danny9320
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Gemini and Libra
With absolute silence!
Posted by ShrewdsharpSo no more texts? I just wonder, do Libras tend to behave this way? Ditching the old for the new with no explanation at all? And down the road do they ever think about the damage they have done and come back? Just curious. Not that I would take him in, because to me once I'm done, I'm done for good. I was hoping to at least stay friends but I guess thats not gonna work. We Geminis give chances but they have limited expiration.
With absolute silence!
Posted by Rozaeon
Sometimes this kind of things happened whith some Libras because they don't know how to " end things " so they'll wait until they find someone else and then poof they vanish.
It happened when the other person has better things to offer, i hate to say those things but it's the truth for some Libras unfortunately
Thank you, all input appreciated. ^^
Well needless to say, I am extremely extremely disappointed by how the events turned out. I am not mad at him at all, because I would have done the same, but at least I would have the decency to give an explanation. But to treat me like I don't even exist it's just on another level.
I have seen this situation happened before to my friends who date Libra males though. Libra women, fortunately, do not seem to have this trait.
I guess he would just give me the silence if I keep sending him messages? So I should totally ignore him and move on? I do hope down the road he reflected on this, and we for sure will be meeting again soon though when I visit the city (we have tons of mutual friends but we did not disclose our relationship to anyone so I think inevitably we will bump into each other at some parties)
Posted by Astrology101Thank you. Yeah I have already made up my mind to let things/him go. Already block the other guy's instagram so I don't develop the habit of checking their whereabouts LOL (which I tend to do with my ex and it's not good for your mind, at all). I sure work/life would keep me busy and before I know it I will forget about this. I'm just disappointed by his sudden change that's all. No hard feelings whatsoever.
Yeah best to move on. Even if you send him a message.. at this point he will only try to be nice and end it fast.
The distance could have been a reason but Libras tend to be indecisive so....
I think you should move on without skipping a beat. That's the best way to really make a person fume.
You sending messages will only feed his ego.
Take whatever you had as a learning experience and find someone geographically closer to you, as well.
But, in case I bump into him, what should I do? In about 2-3 months time I will be back to the city for work/travel. SF is a small city and we have like a lot of mutual friends so I think it's quite inevitable that we cross paths. And I don't want to look like I'm purposefully hide away from him (and I guess I should have moved on by that point. I move on quite fast when treated dirty). Should I all smiley and all or should I pretend like I don't know him?
Thanks for the advice. Was doing fine the past 2 days. And now he's back with a simple "Hello?". A part of me wants to stay silent and the other part just wants to let it all out LOL. And I can't believe after I asked if he was seeing someone his response is "Hello?"
Posted by Astrology101He's back with a simple "Hello?" after my serious question. Guess the long weekend is over and they are back to the city LOL Shall I just keep silent?Posted by danny9320That is a tricky situation. I think if at that moment he decides to speak with you you can tell him that you were disappointed with what happened and that you no longer want to keep any contact with him.Posted by Astrology101Thank you. Yeah I have already made up my mind to let things/him go. Already block the other guy's instagram so I don't develop the habit of checking their whereabouts LOL (which I tend to do with my ex and it's not good for your mind, at all). I sure work/life would keep me busy and before I know it I will forget about this. I'm just disappointed by his sudden change that's all. No hard feelings whatsoever.
Yeah best to move on. Even if you send him a message.. at this point he will only try to be nice and end it fast.
The distance could have been a reason but Libras tend to be indecisive so....
I think you should move on without skipping a beat. That's the best way to really make a person fume.
You sending messages will only feed his ego.
Take whatever you had as a learning experience and find someone geographically closer to you, as well.
But, in case I bump into him, what should I do? In about 2-3 months time I will be back to the city for work/travel. SF is a small city and we have like a lot of mutual friends so I think it's quite inevitable that we cross paths. And I don't want to look like I'm purposefully hide away from him (and I guess I should have moved on by that point. I move on quite fast when treated dirty). Should I all smiley and all or should I pretend like I don't know him?
I think that would be fair.
Depends on him as well. If he chooses to avoid you... you should avoid him as well. But if in any case he tries to talk i think you should tell him you have no intention of talking with him.click to expand
Posted by RozaeonYeah I was like "You gotta be kidding me" LOLPosted by danny9320Are you serious ?! " Hello ? " ... Hahaha i'm sorry i couldn't help but laugh, it's unbelievable. It's like nothing happened
Thanks for the advice. Was doing fine the past 2 days. And now he's back with a simple "Hello?". A part of me wants to stay silent and the other part just wants to let it all out LOL. And I can't believe after I asked if he was seeing someone his response is "Hello?"
What do you want to do ? Will you let all out or just ignore him for now ?click to expand
Had he texted me earlier I would have unleashed it all on him for replying with such stupid text. But now that I have had some time to cool off (as a Gemini I rage quickly but cool down just as fast haha) I think I would just keep silent for now. Nothing is gonna change the facts that 1) He's dating someone else, 2) He treated me quite disrespectfully (which I have really low tolerance for) so even if he apologizes I will still not be able to treat him as a normal friend. I think that the more I let myself dwell in this and get involved with him the more emotionally drained I will be, and I don't like that. Life seems fine to me for the past days when I didn't have to think about this matter as much. So I will sit still until his next move. And if there is no next move then I guess this relationship isn't worth saving 😄
Posted by Astrology101Thank you Astrology101. That is what I intended to do for now. But what if he comes back with more stupid texts and acts like he hasn't totally ignored me for the past 4 weeks, and as if nothing had happened?Posted by danny9320I would say yes... but if you feel the need to talk.. do soPosted by Astrology101He's back with a simple "Hello?" after my serious question. Guess the long weekend is over and they are back to the city LOL Shall I just keep silent?Posted by danny9320That is a tricky situation. I think if at that moment he decides to speak with you you can tell him that you were disappointed with what happened and that you no longer want to keep any contact with him.Posted by Astrology101Thank you. Yeah I have already made up my mind to let things/him go. Already block the other guy's instagram so I don't develop the habit of checking their whereabouts LOL (which I tend to do with my ex and it's not good for your mind, at all). I sure work/life would keep me busy and before I know it I will forget about this. I'm just disappointed by his sudden change that's all. No hard feelings whatsoever.
Yeah best to move on. Even if you send him a message.. at this point he will only try to be nice and end it fast.
The distance could have been a reason but Libras tend to be indecisive so....
I think you should move on without skipping a beat. That's the best way to really make a person fume.
You sending messages will only feed his ego.
Take whatever you had as a learning experience and find someone geographically closer to you, as well.
But, in case I bump into him, what should I do? In about 2-3 months time I will be back to the city for work/travel. SF is a small city and we have like a lot of mutual friends so I think it's quite inevitable that we cross paths. And I don't want to look like I'm purposefully hide away from him (and I guess I should have moved on by that point. I move on quite fast when treated dirty). Should I all smiley and all or should I pretend like I don't know him?
I think that would be fair.
Depends on him as well. If he chooses to avoid you... you should avoid him as well. But if in any case he tries to talk i think you should tell him you have no intention of talking with him.click to expand
Posted by bittercupcakeYeah thanks I no longer intended to do that essay thing haha it was because I was fuming to the point I want him to know how disappointed I am. But to me that's no longer necessary because, like you said, it's not gonna change anything or improve the situation better. Avoiding the questions seems to be one of his unpleasant trait that I have observed while we were communicating.
Just let it go... writing an essay will only sound dramatic AF and only encourage his decision to move on... he's already ghosted you and disappeared faster than Houdini...so what's the point?
I get that you wish to seek closure but I think the proof is pretty concrete... if you need to write out your feelings like many Gemini suns/moons...then do so but don't expect for him to reply. Many don't because they are cowards and would rather disappear.
And to add - air signs have a tendencies to disappear just as they came... just like the wind that passes by and you can't get a grasp on... these are the hardest to overcome because they had no solidity and many have that instinctive urge to 'pin them down'... but you can never pin air down. You as a Gemini - should know this... he maybe mentally mature but that doesn't mean he's emotionally mature or even aware of his behavior - like a lot of air signs... I had to become self-aware to realize that I had a tendency to do this as well and because of my detached behavior I didn't see this as anything wrong...I figured that it was 'clear enough'.... but part of emotional maturity (and personal evolution) is about empathizing with others and understanding that not everyone copes the same way you do. Many air signs although 'mature' are not evolved... same can go for any other sign
And your descriptions of the air signs are so spot on. I don't know about Libras but I am also guilty of this in several occasions. But the thing that frustrated me is that he came back as if nothing happen. Like sending me a "Hello?" after my serious confrontation? If I disappear then I will never go back, at least not this quick and not in such an absurd way. And if he keeps sending me texts pretending like he did nothing wrong or nothing ever happened then God knows haha But I'm staying quiet for now.
Posted by Astrology101Haha that's kinda cruel. But the joke is on me. He got me first. Forgot to silent the phone when I went to sleep and 2 texts came in at 4:30AM saying "Hello? Who is this? How come I don't recognize this phone number?"Posted by danny9320Ask him who dis.. new phone?Posted by Astrology101Thank you Astrology101. That is what I intended to do for now. But what if he comes back with more stupid texts and acts like he hasn't totally ignored me for the past 4 weeks, and as if nothing had happened?Posted by danny9320I would say yes... but if you feel the need to talk.. do soPosted by Astrology101He's back with a simple "Hello?" after my serious question. Guess the long weekend is over and they are back to the city LOL Shall I just keep silent?Posted by danny9320That is a tricky situation. I think if at that moment he decides to speak with you you can tell him that you were disappointed with what happened and that you no longer want to keep any contact with him.Posted by Astrology101Thank you. Yeah I have already made up my mind to let things/him go. Already block the other guy's instagram so I don't develop the habit of checking their whereabouts LOL (which I tend to do with my ex and it's not good for your mind, at all). I sure work/life would keep me busy and before I know it I will forget about this. I'm just disappointed by his sudden change that's all. No hard feelings whatsoever.
Yeah best to move on. Even if you send him a message.. at this point he will only try to be nice and end it fast.
The distance could have been a reason but Libras tend to be indecisive so....
I think you should move on without skipping a beat. That's the best way to really make a person fume.
You sending messages will only feed his ego.
Take whatever you had as a learning experience and find someone geographically closer to you, as well.
But, in case I bump into him, what should I do? In about 2-3 months time I will be back to the city for work/travel. SF is a small city and we have like a lot of mutual friends so I think it's quite inevitable that we cross paths. And I don't want to look like I'm purposefully hide away from him (and I guess I should have moved on by that point. I move on quite fast when treated dirty). Should I all smiley and all or should I pretend like I don't know him?
I think that would be fair.
Depends on him as well. If he chooses to avoid you... you should avoid him as well. But if in any case he tries to talk i think you should tell him you have no intention of talking with him.click to expand
I'm dead .... LOL can't with this
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