Confused!! libra men please help!

Hey guys! am new here and any help is appreciated! My sun sign is Scorpio(10th nov,1989)

Overview

I became friends with this Libra guy(1st oct,1987) last year. He is my senior in college and we became friends by chance. In the beginning we were really good friends. Not so close though but we talked daily. less than 2 weeks go by and he says he wants to be more than friends and that he loves me. I thought it was too fickle of him to say it so soon besides he has had lots of gfs(obviously). So I didn't wanna rush into anything and said no and also I was in a relationship with someone else. But we continued to remain friends and occasionally he kept saying he loves me which I never took seriously.

9 months after we became friends and when the 'other guy' had to go for a job outside I decided to give me and the Libra guy a chance. I told him I would like us to get together to which he agreed. At first I wasn't comfy with the idea of 'romancing' him since we were already in the 'friend zone' and I acknowledged it for names sake. less than 2 months later we get close enough and finally kiss, which I have to say was the best so far. But after the 3rd kiss everything changed. He became completely distant. And I had just begun to be crazy about him and he literally drove me crazy with his weird behavior!

At first I asked him lots why he is behaving like this and he said since it was his last semester, he was sad about college getting over and it was exam time etc..and later again when I got no satisfactory replies I had to go to astrology for some answers and thats when I realized I might have made a big mistake by getting involved with a Libra man! I tried breaking up with him saying it isn't working out but even though he didn't really persuade me he said things that made me think i will give it one more go. I have been doing that many times now.

As a Libra man I understand why he is the way he is but its testing my patience beyond limits. I didn't even know I could compromise this much. In the last 6 months that we have been dating we have gone out only 5-6 times!

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Present

Right now I feel like I have a "long distance relation" with him even though he lives one hour away from me. His college is over and he has nothing much to do at least till results are out but still manages to keep himself busy! I was hoping we would meet for xmas vacations but even now he isn't taking me out. I have asked him several times to meet but he has some excuses or the other to give. Last time we met was 2weeks back when he took me and my friends for lunch. The whole of November he was sick. Fractured leg. and I had my exams before that it was his exams. Either Something or the other comes up or else he ruins it. Yet I keep doing things to make him happy! I dont know if he realizes that us not being together like this is a big deal. How can the relationship move forward then? He does talk about meeting but he never does anything about it!

Problem

What I don't understand is why he is doing this..I have asked him lots. Sometimes he replies he is not in a good mood but for the last 5 months how can someone be going through so many 'phases'!? Also I feel we have talking issues; while am able to talk freely with all my other friends when it comes to him I hesitate a lot to open up to him. He never tells me about his day or fears or his dreams.. I keep updating to him like a "facebook status" but not always. Am posting this here as a last resort for some solution. I have been really patient with him because I really do like him. He makes me happy in some odd way and does care about me in his own ways but I guess being a "Libra" comes in between us!!! But I don't know if I wanna carry this baggage for the next year! Should I break up for real? I feel sad thinking about it but I have to be practical too.

I would be really grateful to you guys if you would give me any insights on this. I have to make a decision soon. Its kinda now or Never! I dont think I have been into astrology this much ever!!!
Any query is welcome. Please do respond.

Ok I do agree I loved the kiss... but the 1st 2 times i kissed him!!! and the 3rd one was on his own... the problem was I backed out the 3rd time.. it just wasn't the right place... I realized later on it was a mistake..Though he didn't say anything.. but this is tooo much now!! I dont understand whats going on between us. and I was distant in the beginning for a reason!! I need someone who shows his love not just tell me he loves me! I have kept him happy as much as I can. I just want him to open up. How can I do that? when I confront him he changes the topic which is expected and am not sure if I should persist in case he 'flares' up! Whenever I think of breaking up with him I just feel bad that last 6 months was a waste of everything! we have had our good times.. and I dont wanna give up on him.. (I think he influences me a lot as am becoming indecisive myself!) and thanks for your reply KOL.

ugh. don't listen to that shit about sexing it up.

libras tend to move fast. you didn't let him.

there's a ton of stories on here about libra guys and scorpio ladies. the scorpios play all these games, then wonder why the libra is confusing them so much. well, sweetie, he's confusing you because you toyed with his emotions, and now it's too late. things could get better, but it'll only be temporary. and they'll never be really good.

but do what you want. you scorps always do whatever you want. when you make things even worse, you'll be back to complain to us about him confusing you by not responding to your games the way you wanted him to.

Ya I know there's a lot of hype with libra/scorpio match... I have read quiet a few myself! I wish it wasn't about that you know... why cant it be just a girl liking a guy and working things out.. I agree at the end it will be my decision because I wanna be responsible for my actions... am just upset that the guy who said he loves me lots is the one treating me like this despite knowing that I was never someone who was easy with commitments and still took the step with him.. I have never toyed with his emotions..From the time I was involved with him I have always been truthful 'cause I honestly didn't expect us to last more than few weeks at the most and so didn't wanna hide anything that was related to us nor have I been good with 'games'. I do wish you would understand my point of view and not just as a 'Scorpio'. Thanks CV.

But that happened 5months back! We have moved on to so much more after that. I agree nothing physical. But we talk everyday. Except when am angry with him. And that doesn't last long anyways. I really hate not knowing what he is thinking. Why can't he just tell me what he wants? Is it so difficult? It takes 2 to make a relationship work. if he was never serious about me then why say he luvs me? Even now he says it. Tats never stopped. I mean if the guy I loved finally comes to me I wud do everything to make it work and not depreciate his value!? Or is the chase that only matters? is there any possible happy ending to this? Or time to break the illusion? Thank-you For replying Qlm.

Posted by mins10
why cant it be just a girl liking a guy and working things out..

I get it that you don't want it to be just comments on Scorpio/Libra but you can't ignore it either. Ultimately it is just a guy and a girl and you will either work it out or you won't. The Scorpio/Libra thing comes into play when you want to understand the other persona bit better.


To the topic... Libras generally move very quick. This was shown with him saying he loves you very quickly. That also shows immaturity to have said it that quickly, but whatever. After that you said it had been six months and you only went out 5-6 times... he's not that into you.

When a Libra is interested, we'll MAKE time for you. Once a month? I talk to people I don't like more than that.

A happy ending is always possible (in my hopeless romantic mind anyway) but I don't see it as likely here.

He's early 20s, he doesn't know what he wants yet. Even if he was interested and chasing you before he backed off now which means something changed. We don't like rejection so if you made him uncomfortable he could back off becasue of that. Maybe he just came on strong until you caved in, then he got bored. It's bad but I hear we have a reputation for that.

Gawd! Then he Could have stopped eveything with me when I said its not working out. What's with "better be in a relation than in no relation at all"? I mean doesn't he at least value our friendship that he can't be honest with me? I thought librans liked those who loved them, who appreciated them and made them feel happy. In a way I will be relieved when this is over 'cause he drains all my happiness in keeping him happy. I just hope like you librans are, justice will be given. I appreciate all your replies.

omg! I never tested him! It honestly wasn't the right place! I just didn't let it go on for long! Am not some manipulative conniving Scorpio.. at least not yet. All I have ever wanted was a Little appreciation from him.. I don't understand why you guys think I toyed with his emotions... Isn't it possible that he has been toying with mine? These kinda things should be sorted between partners but he is so difficult to comprehend! Anyways thanks.

yes..moving on is inevitable. Am looking forward to it.. Just wanna make sure its the right decision made at the right time.

Posted by mins10
Gawd! Then he Could have stopped eveything with me when I said its not working out. What's with "better be in a relation than in no relation at all"? I mean doesn't he at least value our friendship that he can't be honest with me? I thought librans liked those who loved them, who appreciated them and made them feel happy. In a way I will be relieved when this is over 'cause he drains all my happiness in keeping him happy. I just hope like you librans are, justice will be given. I appreciate all your replies.

mins10,

It's time to move on.. the Scale is about balance.. pretty much no common sense involved as long as two things (input/output) balanced out, then it settles.. that's why you don't always find justice here.. the fixed Air - Aqua perhaps can give you more justice..

I would suggest you to seek your own Water signs or Earth for more stability.. As we all know, Air doesn't have a fixed form thus they are pretty much unpredictable at times and best leave them with other Air/Fire signs.. Well overall you still need to look at the full chart to see how Air is that particular person..

2cent

hades

yea.. indeed. I give up. Any tips on a clean "break up"?

yay! its good to hear that from a Libra.. I just get this awful feeling every time I think of breaking up with him. I didn't have it initially. Like its not right. maybe am over reacting.. n blah blah. Am in a situation where neither can I ignore him, not for long anyways nor talk to him the way I want to. I wouldn't say it if I wasn't sure about it, but I do feel a connection between us. That was there from the beginning.. Whatever is the problem between us I feel it comes from him. He wants me and yet does nothing about it. He has really taken me for granted! When I don't talk to him he gets angry, If I go out with my friends or with other guys he gets angry yet he cant take me out himself?! I have had it. I cannot let him spoil this year. Last 4 months went by.. In-fact it was only the month of November that was a relief for me. Thanks everyone for your comments. Take care!