mixed signals you're getting from him there.

But you two are not dating. Sure you might be doing the same things people do when they're dating but if nobody said you're dating you're not dating.

When he said he doesn't want a relationship, it's possibly he also meant he's not looking for a relationship right now with anybody, but what he DEFINITELY meant was that he doesn't want a relationship with you.

And you're still ignoring what he explicitly told you. That he likes this other girl. Would somebody who cared about you more than a friend tell you that?

From what I got about Leos is that they usually know what they want and they have a pretty good idea what kind of girl they want to date. And from the sound of your story you're not that girl. You might be the girl who he maybe cares about (I can't judge about that), who he finds fun to hang around with, who he would definitely have sex with, but not the one he'd date.

I am saying this as somebody who wasn't that girl for "my" Leo either.

Also I think it might be worth noting that you were the one who added him on facebook, so you were the one who made the first move and this guy just decided to play along. Maybe if you waited for him to make the first move he'd still be just this attractive guy from the gym.

Sorry Sagibaby2012, it sounds like you arr hoping and trying to make more out of this "relationship" then he wants or willing to give. He has stated several times he wants to be "friends." That is where it is going to be and going to stay. Trying to justify this action and that action is showing what you are trying to make a dollar out of a penny. Find somebody who is wanting to reciprocate what you give out.

Posted by seraph
Next time you play the old Super Mario, go to World 3-1 and turn into Super Mario. At the stairs before the end flag, you'll see two turtles coming down. Jump over the first one and jump on to the second one. It should hit the star and bounce back. Keep jumping on it to keep yourself up. As long as you don't hit the ground, each consecutive bounce will unlock a 1-up.

You'll essentially get near-unlimited 1-ups with barely any effort at all on your part. Any easy ride without ever having to really give anything back.

This is essentially what he's doing.

You're the second turtle.

I think I laughed at this harder than I probably should of.

makes sense...thanks guys for all the advice 🙂...on to the next!

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Posted by seraph
Next time you play the old Super Mario, go to World 3-1 and turn into Super Mario. At the stairs before the end flag, you'll see two turtles coming down. Jump over the first one and jump on to the second one. It should hit the star and bounce back. Keep jumping on it to keep yourself up. As long as you don't hit the ground, each consecutive bounce will unlock a 1-up.

You'll essentially get near-unlimited 1-ups with barely any effort at all on your part. Any easy ride without ever having to really give anything back.

This is essentially what he's doing.

You're the second turtle.

I think I laughed at this harder than I probably should of.

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Lol! It's so cute! This made the image in my head 10x better. You sir, are amazing.

Aw that sounded like a great story until the very end! Leo men are extremely prideful and into themselves they think they can get any woman they want (which they can). All the Leo men I have every known unless they are in love have many women at once. It's like they can't settle for one, or if they do have one, they CHEAT. I have been with a Leo for almost three years and I haven't had these issues thank goodness! But when we first met it was kind of like your instance, texting, meeting up, making out all the cute fun stuff you do before you get committed to one another!

But if he throws the friend word around with you I would run far away. He is basically filling you up with a bunch of bullshit so when he's done with this one he can fall back to you. Pathetic. They think they can manipulate anyone they want. Don't play his little games. Say wow I am happy for you I hope everything works out with you guys. End the friendship, ignore him and move on. Go do your thing he clearly isn't ready to commit. Trust me it does not mean there is no sexual tension, run far away from this guy. He is trouble. When a Leo man wants you he will get you, and clearly he wants this other braud. Good luck girl, stay strong xx

OMG- this same thing happened to me recently regarding a Leo sending mixed signals and then dropping the bomb of liking another etc.

Wish him well and either say goodbye or remain friends, but do not have your heart set on a relationship. Even if he did choose you now or have you as an option, would you really want him? Would you really want to be an option versus a priority? Get someone who values and respects you and who is willing to commit to you. Could you get over the damage of the betrayal and rejection in a sense you might be feeling now? If it was not her, then it would have been someone else; unfortunately it was not you.

Both of you right now are feeding his ego and he is lapping it up like a bowl of cream. Put him on a diet for you deserve to be first choice; not some secondary after thought. He may also be wanting the attention of you being jealous- that is what I partly experienced. Don't be! Move on and cut the heart strings (of course after a good cry, bucket of ice cream, and a stiff cognac)

If you remain friends, you have to be truly comfortable enough without it damaging your confidence and self-esteem if he talks about her- only you can decide that but it will not work if you have any feelings other than friendship.

Ask yourself:

Do I really like this person (and believe I know this person)?
Do I like myself with this person?
Do I like the relationship we have (even if only friendship)?